[Claymores]

Originally Posted by Ben

I'm sorry to hear that Claymores, I really am. I don't know what to say as I'm not the best person for sage advice but make the most of the time you have left with her and make it count.

Cheers Ben - it was sad, she was in hospital her last birthday so not a good day for the family. On another thread I disclosed it is her only grandson's 21 birthday today so hope she has a great time in her short time left.

[Ammi]

Originally Posted by Claymores

My mum has just been diagnosed as having a tumour on the pancreas. In essence it means she has not long to go................another 6 months in pain?

I luvs my mum and have no good way to talk with her and goodbye Really sad

..I've just read this as well, Ian...I am very sorry to hear about your news, I myself have a very close friend who has just been diagnosed with breast cancer and another friend was about the same time last year, I don't know what it is about this time of year...but anyway, it's not the same prognosis as it is for your mum and I know there's nothing really I can say but when my dad died, the one thing that haunts me is that I never got time to say goodbye/talk to him etc...and just celebrate everything she is and has been by being with her as much as you can....

[Claymores]

Originally Posted by Ammi

..I've just read this as well, Ian...I am very sorry to hear about your news, I myself have a very close friend who has just been diagnosed with breast cancer and another friend was about the same time last year, I don't know what it is about this time of year...but anyway, it's not the same prognosis as it is for your mum and I know there's nothing really I can say but when my dad died, the one thing that haunts me is that I never got time to say goodbye/talk to him etc...and just celebrate everything she is and has been by being with her as much as you can....

@ 47 years old, I'm still "mammi's wee boy" so it is gonna be tough next months watching her die......c'est la vie, not

EDIT - and yes she will buy me socks n pants for Christmas!!!!!!! Gotta luv that!

[Ammi]

Originally Posted by Claymores

@ 47 years old, I'm still "mammi's wee boy" so it is gonna be tough next months watching her die......c'est la vie, not

EDIT - and yes she will buy me socks n pants for Christmas!!!!!!! Gotta luv that!

..I think that when we're around our parents, we will always be 'children', somehow all of those years of being a grown up are extinguished in their presence...but tbh, what would we really ever have done without those socks and underwear because it really is much easier than having to buy them ourselves and mums just seem to instinctively know that we would need them.... my mum still makes me casseroles to bring home when I see her because it's obvious that I might not have worked out how to work the cooker yet and she isn't taking any chances...it's probably not so much for me as it is for her grandchildren....

[Claymores]

Originally Posted by Ammi

..I think that when we're around our parents, we will always be 'children', somehow all of those years of being a grown up are extinguished in their presence...but tbh, what would we really ever have done without those socks and underwear because it really is much easier than having to buy them ourselves and mums just seem to instinctively know that we would need them.... my mum still makes me casseroles to bring home when I see her because it's obvious that I might not have worked out how to work the cooker yet and she isn't taking any chances...it's probably not so much for me as it is for her grandchildren....

LOL Ammi - same in many places.......my old mum has to ask me what tech to buy for her grandson for his 21st today.........but then tells me she also has socks n pants as worries he might run out of clean ones in his student flat!!!!

[Ammi]

Originally Posted by Claymores

LOL Ammi - same in many places.......my old mum has to ask me what tech to buy for her grandson for his 21st today.........but then tells me she also has socks n pants as worries he might run out of clean ones in his student flat!!!!

..the thing is about mums and grandmas is that they do want you to have the 'fun' things because they know those are the things that will put the smiles on faces and those smiles are what they live for but they're also extremely practical...because oh my lord at the thought of some kind of unforeseen disaster while he was using that tech stuff and he didn't have clean underwear or had holes in his socks through not having enough and a member of the public thinking he had a very remiss grandmother...only mums and grandmas can think about this important stuff, Ian and cover every single eventuality in life..they're almost magical in their capacities to do this....

[Claymores]

Originally Posted by Ammi

..the thing is about mums and grandmas is that they do want you to have the 'fun' things because they know those are the things that will put the smiles on faces and those smiles are what they live for but they're also extremely practical...because oh my lord at the thought of some kind of unforeseen disaster while he was using that tech stuff and he didn't have clean underwear or had holes in his socks through not having enough and a member of the public thinking he had a very remiss grandmother...only mums and grandmas can think about this important stuff, Ian and cover every single eventuality in life..they're almost magical in their capacities to do this....

LOL again Ammi - males are useless too............old mum phoned me the other day to check I'd sent a birthday card to a friend I've known over 20 years. I had completely forgotten about this, but she said it was OK, just visit us as we have a card ready for you to send!!!!!!

hahahahaha - what will I do if old Jean dies?!?!

[Ammi]

Originally Posted by Claymores

LOL again Ammi - males are useless too............old mum phoned me the other day to check I'd sent a birthday card to a friend I've known over 20 years. I had completely forgotten about this, but she said it was OK, just visit us as we have a card ready for you to send!!!!!!

hahahahaha - what will I do if old Jean dies?!?!

..I reckon that friend won't even care about that birthday card because of the other 19yrs you forgot to send them one ..you'll be absolutely fine Ian and the reason you will be fine is because that lady has spent all of this time teaching you everything she knows and imparting her wisdom to you...which you probably have absorbed a little bit and enough to get through as well as the rest of us do....but without that wisdom/love/support, you may just have struggled a little bit...you will do well and you will do her proud because she deserves that and because she is proud of her 'works'...

..anyway, I'm not so organised today, I have to get off and do some stuff...you enjoy your day, ok...I hope a good time is had by all at your nephew's birthday and your mums has lots of smiles on her face...

[Ammi]

Originally Posted by Ammi

..I reckon that friend won't even care about that birthday card because of the other 19yrs you forgot to send them one ..you'll be absolutely fine Ian and the reason you will be fine is because that lady has spent all of this time teaching you everything she knows and imparting her wisdom to you...which you probably have absorbed a little bit and enough to get through as well as the rest of us do....but without that wisdom/love/support, you may just have struggled a little bit...you will do well and you will do her proud because she deserves that and because she is proud of her 'works'...

..anyway, I'm not so organised today, I have to get off and do some stuff...you enjoy your day, ok...I hope a good time is had by all at your nephew's birthday and your mums has lots of smiles on her face...

..and because those are the things that matter and you'll remember and not the sadness...