[Jack_]

Originally Posted by Mrluvaluva

Well personally, I judge them as housemates. Depending on how entertaining they are, how they behave in the house, how they treat the other HM's etc. Their personal life doesn't really come into it. Their personalities do. Unless they had done something absolutely dispicable, like murder, but I don't think we've got that far yet...

I concur. Their personal life bares no relevance to their worth as a housemate and as such I don't think it's anybody's place to discuss it.

[MTVN]

Originally Posted by psychtracker

Of course we have the right to judge, that's what BB and these forums are all about. Judging people's personalities, reactions to situations etc. If you don't wanna be judged by all and sundry on national TV, you don't enter the BB house in the first place.

Judging actions that occur in the house, on our screens, things we actually see, not judging people for personal responses to things that are nothing to do with the show, and where the circumstances are unknown to us

[jet]

Originally Posted by psychtracker

Of course we have the right to judge, that's what BB and these forums are all about. Judging people's personalities, reactions to situations etc. If you don't wanna be judged by all and sundry on national TV, you don't enter the BB house in the first place.

We have the right to judge HM's on their interactions with each other, during tasks etc in the house. A death in the family is personal and outside the realms of our judgement.

[bbfan1991]

Originally Posted by jet

The fact hat Scott said he didn't want to talk about it could mean it's not a straighforward situation. Families can be complicated.
He didn't go back in to gain sympathy or play on the situation. He isn't going on and on about it or trying to dampen the atmosphere. He is just being himself - and I admire his lack of guile and honesty. I think he is suffering in his own way - he seems a self contained and dignified sort of person.

I agree, he is perhaps bottling his feelings up and at the same time respecting his families privacy by not wanting to talk about what has happened.

I do think it is unfair some people are labelling him cold though.

[psychtracker]

You'd wanna hope he's not particularly close to his family, and sister. Otherwise he may live to regret that decision, once his 5 mins of fame has inevitably worn off.

[Me. I Am Salman]

Thats horrendous
I could never go back into the house if I was in that position.

[psychtracker]

In general response to those comments how you don't judge HMs from outside events etc, only what occurs inside the house. Well, it's all intertwined with them being there in the present, and the general makeup of their personality etc. and basically impossible to fully differentiate. If housemate X tells a story about something that happened to them outside the house, you form opinions about their personality from the story they've retold etc.

[Mrluvaluva]

Originally Posted by psychtracker

In general response to those comments how you don't judge HMs from outside events etc, only what occurs inside the house. Well, it's all intertwined with them being there in the present, and the general makeup of their personality etc. and basically impossible to fully differentiate. If housemate X tells a story about something that happened to them outside the house, you form opinions about their personality from the story they've retold etc.

Now you're judging the rest of us... I can categorically state that Scott's decision to return to the house and remain there for however long he sees fit, or until the time he is evicted, will not affect my view of him in any shape or form. It's irrelevant to me. (I don't mean that in a callous way).

[psychtracker]

Originally Posted by Mrluvaluva

Now you're judging the rest of us...I can categorically state that Scott's decision to return to the house and remain there for however long he sees fit, or until the time he is evicted, will not affect my view of him in any shape or form. It's irrelevant to me. (I don't mean that in a callous way).

So, if in the next few days, if he talks about his sister, and how close he is to her or something (as an example). You will not form any opinions regarding his decision. I'm not saying he will, for all we know it may never be discussed by him, and that's fine.

[Mrluvaluva]

Originally Posted by psychtracker

So, if in the next few days, if he talks about his sister, and how close he is to her or something (as an example). You will not form any opinions regarding his decision. I'm not saying he will, for all we know it may never be discussed by him, and that's fine.

As I said earlier, unless he said something which I found truly dispicable or abhorrent, then no.

[psychtracker]

Originally Posted by Mrluvaluva

As I said earlier, unless he said something which I found truly dispicable or abhorrent, then no.

Ok, that's fine...you're entitled to your thoughts. I personally find it pretty much impossible to think that viewers can completely detach their thoughts in that way. The only solution i could see, would be...if Scott mentions his sister, that you turn off your TV or something...

