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Originally Posted by smeagol

no forget dexter the post is about callum , he is not a everyman and sam is not entertaining.
would you let him date your sister or someone. i think not

Difficult to forget dexter, since the two are continually placed next to each other.

I wouldn't be thrilled if a daughter of mine came home with either of them, but I can imagine getting to know Callum a little better and can see aspects of his character that are endearing.

Dexter, though I find him entertaining, is another matter entirely. I'd be horrified if a daughter of mine came home with him. His attitude towards women is appalling. Jackie went on and on about Callum's VT claims having slept with 200 women and a mother and daughter amongst them. Yet Dexter referred to women in the most disgustingly mechanistic and misogynistic fashion and somehow that didn't worry her half as much.

A man who considers it ok to have a different woman for each purpose (the one you have sex with, the one you have cuddles with, the one you can talk to etc) and for each different fetish (the redhead, the blonde etc). He spoke about women like they were fashion accessories who existed solely to serve his desires. Even the 'compliments' he used with the girls in the house sounded like something from the 1950s: good wife material? Seriously?

It's entirely possible that Callum has some kind of disorder. For all we know he could be somewhere on the autistic spectrum and unable to properly read and follow social cues. In which case the hate and vitriol levelled at him would be even more appalling.

Dexter, on the other hand, as entertaining as he may be, is an out and out misogynist who by his own admission treats women like objects and coaches other men to do the same (the whole 'negging' approach to the dating game is truly sick-making).

I wouldn;t want a daughter of mine to come back with either of them; however if they came back with Callum I wouldn't lose respect for them. If they came back with Dexter, I'd have to ask myself how I'd managed to fail them so badly as a parent.