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AnnieK · 13-06-2013, 06:05 AM

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Originally Posted by Marc

Brings back too many horrible days/weeks/months.

Kids can be horrible and its even worse when adults shout abuse at you. You'll never felt so small or pathetic as you do when somebody shouts abuse at you for no good reason.

Did you get a lot of grief over your hair Marc? I do think its harder for ginger boys, I got teased a bit with name calling but the worst thing with being ginger for me was I couldn't get away with anything as I was too recognisable. I was the only ginger kid in year so I was always spotted.

Ammi · 13-06-2013, 06:22 AM

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Originally Posted by anniek76

I agree that you have to expect some teasing at school for whatever reason but the line has to be drawn when that escalates into physical violence. Too many stories now about kids taking their own lives due to bullying.

..I agree Annie, bullying has obviously always happened both inside and outside of the school environment, but there hasn't always been 'the power of the internet' which makes it much easier to make people's lives miserable..I know that's not what has happened in this case but because bullying is having a much more increasing and tragic effect, I think that's all the more reason why schools, police etc have to take it more seriously and for schools not to just have policies in place that say all the right things but to act on them as well...imo, there are a lot more pressures on young people than there used to be, both socially and educationally...

Jake. · 13-06-2013, 07:20 AM

Just horrible how people and kids can be that shallow and nasty over the colour of somebody elses hair

sorry to hear about you two getting bullied/teased (Marc and Annie), it's horrible how low a person can be made to feel over something like that

Marc · 13-06-2013, 07:40 AM

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Originally Posted by anniek76

Did you get a lot of grief over your hair Marc? I do think its harder for ginger boys, I got teased a bit with name calling but the worst thing with being ginger for me was I couldn't get away with anything as I was too recognisable. I was the only ginger kid in year so I was always spotted.

Grief.. did I ever. Got physically attacked, got spat on. And there was never a day when I didn't get some abuse shouted at me. Just because of my hair.. so a lot of the time when people jokingly mentions my hair now I feel meh

AnnieK · 13-06-2013, 07:46 AM

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Originally Posted by Marc

Grief.. did I ever. Got physically attacked, got spat on. And there was never a day when I didn't get some abuse shouted at me. Just because of my hair.. so a lot of the time when people jokingly mentions my hair now I feel meh

Aw that's rough Marc.. Definitely worse for biys i think I worry for my little boy. At the moment everywhere I go we get stopped because of his "beautiful" hair but I know he's going to hate it when he gets to school. Although there does seem to be more kids with it now.

I was pretty lucky I guess I didn't get worse, it could have been awful especially when you consider I had ginger hair, glasses and fixed braces. I think people thought I had it rough enough without pushing it further (that and I had a popular big brother so people were nice to me to get in his good books. Little did they know he probably would have liked them more if they were horrible to me, would have saved him a job

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Marc · 13-06-2013, 08:02 AM

Aw I had sisters who sort of stop their friends from saying stuff and anybody in their year from being horrible. But they left when I was in yr9

Cherie · 13-06-2013, 08:15 AM

Marc

It's not a given though that you will be bullied because of hair colour, my friends's son is Year 11 and he has bright ginger hair, freckles the lot and he goes to a school which has a quite high percentage of black kids and he hasn't had too many problems, the odd thing here and there, but nothing out of the ordinary. At any age there are people who revel in putting others down or making them feel uncomfortable, we need to learn how to deal with it, because adults can be nasty too!

Jake. · 13-06-2013, 08:30 AM

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Originally Posted by Marc

Grief.. did I ever. Got physically attacked, got spat on. And there was never a day when I didn't get some abuse shouted at me. Just because of my hair.. so a lot of the time when people jokingly mentions my hair now I feel meh

Ah Marc that's so awful

RichardG · 13-06-2013, 08:45 AM

I've had people shout abuse at me for the same reason over the past 5 years and i'm actually thankful for it. It's made me a much stronger person. I used to come home crying every day in years 7/8 but now, it's happened so often I've become totally desensitized to it. People can call me anything they want to and i'll forget about it a second later. I've been told that that's a bad thing and it should never have got to such a stage that this would happen, but ultimately if it means I go through life without caring about peoples insults then that can only be beneficial.

Kizzy · 13-06-2013, 09:15 AM

That is a very positive message, I would never condone physical violence and is against any schools rules anyway. What I meant to say was it's important to instil confidence and self esteem in a child to help with any teasing.
I'm surprised to hear you are still so affected marc as you regularly mention your hair yourself, I for one won't be mentioning it again.

arista · 13-06-2013, 10:20 AM

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Originally Posted by Kizzy

That is a very positive message, I would never condone physical violence and is against any schools rules anyway. What I meant to say was it's important to instil confidence and self esteem in a child to help with any teasing.
I'm surprised to hear you are still so affected marc as you regularly mention your hair yourself, I for one won't be mentioning it again.

In todays Metro
they are moving him to a new school

Kizzy · 13-06-2013, 10:27 AM

I read the mail article thanks ( through gritted teeth)

Niamh. · 13-06-2013, 10:30 AM

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Originally Posted by Marc

Grief.. did I ever. Got physically attacked, got spat on. And there was never a day when I didn't get some abuse shouted at me. Just because of my hair.. so a lot of the time when people jokingly mentions my hair now I feel meh

awww really? There were people with ginger hair in my class in school, I don't ever remember anyone mocking them over their hair colour though, strange. I'm sure it doesn't happen to the red haired kids in my kids classes either

GiRTh · 13-06-2013, 10:35 AM

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Originally Posted by GypsyGoth

Why didn't his own kind protect him?

Great post

arista · 13-06-2013, 10:37 AM

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Originally Posted by Kizzy

I read the mail article thanks ( through gritted teeth)

Bless you

Kizzy · 13-06-2013, 10:47 AM

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Originally Posted by Niamh.

awww really? There were people with ginger hair in my class in school, I don't ever remember anyone mocking them over their hair colour though, strange. I'm sure it doesn't happen to the red haired kids in my kids classes either

Is it more socially acceptable in Ireland? my mum talks of my grans 'beautiful red hair' that lots were envious of and she was proud of.
(not that anyone shouldn't be proud of it)
Or are kids just particularly cruel in Yorkshire, seriously anything even slightly different and you would be teased.

GiRTh · 13-06-2013, 10:48 AM

My post seems really insensitive now I've read the rest of the thread.

Marc and Annie, it must be terrible being picked on like that.

Niamh. · 13-06-2013, 11:09 AM

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Originally Posted by Kizzy

Is it more socially acceptable in Ireland? my mum talks of my grans 'beautiful red hair' that lots were envious of and she was proud of.
(not that anyone shouldn't be proud of it)
Or are kids just particularly cruel in Yorkshire, seriously anything even slightly different and you would be teased.

It must be, I don't ever remember people getting teased because of having ginger hair. I remember a ginger kid in secondary getting teased but it was because he had green teeth not red hair

I also remember a girl in my class who had ginger hair but it was really lovely, it was so thick and curly and a really nice shade. She never got teased, she was pretty popular actually