[Maru]

Originally Posted by Redway

You know I have a lot of time for you, Ammi, genuinely, butI personally have to draw the line at correlating female sports-commentators with a man’s suicide. I’d hardly call that empathetic, kind and considered.

He might have a background of care but then he can also just be … Zizu. He might know things about mental health and I might have a shade of neuroticism that in some circumstances you could see even parallels him, albeit at opposite ends (like Maru was pointing out and trying to psychoanalyse), but as far as I’m concerned he’s just toxic. We all have our value and his value is definitely better-known to the people who know him personally, I’d never downplay that, but I just can’t with Zizu. I hear what you’re saying, I hear what Maru’s saying (even if I have to reject some of the psychoanalysis, because I’m not instinctively driven by anxiety in the way that she thinks), but we’re never gonna be mates, me and him.

I wouldn't have connected anxious behavior directly to either of you as far as TiBB is concerned (anyway)... but it's easy to get the tiniest bit of it mixed into communications with the way conversations like this are setup with society... that's why I said I don't really mind any oversharing that's being mentioned because I think it is easy to misinterpret where anyone is coming from, because it's sifting through more difficult things to get a point across. You both are keen to analyze things, which I see as a good? Like I would not worry to this extent how either of you are being perceived... you both bring valuable commentary to the forum and in the end, that's the point I was trying to make...

[Redway]

Originally Posted by Maru

I wouldn't have connected anxious behavior directly to either of you as far as TiBB is concerned (anyway)... but it's easy to get the tiniest bit of it mixed into communications with the way conversations like this are setup with society... that's why I said I don't really mind any oversharing that's being mentioned because I think it is easy to misinterpret where anyone is coming from, because it's sifting through more difficult things to get a point across. You both are keen to analyze things, which I see as a good? Like I would not worry to this extent how either of you are being perceived... you both bring valuable commentary to the forum and in the end, that's the point I was trying to make...

I wouldn’t even call it oversharing, though, Maru. I give a lot of voice to my daily irritations which I don’t give voice to in the offline world, so that thread is like a cathartic release, but I’m still fundamentally very reserved when it comes to getting into anything personal, and that applies to me as I am offline as well as on here (and on other forums). I reveal a few bits and bobs here-and-there but none of it deeply telling of what’s truly personal. I get what you’re saying about a vein of neuroticism and, again, that’s another thing I wouldn’t dare get into on the open, because that’s not one of the things I’m comfortable delving into except on a one-to-one basis with people I’ve personally vetted out and trust enough, but yeah. I know this forum has people who like to assume over-familiarity with various strangers (that’s not aimed at you at-all, btw) but we all draw the veil somewhere, and my bar’s inherently low, because I’m just naturally someone who sits on way more than I ever reveal, even anonymously online. That irks people who like to assume over-familiarity and project onto you for reasons that probably have nothing to actually do with you as you truly are (again, not talking about you), but I’m always eager to draw that boundary.

So, yeah. I have to disagree with you a little on the oversharing bit. What I air on that thread is small enough for me to be relatively casually explicit about. It’s more release (a little tongue-in-cheek here-and-there, building on my rep. for being a complainer) than reveal. The big-fry, the truly personal? That’s tucked away more than I ever give flashes of them on here (and only then when it’s apt and fits the context). It’s all me, but a version of me curated for different spaces. No bluff, but no getting truly personal with most people, either. Only the people who have more access to that side of me, and there aren’t many of them on this forum, who I’d share those things with. Like I say, it’s curated. Selective.

[Kate!]

Originally Posted by Redway

I wouldn’t even call it oversharing, though, Maru. I give a lot of voice to my daily irritations which I don’t give voice to in the offline world, so that thread is like a cathartic release, but I’m still fundamentally very reserved when it comes to getting into anything personal, and that applies to me as I am offline as well as on here (and on other forums). I reveal a few bits and bobs here-and-there but none of it deeply telling of what’s truly personal. I get what you’re saying about a vein of neuroticism and, again, that’s another thing I wouldn’t dare get into on the open, because that’s not one of the things I’m comfortable delving into except on a one-to-one basis with people I’ve personally vetted out and trust enough, but yeah. I know this forum has people who like to assume over-familiarity with various strangers (that’s not aimed at you at-all, btw) but we all draw the veil somewhere, and my bar’s inherently low, because I’m just naturally someone who sits on way more than I ever reveal, even anonymously online. That irks people who like to assume over-familiarity and project onto you for reasons that probably have nothing to actually do with you as you truly are (again, not talking about you), but I’m always eager to draw that boundary.

