[Jords]

Originally Posted by Chewy

and? It's still his responsibility to make sure she's not getting into any trouble. This is why so many kids grow up dysfunctional, they think as soon as they hit 15-16 they're adults, when quite simply, they're not, they're still irrational and emotionally unstable until they actually mature at around 19-21.

And the best way people learn is from experiences and mistakes. Not by being dramatically forced - only makes people rebel against it and be more reluctant.

[Scarlett.]

Originally Posted by Jords

And the best way people learn is from experiences and mistakes. Not by being dramatically forced - only makes people rebel against it and be more reluctant.

So we just let kids run wild, so that they learn from mistakes? No matter how dangerous and stupid they are? That doesn't sound like parenting.

[Kizzy]

inone thats an odd thing to say...care to elaborate?

[Jessica.]

Originally Posted by Shaun

-wants to shoot a gun now-

edit: not at you jessica LOL, just in general

I got to hold a gun once, when I got a tour of a police station, I went with a youth club thing and I pointed it at the lady in charge, and she started covering her face with her hand and ducking, as if the gun was loaded, there was police everywhere too, I didn't even know it was illegal to point a gun at someone..

[Novo]

^

[Jessica.]

Originally Posted by Novo

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[nicole_burks]

I don't think it's disgusting tbh.


I would never post something on facebook like that especially since my parents have a facebook.
Her dad works for an IT company it's pretty obvious she's going to get caught. She's pretty dumb for posting something like that on fb, imo.

[SharkAttack]

Originally Posted by Jessica.

I got to hold a gun once, when I got a tour of a police station, I went with a youth club thing and I pointed it at the lady in charge, and she started covering her face with her hand and ducking, as if the gun was loaded, there was police everywhere too, I didn't even know it was illegal to point a gun at someone..

[lostalex]

The girl has a housekeeper and she said "you pay someone to do it anyway, why should i have to do any chores?" That is repulsive. Sounds like the epitome of spoiled.

[Pyramid*]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

I'd be well pissed off if one of my kids wrote that **** about me on FB as well, she sounds like a spoilt brat, why is it ok for her to bad mouth him like that but it's not ok for him to defend himself? Parents have feelings too

Originally Posted by Josy

Its not cyber bullying at all, she made her disrespectful rant public by posting it on fb and so did he, I agree he could have dealt with it better than that but it's clearly not bullying of any kind.

Originally Posted by Nathan

Wouldn't agree with his methods but it's understandable. I would be pissed off too

Originally Posted by ukturtle

Legend! Absolute legend! She sounds like a right, spoilt little bitch. That should put her back into her place.

Originally Posted by Karl

I gotta admire how he doesn't pussy-foot around anything..he told her if she ****ed up and posted anything about them on her facebook again he would shoot her laptop...she posted he shot it..what a guy

Originally Posted by Chewy

No it's disgraceful she's treating her father like that. He puts food on her table, and buys her a laptop and spends money upgrading it, and she can't even do chores? Good on him.

Agree with every single one of these comments.

Originally Posted by Jords

Shes 15 not 8.

Originally Posted by Jords

All the YT comments are agreeing with him, idiots

Someone is not an idiot simply because you do not agree with them. They don't share your opinion - that does not make anyone an idiot.

Yes, she is 15. Still a child. Still living under her father's roof. Still being provided with luxury items by her father, and being a spoiled selfish self centred, brat - like far too many teenagers these days unfortunately. His house, his rules - if she doesn't like it .... she can leave, roam the streets and fend for herself. Let's see how much she moans then.

[Me. I Am Salman]

Originally Posted by Pyramid*

Agree with every single one of these comments.





Someone is not an idiot simply because you do not agree with them. They don't share your opinion - that does not make anyone an idiot.

Yes, she is 15. Still a child. Still living under her father's roof. Still being provided with luxury items by her father, and being a spoiled selfish self centred, brat - like far too many teenagers these days unfortunately. His house, his rules - if she doesn't like it .... she can leave, roam the streets and fend for herself. Let's see how much she moans then.

