[Ammi]

I've just watched the video...firstly I would have liked to have known more about the 'previous incident' and how it was handled by the parents, but as I don't....
I'm guessing, as dad had spent time and money on the laptop only the previous day, the daughter had posted this 'letter' before he did this......I would guess...when she was in a p*ssy mood' about something involving her parents.....that's hurtful to the parents..but...it's normal...it happens....It probably wouldn't be healthy for me to know what my kids have said about me everytime I've p*ssed them off...and I don't think it would be a good indication of what their feelings were in general. Teenagers can 'hit out' against the world sometimes...It's just a kneejerk reaction to how they're feeling at that moment.
...anyway, what she said was hurtful, spiteful, spoiled and ungrateful....yes....but in my opinion, dad totally invalidated all of this with his 'retaliation'.....two wrongs do not make a right....and he is the adult here. Imo, a young adult will never respond to being told they are disrespectful, lazy, spoiled, ungrateful etc.......but they can respond to you sitting them down LIKE AN ADULT and explaining, calmly, why you feel their actions are unacceptable and how the effects hurt others..including the 'cleaning lady'.
Tbh....he has just wiped out any sympathy I SHOULD feel for him
...I'll edit that...any sympathy I would have liked to have felt