[Mystic Mock]

Originally Posted by Redway

Remember what I said about trusting your own worth and sense of self more than what people who barely know you think. Sometimes people miscategorise the person they’ve randomly decided to have a problem with so much that it’s like they’re confusing you with a completely different person, whether it’s on forums or in the face-to-face world. And sometimes they actually have got you mixed up with someone-else. Either way, that’s more about them and the biased, skewed filters their perception of you is coming through than it is about anything to do with you as you truly are. Misdirected, confused projection.

On a more general level I do hear what you’re saying about trusting. Especially if you’re someone who’s quite reserved, you might-well feel more at home with the people who already know you than exerting energy trying to know someone well enough to know if you can trust them (sometimes you can intuit it from their aura, but even that can be misleading) and whether they’re safe to let in. Sometimes people who are well-known to you do the dirty on you after years and years of friendship and erode the trust. Someone who was initially trustworthy might end up doing you really dirty.

Do you operate with the stranger-danger mentality a lot?

I do remember that chat.

It's not really about them being strangers really, I just am someone who is naturally very distrusting of people's intentions in general, I have to try and fight that mindset practically every day as I know that it's not a healthy mindset to go into as a default setting.

I mean even on Facebook, I immediately question a lot of the people that I know on there's intentions, in my head I mean, not publicly.

If someone does do me dirty, I can be open to forgiving them eventually if I get along with the person in general, odd I know.

And tbh it took me a few years to start trusting everyone on here, including members that no longer use the Forum.

It's just the way that I am unfortunately.