So, yeah. I have to disagree with you a little on the oversharing bit. What I air on that thread is small enough for me to be relatively casually explicit about. It’s more release (a little tongue-in-cheek here-and-there, building on my rep. for being a complainer) than reveal. The big-fry, the truly personal? That’s tucked away more than I ever give flashes of them on here (and only then when it’s apt and fits the context). It’s all me, but a version of me curated for different spaces. No bluff, but no getting truly personal with most people, either. Only the people who have more access to that side of me, and there aren’t many of them on this forum, who I’d share those things with. Like I say, it’s curated. Selective.

What a great post. Thanks for that insight.

[Ammi]

Originally Posted by Redway

You know I have a lot of time for you, Ammi, genuinely, butI personally have to draw the line at correlating female sports-commentators with a man’s suicide. I’d hardly call that empathetic, kind and considered.

He might have a background of care but then he can also just be … Zizu. He might know things about mental health and I might have a shade of neuroticism that in some circumstances you could see even parallels him, albeit at opposite ends (like Maru was pointing out and trying to psychoanalyse), but as far as I’m concerned he’s just toxic. We all have our value and his value is definitely better-known to the people who know him personally, I’d never downplay that, but I just can’t with Zizu. I hear what you’re saying, I hear what Maru’s saying (even if I have to reject some of the psychoanalysis, because I’m not instinctively driven by anxiety in the way that she thinks), but we’re never gonna be mates, me and him.

…Redway, I wasn’t suggesting that you were both alike or that a ‘mate situation’ could happen…just that you both have showed an awareness and consideration for mental health and well-being in regards to the impact of hurtful language etc …especially on the internet and with those we don’t know…it can’t feel or be healthy for either of you and ignoring is an option that would feel like the better way for you both…I’ve seen it mentioned but not really so much applied…anyway, I leave you both to continue with whatever this is ….

[Beso]

Originally Posted by Swan

Fcuk me i didn't even make the cut, neither did Slim. We'll just be Big Brother and set you all tasks and stuff then

Late entry, like the ever popular john tickle.

[thesheriff443]

Originally Posted by Ammi

…Redway, I wasn’t suggesting that you were both alike or that a ‘mate situation’ could happen…just that you both have showed an awareness and consideration for mental health and well-being in regards to the impact of hurtful language etc …especially on the internet and with those we don’t know…it can’t feel or be healthy for either of you and ignoring is an option that would feel like the better way for you both…I’ve seen it mentioned but not really so much applied…anyway, I leave you both to continue with whatever this is ….

Great post ammi

[Livia]

It would be fun to see all of us in the Big Brother House. I'd be interested to see if people's real life personas face to face were in any way the same as they are on here.

[Redway]

Originally Posted by Kate!

What a great post. Thanks for that insight.

Thanks, Kate. And you know you’re one of those people who’ve got my trust. I got you, as much as I can.

[Mystic Mock]

Originally Posted by Livia

It would be fun to see all of us in the Big Brother House. I'd be interested to see if people's real life personas face to face were in any way the same as they are on here.

I think that I would be mostly the same as I am on here.

My irritable sides to my personality would probably be more pronounced on BB though.

[Livia]

Originally Posted by Mystic Mock

I think that I would be mostly the same as I am on here.

My irritable sides to my personality would probably be more pronounced on BB though.

I like to think I would be pretty much the same too. We could find a quiet corner and be irritable together because if I was forced into the BB house, I would definitely be irritable...

[Maru]

Originally Posted by Redway

So, yeah. I have to disagree with you a little on the oversharing bit. What I air on that thread is small enough for me to be relatively casually explicit about. It’s more release (a little tongue-in-cheek here-and-there, building on my rep. for being a complainer) than reveal. The big-fry, the truly personal? That’s tucked away more than I ever give flashes of them on here (and only then when it’s apt and fits the context). It’s all me, but a version of me curated for different spaces. No bluff, but no getting truly personal with most people, either. Only the people who have more access to that side of me, and there aren’t many of them on this forum, who I’d share those things with. Like I say, it’s curated. Selective.

