[Omah]

Originally Posted by Livia

No, it isn't protocol at all. Anyone can go along to a funeral and pay their respects. If it's a private ceremony, people will be told. If family only are wanted at the graveside, people will be told. At least that's how it works at my synagogue. And at all of the Christian services and the one Humanist service I've been to.

Well, "word of mouth" may work in your social circle, but it simply would not "do" in mine .....