[arista]

Is this fair on your EX,
that matters

Originally Posted by Ammi

...if you have a good relationship with her parents, then it's a good idea to ask them their thoughts and perhaps send the gifts through them...they can ask her first, whether it's ok for them to give them to her....

..it's very sad when children are involved, because it's natural you would get attatched to her, as I'm sure she did with you...but unfortunately, you will have to accept your ex's decision as she is her mum....hopefully she will allow her to have them.....it's a lovely thought.......

Yeah. I'm going to take them over to her parents, and have a chat with them. If they talk to her and she says it's a no-go, then I'll pick them back up from there without having to deal with her at all.

Originally Posted by arista

Is this fair on your EX,
that matters

I know it matters. It has no negatives to my ex as far as I can see, but it will be her choice. I just want the child to know that I'm thinking of her, I hope she has a great Christmas, and it's not really her fault.

I'm not looking to have an on-going relationship with the kid, I just want to make this gesture because I disappeared suddenly from her life.

My ex, as they always do, will have the last say on this.