[Ammi]

..grief is a very personal thing..there isn't a 'formula' to it..no one can tell you how to grieve...have you tried talking to someone..your parents/family/friends..?

[Raph]

Originally Posted by Ammi

..grief is a very personal thing..there isn't a 'formula' to it..no one can tell you how to grieve...have you tried talking to someone..your parents/family/friends..?

Yeah I suppose, but I don't know what my personal way of doing it is, if that makes sense? Yeah i've spoken to my friends and my parents. But it's just nothing can bring the person back, no matter how much you talk to people and I find that so difficult to deal with. I'm gonna see a therapist on Saturday though so hopefully that'll do some good.

[Ammi]

Originally Posted by Barker

Yeah I suppose, but I don't know what my personal way of doing it is, if that makes sense? Yeah i've spoken to my friends and my parents. But it's just nothing can bring the person back, no matter how much you talk to people and I find that so difficult to deal with. I'm gonna see a therapist on Saturday though so hopefully that'll do some good.

..you may be already dealing with it though, before you can grieve there is a period of shock and that's the 'first stage' if you like...

[Raph]

Originally Posted by Mrs Claus

My friend lost her mum when we were 16 and didn't deal with it at all. She replaced her mum by having a baby young to get the mother child bond back. it hit her years later and hit her hard so my advice is to deal with things as they happen and however it feels right for you to do it. As Ammi said it is very personal so however you choose to work through it will be right for you. A therapist is a good start I think.

Yeah I feel like i've covered up my grief with stuff like alcohol and weed too so I get where you're coming from. I want to deal with it, but I just find it so hard. And i'll be super sad for a while and the pretend like it's not real and the cycle just goes on and on. But yeah hopefully the therapist should be helpful

Originally Posted by Chewdolph

Not really, me, my brother and my dad all became codependant on each other throughout the whole thing, it's probably the same when you lose any family members, chances are the rest also feel the same.

Cheers it'll be 10 months since I lost her this coming January, I still think "what if" most days, its something that never goes away, you just eventually learn to deal with the grief.

I guess yeah time is a cure for anything. But that's good to hear that you don't think you were being a burden on your family. That makes me feel better about not wanting to just all keep it locked in myself. Thanks man

Originally Posted by Ammi

..you may be already dealing with it though, before you can grieve there is a period of shock and that's the 'first stage' if you like...

Yeah I know what you mean. I guess I just wish there was a simple solution which could make me get over it from one day to the next..