This is why I said "any" (it's discussing the topic of oversharing, not you in particular in this case). Whether it is or isn't (wgaf), I don't think it's such a big deal anyway even if it were. It's no more bothersome than the emotional journals that get written around HMs, our dear politicians and other non-celebrities. I would say a sizable portion of the active member base take to airing their grievances (personal or not) or gripes on the regular as an entertaining side hobby (Harry & Meghan threads, every single time)... and it's not so much a negative for me, because I come to Tibb to get my daily grievance studies... it's literally the chef's kiss of this place...

[Redway]

Originally Posted by Maru

This is why I said "any" (it's discussing the topic of oversharing, not you in particular in this case). Whether it is or isn't (wgaf), I don't think it's such a big deal anyway even if it were. It's no more bothersome than the emotional journals that get written around HMs, our dear politicians and other non-celebrities. I would say a sizable portion of the active member base take to airing their grievances (personal or not) or gripes on the regular as an entertaining side hobby (Harry & Meghan threads, every single time)... and it's not so much a negative for me, because I come to Tibb to get my daily grievance studies... it's literally the chef's kiss of this place...

That’s something I can resonate with. It is a bit of an entertaining side-hobby. That’s part of the point. They’re not imagined slights but they’re not that deep at the end of the day.

[Mystic Mock]

Originally Posted by Livia

I like to think I would be pretty much the same too. We could find a quiet corner and be irritable together because if I was forced into the BB house, I would definitely be irritable...

Well at least I would have a partner in crime then.

[Redway]

Originally Posted by Mystic Mock

Well at least I would have a partner in crime then.

Who would you want to tag alongside you when you’re on the pull, trying to move to some of the women in the house?

[Mystic Mock]

Originally Posted by Redway

Who would you want to tag alongside you when you’re on the pull, trying to move to some of the women in the house?

I don't think I would ever want to showmance on Big Brother tbh.

But if I were to try, then it would probably be either Joey, yourself Redway, LT, Arista, Parmnion, or Nicky91 as my wingman.

Or I could try an unusual strategy and have one of the women that I'm friends with on here be my wingman, because it could make the whole situation be a lot more relaxed.

[Kate!]

Originally Posted by Mystic Mock

I don't think I would ever want to showmance on Big Brother tbh.

But if I were to try, then it would probably be either Joey, yourself Redway, LT, Arista, Parmnion, or Nicky91 as my wingman.

Or I could try an unusual strategy and have one of the women that I'm friends with on here be my wingman, because it could make the whole situation be a lot more relaxed.

Oooh very strategic Mock.

[Redway]

Originally Posted by Mystic Mock

I don't think I would ever want to showmance on Big Brother tbh.

But if I were to try, then it would probably be either Joey, yourself Redway, LT, Arista, Parmnion, or Nicky91 as my wingman.

Or I could try an unusual strategy and have one of the women that I'm friends with on here be my wingman, because it could make the whole situation be a lot more relaxed.

Hmm. Why me?

[Mystic Mock]

Originally Posted by Redway

Hmm. Why me?

Well I do see you as one of my friends on here.

Plus I don't think that you would be as uncomfortable with the scenario, like I think that some of the other guys that I'm thinking of on here would be.

[Mystic Mock]

Originally Posted by Kate!

Oooh very strategic Mock.

It is BB afterall.

[Redway]

Originally Posted by Mystic Mock

Well I do see you as one of my friends on here.

Plus I don't think that you would be as uncomfortable with the scenario, like I think that some of the other guys that I'm thinking of on here would be.

Listen, right-back atcha, my guy.

I’d always tread with caution (I’m just that sort of person) but yeah. I reckon we’d make a good team in some respects. For-sure.

[Glenn.]

Yeah if we were in the house, people would switch off

[AnnieK]

I have cleaned and reopened this.

However if there is any more arguing or dragging grievances from other threads, I will delete it again.

As you were....

[Kate!]

Originally Posted by AnnieK

I have cleaned and reopened this.

However if there is any more arguing or dragging grievances from other threads, I will delete it again.

As you were....

Thank you. But please don't delete again as I'm not a part of the arguing Annie.

[Beso]

Originally Posted by Mystic Mock

Well at least I would have a partner in crime then.

Mario and Lisa, dunking biscuits.

[Beso]

Originally Posted by Mystic Mock

I don't think I would ever want to showmance on Big Brother tbh.

But if I were to try, then it would probably be either Joey, yourself Redway, LT, Arista, Parmnion, or Nicky91 as my wingman.

Or I could try an unusual strategy and have one of the women that I'm friends with on here be my wingman, because it could make the whole situation be a lot more relaxed.

I would pump you for 100g.