[DanaC]

There are lots of people in relationships who have sex with their partners because that's what you're supposed to do, and because not doing so would make their partner feel like they were being rejected or were unattractive They may love their partner very much. They may find them very attractive. They may enjoy the romance, or cuddling up on the sofa. But full on sexual activity may feel totally wrong to them.


They may be able to think themselves into a frame of mind where it's ok. Or they may even quite enjoy it, but not actually have a desire for it.

When people find out I have been single for nearly 10 years, they find it strange that i don't miss the sex. When in fact that's the part of a relationship that I absolutely do not miss. I just don't have that desire.

Like CynicalHermit, my first inkling was when i was younger and all my mates talked about sex. It just did nothing for me. It's like that part of my brain never activated or something. Really, it's only the last few years that I have recognised it for what it is. before that I spent a long time thinking I was somehow broken. When actually, I'm just wired a little differently to most people.