It's not like she is acting so spoilt. Wow she posted a facebook status. Is that it????? Can't anyone be free to just vent their feelings? I'm sure she still gets on with her chores. We all have to do things we don't like and we are allowed to speak our mind. Its our opinion for fluff sake. Does her dad expect to be all happy daisy with it?

[Pyramid*]

Originally Posted by Salman!

It's not like she is acting so spoilt. Wow she posted a facebook status. Is that it????? Can't anyone be free to just vent their feelings? I'm sure she still gets on with her chores. We all have to do things we don't like and we are allowed to speak our mind. Its our opinion for fluff sake. Does her dad expect to be all happy daisy with it?

I guess you didn't actually listen to the difference between her gross exaggerations, and her father's side of the story........ or listen to the vile comments she made about the adults in her life.

You seem to miss the fact that it is his house, his rules. She learns to abide by them or she can walk.

She got smart mouthed again, she didn't learn from previous same behaviour - the father made sure she he wouldn't allow her access again to the equipment that he paid for. Good for him. She will learn... eventually, but she's chosing the hard route for herself.

[Roy Mars III]

Some people just need to learn respect. What he did was probably drastic and over the top but I can understand it. If I had some kid I just bought a bunch of new stuff for badmouthing me because I make her wash the dishes I'd be pretty pissed to

[Jake.]

He should try acting like a 'normal' parent if he wants to get the message across. Even if he didn't mean it, she has now got 1000's of death threats just because of a stupid stunt caused by a 'mature, loving parent'.

[Pyramid*]

Originally Posted by JH95

He should try acting like a 'normal' parent if he wants to get the message across. Even if he didn't mean it, she has now got 1000's of death threats just because of a stupid stunt caused by a 'mature, loving parent'.

It wouldn't have happened if she'd not been the spoilt jumped up brat that she was - and if she'd paid heed to his warning. After all, it wasn't the first time she'd done this.

[Jake.]

Originally Posted by Pyramid*

It wouldn't have happened if she'd not been the spoilt jumped up brat that she was - and if she'd paid heed to his warning. After all, it wasn't the first time she'd done this.

I can admit I have acted spoilt at times... doesn't mean that my dad throws my phone at a brick wall. Noone knows the ins and outs of their relationship. He could treat her like sh*t which causes her to complain. We just don't know.

[Pyramid*]

Originally Posted by JH95

I can admit I have acted spoilt at times... doesn't mean that my dad throws my phone at a brick wall. Noone knows the ins and outs of their relationship. He could treat her like sh*t which causes her to complain. We just don't know.

I doubt he treats her like sh*t. Otherwise he would not be spending his hard earned money buying her luxury items, laptops, cameras, purchasing upgrades and spending his own time upgrading ........ not quite the actions of a parent who treats their kid like sh*t really.

[Jake.]

Originally Posted by Pyramid*

I doubt he treats her like sh*t. Otherwise he would not be spending his hard earned money buying her luxury items, laptops, cameras, purchasing upgrades and spending his own time upgrading ........ not quite the actions of a parent who treats their kid like sh*t really.

What about the actions of uploading a video of him hulmiliating her for the world to see, where because of this she has death threats pouring out of her ears? Are they the actions a good parent?

[Pyramid*]

Originally Posted by JH95

What about the actions of uploading a video of him hulmiliating her for the world to see, where because of this she has death threats pouring out of her ears? Are they the actions a good parent?

did you listen to the reasons he gave for him making that decision to deal with it in the way he did? I did, and yes, some may find it OTT, personally I didn't. It looked and sounded like a father who had been pushed to the limits by a facetious, foul mouthed, spoiled child.

I'd far rather see that happening than the parent lifting their hands to the child.

[Jake.]

Originally Posted by Pyramid*

did you listen to the reasons he gave for him making that decision to deal with it in the way he did? I did, and yes, some may find it OTT, personally I didn't. It looked and sounded like a father who had been pushed to the limits by a facetious, foul mouthed, spoiled child.

I'd far rather see that happening than the parent lifting their hands to the child.

