[Ammi]

..you don't have to tell her anything personal about you Zee...apart from anything else, as you say, you'd just be giving her the 'weapon' to abuse you...and why should you talk about your personal life to anyone unless you choose to....

.....but I wouldn't let the friendship continue because you know that if your suspicions are founded, she isn't someone you want as a friend..regardless of what she wants...I'd instigate a discussion about homosexuality and let her know how much you abhor homophobics...then she has the 'secret' not you...