[lostalex]

Even if it is attention seeking, is that bad? Obviously people in pain do need help, and they don't feel comfortable asking for help directly, because of shame and embarassment. If it's for attention doesn't make it any less serious.

[Pyramid*]

Originally Posted by lostalex

Even if it is attention seeking, is that bad? Obviously people in pain do need help, and they don't feel comfortable asking for help directly, because of shame and embarassment. If it's for attention doesn't make it any less serious.

I'd say it does make a difference - It depends on the reason they need the attention.

If it is just because they are self absorbed little divas who think they world owe them a living (you know the type) - as opposed to something critical being at the root cause - rather than just a stroppy little git / or egotistical adult who has to be the centre of attention for nothing more than wanting to be 'star turn' all the time.

[lostalex]

Originally Posted by Pyramid*

I'd say it does make a difference - It depends on the reason they need the attention.

If it is just because they are self absorbed little divas who think they world owe them a living (you know the type) - as opposed to something critical being at the root cause - rather than just a stroppy little git / or egotistical adult who has to be the centre of attention for nothing more than wanting to be 'star turn' all the time.

I think what you're describing is just a hollywood character. I've never met anyone in my life that is just purely self-obsessed and 1 dimensional like that. I think it's important to always assume the best in people, and when someone looks like they're hurting, you should assume that they are.

[Pyramid*]

Originally Posted by lostalex

I think what you're describing is just a hollywood character. I've never met anyone in my life that is just purely self-obsessed and 1 dimensional like that. I think it's important to always assume the best in people, and when someone looks like they're hurting, you should assume that they are.

I'd say you had a lot to live yet and a lot of people to meet yet then , if you seriously think for one minute that what I described is a Hollywood character.

I think you should actually read back on my posts in respect of it being important to assume the best in people. I do, until they act like arseholes for no good reason.

[hannah.]

Originally Posted by Pyramid*

I'd say it does make a difference - It depends on the reason they need the attention.

If it is just because they are self absorbed little divas who think they world owe them a living (you know the type) - as opposed to something critical being at the root cause - rather than just a stroppy little git / or egotistical adult who has to be the centre of attention for nothing more than wanting to be 'star turn' all the time.

Surely if someone is so desperate for attention that they will purposely hurt themselves (whether superficially or not, to a degree), that craving in itself means that they are just as unhappy in themselves as those who do it for more emotional reasons. I don't think it's right to be elitist in the reason for someone harming themselves; it's not a normal thing to do in any circumstance.