[DanaC]

Originally Posted by G1dds

I was pretty irritated when he said "I've got a condition called aspergers"

FFS - it's not a "condition". I have 2 sons, a husband, father, brother and sister with aspergers.....

Maybe I just don't like him, but the way he said it wound me up

Genuine question, and please forgive my ignorance on this, but what would be a more acceptable description?

[G1dds]

Originally Posted by DanaC

Genuine question, and please forgive my ignorance on this, but what would be a more acceptable description?

Yeah, sleeping on it I think it was less about him saying he had a "condition" and more the way he said it ..... Like his "condition" required sympathy

In my house, my boys have aspergers - that's it. No sympathy required, just a little understanding for them. Their brains just process differently, that's it.

As I said before, I think it's just because I don't like him with his stupid false accent looking a little sad he had this "condition"

I probably haven't explained myself well on here, but I know what I mean

[DanaC]

Originally Posted by G1dds

Yeah, sleeping on it I think it was less about him saying he had a "condition" and more the way he said it ..... Like his "condition" required sympathy

In my house, my boys have aspergers - that's it. No sympathy required, just a little understanding for them. Their brains just process differently, that's it.

As I said before, I think it's just because I don't like him with his stupid false accent looking a little sad he had this "condition"

I probably haven't explained myself well on here, but I know what I mean

Yeah. I know what you mean

In his defence though: he only brought it up in relation to somebody telling him he needed to come out of himself a bit more and be a bit livelier and more involved. And, given he's only recently been diagnosed (two years I think he said?) he hasn't been brought up with the knowledge he has aspergers, and therefore the 'normality' of that. He's probably had all sorts of minor issues with interaction and social situations his whole life and only now has a name for what makes him that way. He's probably spent half his life wondering what was 'wrong'.


I got the impression he wasn't really looking for sympathy. Just a little understanding that this particular thing (coming out of himself and being more involved in the group) can be problematic, maybe takes a little longer for him.

I suspect anything he said about it would be annoying though, because of that accent