[lostalex]

Originally Posted by swinearefine

I think the problem is less that parents forcing their kids to do gender-specific things, and more that kids are more inclined to perform these gender-specific things because since birth they've had it instilled in their minds that they are a certain gender, they are different from the other gender, that there is a set of rules for this gender that everyone follows, and that to be accepted in society you follow these rules. There's usually no need to force a girl to wear make-up, for example, because she's known since a very young age that that's what a girl does and that to be accepted she would have to do it.

Exactly, and also other kids, who's parents have been very forceful about generstereotypes bully other kids into stuff. A kid who grew up with parents who told them, don't play with dolls, that's GAY! then those kids go to school, see another kid playing with dolls, and bully's that kid saying "why are you playing with dolls? that's gay!".

So the peer pressure from other kids still affects the kid who has parents that are trying to raise them gender neutral. It's basically impossible to raise your child gender neutral, because the rest of society is still enforcing those gender stereotypes.