[AnnieK]

Originally Posted by Ammi

..unfortunately I still don't think it's easy for gay couples to adopt, I know a couple who recently went through the whole process, only to be told that they should wait longer, when there didn't seem any reason for that decision...very heartbreaking for them, I have no idea whether the same would have been said to a heterosexual couple....

The adoption process is long and arduous...I had looked into it at great depth during my time of having problems and had initial meetings...they look into every single aspect of your life, your upbringing, talk to friends and family, do loads of assessments and then a board of people get to decide your fate....it's such a painful and heartbreaking journey that they more or less put you off before you start....I was told to wait (although before the process started properly) because it was too soon after a failed treatment. There were other couples who were told to lose weight before they were considered but there was a gay couple who did start the process....I don't know if they were approved or not but I think most couples go through the wringer in the process....I was just lucky that I have since had my miracle (although it the whole cycle did cost me my relationship)...