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Originally Posted by Cherie

its just ridiculous, because you cant decide to be male or female you are what you are born, if you want to decide down the line that is not for you fair enough, but parents telling their children they are neither male or female is a bit mad ...?

I agree with that. Although, I also think too many parents go to far the other way in terms of expecting gender conformity and that's actually part of the - for want of a better word - confusion.

If people keep insisting "Boys are x/y/z and girls are a/b/c" then inevitably when you have a boy that likes and does "girl stuff" or a girl that likes and does "boy stuff" (be that activities, fashion or anything else) then it inevitably causes a mess when, of course, some boys and girls don't like "the right things" -- and then, perhaps, start to believe that if they "like that stuff" and "like that look" then they MUST "be that gender"... because that's what the world has told them repeatedly. When it is in fact just all random established social norms that mean nothing about sex or gender, other than when people insist on conformity.