But we live in a world were most realise that it is wrong to use violence against their kids anyways. I get why he is pis*ed. I will never deem his reaction as acceptable

[Pyramid*]

Originally Posted by JH95

But we live in a world were most realise that it is wrong to use violence against their kids anyways. I get why he is pis*ed. I will never deem his reaction as acceptable

and I do. That's it in a nutshell.

[Ammi]

I've just watched the video...firstly I would have liked to have known more about the 'previous incident' and how it was handled by the parents, but as I don't....
I'm guessing, as dad had spent time and money on the laptop only the previous day, the daughter had posted this 'letter' before he did this......I would guess...when she was in a p*ssy mood' about something involving her parents.....that's hurtful to the parents..but...it's normal...it happens....It probably wouldn't be healthy for me to know what my kids have said about me everytime I've p*ssed them off...and I don't think it would be a good indication of what their feelings were in general. Teenagers can 'hit out' against the world sometimes...It's just a kneejerk reaction to how they're feeling at that moment.
...anyway, what she said was hurtful, spiteful, spoiled and ungrateful....yes....but in my opinion, dad totally invalidated all of this with his 'retaliation'.....two wrongs do not make a right....and he is the adult here. Imo, a young adult will never respond to being told they are disrespectful, lazy, spoiled, ungrateful etc.......but they can respond to you sitting them down LIKE AN ADULT and explaining, calmly, why you feel their actions are unacceptable and how the effects hurt others..including the 'cleaning lady'.
Tbh....he has just wiped out any sympathy I SHOULD feel for him
...I'll edit that...any sympathy I would have liked to have felt

[Me. I Am Salman]

Originally Posted by JH95

He should try acting like a 'normal' parent if he wants to get the message across. Even if he didn't mean it, she has now got 1000's of death threats just because of a stupid stunt caused by a 'mature, loving parent'.

Exactly, he was just seeking attention. If he knows so much about computers then he would know that this would be prone to becoming viral and resulting into deaththreats. The attention seeker. Parenting skills of a doughnut.

[Ammi]

Originally Posted by Salman!

Exactly, he was just seeking attention. If he knows so much about computers then he would know that this would be prone to becoming viral and resulting into deaththreats. The attention seeker. Parenting skills of a doughnut.

Salman, I'm missing something here...where is the 'death threat' info coming from

[Pyramid*]

Originally Posted by Ammi

I've just watched the video...firstly I would have liked to have known more about the 'previous incident' and how it was handled by the parents, but as I don't....
I'm guessing, as dad had spent time and money on the laptop only the previous day, the daughter had posted this 'letter' before he did this......I would guess...when she was in a p*ssy mood' about something involving her parents.....that's hurtful to the parents..but...it's normal...it happens....It probably wouldn't be healthy for me to know what my kids have said about me everytime I've p*ssed them off...and I don't think it would be a good indication of what their feelings were in general. Teenagers can 'hit out' against the world sometimes...It's just a kneejerk reaction to how they're feeling at that moment.
...anyway, what she said was hurtful, spiteful, spoiled and ungrateful....yes....but in my opinion, dad totally invalidated all of this with his 'retaliation'.....two wrongs do not make a right....and he is the adult here. Imo, a young adult will never respond to being told they are disrespectful, lazy, spoiled, ungrateful etc.......but they can respond to you sitting them down LIKE AN ADULT and explaining, calmly, why you feel their actions are unacceptable and how the effects hurt others..including the 'cleaning lady'.
Tbh....he has just wiped out any sympathy I SHOULD feel for him
...I'll edit that...any sympathy I would have liked to have felt

Now.... given all of what you say above: that's very true -because we don't know how the previous behaviour was dealt with so I can understand why you're saying what you are, and why you feel the father was in the wrong.

Personally: I'm taking the view that since father said she'd done this before to the point that she had been grounded, had her pc taken away and had her mobile taken away: I'm inclined to take the view that the usual punishments simply are not having any real effect (otherwise she'd not have written what she did again on FB) - hence the reason that I agree with the father.