[tweetypiebabe1]

Bless him

[Cherie]

It looks like Scott is not particularly close to his family. Some people aren't. Not everyone has a close network surrounding them, he obviously wanted to make a point to them as he came out on TV. I dont know his circumstances so I can only judge on what I see, Its up to him how he deals with it as it is a very personal matter. This will split public opinion about him.

[BBUKAUSFAN]

People have there own way of dealing with deaths. and being with him family might not seem to be what he feels will be suit him.
He has formed a very strong friendship with caroline and i think he feels for comfortable being with her.

Oh a side note you have to remeber he only came out to his family on big brother? like he said they might have know....

[sofialady]

Maybe it's not for me to judge, but I do find it quite baffling that he went back into the house.

How do you cope?

[BigBrotherfan4ever]

I loss my dad 6 weeks ago, & I know if I was in BB & was told that he had died I would leave immediately to be with my family, but I don't think we have the right to judge to what Scott has done in coming back into the house, as people have said people maybe Scott wasn't that close to his sister.

[MrWong]

Originally Posted by BigBrotherfan4ever

I loss my dad 6 weeks ago, & I know if I was in BB & was told that he had died I would leave immediately to be with my family, but I don't think we have the right to judge to what Scott has done in coming back into the house, as people have said people maybe Scott wasn't that close to his sister.

Sorry to hear that BBFan4ever. I lost my mum 5 years ago today.

I know there are a few people on the thread saying Scott might not have been close to his sis but surely he'd want to be there for his parents, they have afterall just lost a child.

I hope staying in the BB house turns out to be the right decision for him and condolences to his family.

[Cherie]

Originally Posted by MrWong

Sorry to hear that BBFan4ever. I lost my mum 5 years ago today.

I know there are a few people on the thread saying Scott might not have been close to his sis but surely he'd want to be there for his parents, they have afterall just lost a child.

I hope staying in the BB house turns out to be the right decision for him and condolences to his family.

That's my point Mr Wong, he obviously isn't close to them, as he came out on BB, or so he says. I find him a bit cold and his eyes are totally flat and emotionless, total speculation here but maybe the reason his parents didnt want him on BB is because his sisters death was imminent. Like I say it will split public opinion, my opinion is he is a pretty cold individual.

[MrWong]

Originally Posted by CherieB

That's my point Mr Wong, he obviously isn't close to them, as he came out on BB, or so he says. I find him a bit cold and his eyes are totally flat and emotionless, total speculation here but maybe the reason his parents didnt want him on BB is because his sisters death was imminent. Like I say it will split public opinion, my opinion is he is a pretty cold individual.

The Star article says "shock sudden death" Though it is a tabloid so we can never be 100% sure.

I honestly don't think the paranoid, toxic enviroment of the BB house is the best place to grieve, who knows, maybe he's still in shock and might leave in the next few days.

[BigBrotherfan4ever]

Originally Posted by MrWong

Sorry to hear that BBFan4ever. I lost my mum 5 years ago today.

I know there are a few people on the thread saying Scott might not have been close to his sis but surely he'd want to be there for his parents, they have afterall just lost a child.

I hope staying in the BB house turns out to be the right decision for him and condolences to his family.

Thanks MrWong

[Vanessa]

Originally Posted by BigBrotherfan4ever

Thanks MrWong

My mum died of lung cancer recently.

[alex_front2]

Originally Posted by BigBrotherfan4ever

I loss my dad 6 weeks ago, & I know if I was in BB & was told that he had died I would leave immediately to be with my family, but I don't think we have the right to judge to what Scott has done in coming back into the house, as people have said people maybe Scott wasn't that close to his sister.

Well if mine did I would not care. Not everyone has a oh so perfect family like yours.

[Semtex]

I hope he's ok, but that is for him to judge.

I thought it was a lovely gesture by Becky when he returned, he must have really appreciated being told she wants to pair off Arron with someone else.

Her empathy shines through.

[HBB1508]

It's tragic news and my sympathies are with Scott and his family but none of us know the circumstances so really can't judge him - it's his call what he does with his life.

[Razor]

Anyone know how his sister died?