[Ammi]

Originally Posted by armand.kay

Tbh I can't be bothered with an actual relation atm so the idea of an open relationship is fine to me, but once I feel the need to settle down and get serious with someone then no.

..I think that's the thing though Armand, you' don't want an 'actual relationship'...I do understand that because an 'open relationship' to me is when someone has committed to one person but wants other relationships as well...and that's the bit I don't quite understand because I would say that you were describing more 'casual/non committed relationships' which is cool because you're not looking for anything more atm....

Originally Posted by armand.kay

There was a couple on tv who went go the pull together. They were both bi and would find people to join them for the night, they seemed perfectly happy to me

..I know three 'real life stories' similar to that and yeah, both parties were quite happy with it all/it was all very mutual etc...but it didn't stay that way for any of those three because 'emotions' can't always be accounted for and in all cases, one partner ended up having real feelings for someone else which had never been 'agreed' in their 'open relationship' and ended up with no relationship and some very hurt people.... and that's cool so long as you know that you are agreeing to the openness of it all and anything that comes with it...and I know people can cheat/break commitments etc anyway but I wonder if it's harder to come to terms with if you've consented to it....