[Urban Cragou]

Originally Posted by Kate!

People misunderstanding Zizu.

The issue I have with Zizu cuts across many corners and he knows he doesn’t help himself by the way he cuts in deliberately to express confusion with basic subtext, and he has some questionable views in-general that have nothing to do with his autism. He’s just not someone I gel with, and he knows that. He just chooses to persistently ignore that boundary, acting like it’s on everyone-else to accommodate deliberate behaviour and dodgy opinions just-because his condition affects him in certain ways.

I respect you, Kate, but I can’t apologise for not liking him. We just don’t gel, and not all of that is because of the way his ASD affects him. He’s not totally innocent in it all and I have to be firm on that. The way his neurodivergence affects him explains some things but not everything, because we’re all fundamentally people before our neurotype or preferred ways of communicating. Constantly forcing himself into conversations that have nothing to do with him and pretending not to understand basic sub-text as far as I’m concerned might as well be deliberate in his case, because he knows I have boundaries with him. He just ignores them, and that’s deliberate. It’s being wilfully provocative and expecting immunity from some basic accountability just-because he’s neurodivergent (which practically half the planet seems to be at this point). Naturally, I don’t want to lose friends over this but as far as Zizu’s concerned I just can’t be nice about this anymore.

Weaponising ambiguity to maintain a foothold in conversations that clearly don’t involve him, gaslighting people, objectifying women, ignoring boundaries over and over again, thinking he’s entitled to preferential communication-treatment tailored just for him, that’s … that’s manipulative, entitled, misogynistic. Not just quirky neurodivergence. I just think he’s a really toxic drain on this forum. WrongPlanet’s a better place for him, but even they would have to draw the line at misogyny, which Zizu is very-much guilty of, consistently. I really don’t think he’s as harmless or innocent as he makes out. Socially clueless, maybe not purposefully there per-se, but still toxic. Forcing himself into narratives that he knows he doesn’t have the wiring to understand, planting the spirit of confusion for no reason. If he has to be hounded a bit to get some sense into him and challenge his toxic mindset, it’s just something I’m going to step up to and get involved in. Like I said, I value our friendship more but the one thing I can’t do is just sit on the gut-instinct I have about this guy. I don’t think he’s a good person. At-all.

[Zizu]

Originally Posted by Redway

The issue I have with Zizu cuts across many corners and he knows he doesn’t help himself by the way he cuts in deliberately to express confusion with basic subtext, and he has some questionable views in-general that have nothing to do with his autism. He’s just not someone I gel with, and he knows that. He just chooses to ignore that boundary. I respect you, Kate, but I can’t apologise for not liking him. We just don’t gel, and not all of that is because of the way his ASD affects him. He’s not totally innocent in it all. I have to be firm on that.

It’s all good

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[Holly Christmas]

Originally Posted by Redway

The issue I have with Zizu cuts across many corners and he knows he doesn’t help himself by the way he cuts in deliberately to express confusion with basic subtext, and he has some questionable views in-general that have nothing to do with his autism. He’s just not someone I gel with, and he knows that. He just chooses to persistently ignore that boundary, acting like it’s on everyone-else to accommodate deliberate behaviour and dodgy opinions just-because his condition affects him in certain ways.

I respect you, Kate, but I can’t apologise for not liking him. We just don’t gel, and not all of that is because of the way his ASD affects him. He’s not totally innocent in it all and I have to be firm on that. The way his neurodivergence affects him explains some things but not everything, because we’re all fundamentally people before our neurotype or preferred ways of communicating. Constantly forcing himself into conversations that have nothing to do with him and pretending not to understand basic sub-text as far as I’m concerned might as well be deliberate in his case, because he knows I have boundaries with him. He just ignores them, and that’s deliberate. It’s being wilfully provocative and expecting immunity from some basic accountability just-because he’s neurodivergent (which practically half the planet seems to be at this point). Naturally, I don’t want to lose friends over this but as far as Zizu’s concerned I just can’t be nice about this anymore.

No that's fine love. You know I have a lot of time for you, you're a really good friend on here to me. Truly. I just don't think Zizu does it purposefully. I get it can be frustrating I do. It must be frustrating for Zizu too. Xx