[Jessica.]

If you are a parent or plan to be one, would you be disappointed if your child turned out to be anything other than straight? Would you think differently of them. Is there anything that you would have to change to accommodate their sexuality?

Disclaimer - I don't want anything offensive in this thread, please keep it serious and don't judge other people for their opinion.

[Amy Jade]

When I have kinds I just want them to be healthy. Their sexuality wouldn't even factor to me.

It's sad to me when you hear about families disowning their kids over it.

[Me. I Am Salman]

No I'd be a really supportive parent

[Jessica.]

Originally Posted by StupidHoe

When I have kinds I just want them to be healthy. Their sexuality wouldn't even factor to me.

It's sad to me when you hear about families disowning their kids over it.

I have never heard of someone disowning their child because of their sexuality, have you got any recent sources of this happening, I would be very interested to see the reasoning behind it.

[Z]

Originally Posted by Jessica‪

If you are a parent or plan to be one, would you be disappointed if your child turned out to be anything other than straight? Would you think differently of them. Is there anything that you would have to change to accommodate their sexuality?

Disclaimer - I don't want anything offensive in this thread, please keep it serious and don't judge other people for their opinion.

I'm not a parent and don't plan to be one at this moment in time but I'd guess that most parents want the best for their children at the end of the day, they want them to be educated, to get a good job, to have a nice place to live and then settle down with someone nice and have a family of their own with them. As a parent I think that's what you want for your children, so to find out that the picture won't turn out that way must be a shock and be hard to deal with - not because you don't love your child but because you must feel like you've somehow failed as a parent because your child isn't going to have the life you imagined for them... but I think most parents can get past that - either they don't have a problem with it at all, or once the initial shock is over they can get used to it - or maybe they can't. I think your child being gay just brings worries, you're worried about them more than anything, even if it comes across as being unsupportive I think often it's the opposite... you don't want your child to stand out from the crowd in a way that might get them beat up or picked on or treated differently.

[Amy Jade]

Originally Posted by Jessica‪

I have never heard of someone disowning their child because of their sexuality, have you got any recent sources of this happening, I would be very interested to see the reasoning behind it.

http://metro.co.uk/2013/10/03/fckh8-...y-son-4132743/

[Z]

Originally Posted by Jessica‪

I have never heard of someone disowning their child because of their sexuality, have you got any recent sources of this happening, I would be very interested to see the reasoning behind it.

I had to study a course last year where we had to do a piece of work that used a case study, I chose one about LGBT runaways and the common reason was that their parents had thrown them out - it was from the mid 2000s, it does happen sadly. Mostly either from conflicting religious beliefs or beliefs that homosexuality is immoral, from Thatcher times.

[Chuck]

This post > everything

Originally Posted by Patrick

This.

I'd be pissed because I wouldn't have grandkids or anything like that.
Unless I paid someone to rape my son and drop the kid on the door step 9 months later, but that'd be abit dodgy.

[Kizzy]

It does happen, there is a lot of prejudice in the world.
I wouldn't care but would worry about them becoming targets due to the ignorance of others.

[Black Dagger]

If I have my own children or adopt and they turn out to be breeders, they are so getting disowned, can't be dealing with that!

[Amy Jade]

http://www.buzzfeed.com/mattbellassa...-6z51?s=mobile

[jackc1806]

Couldn't care less

[MeMyselfAndI]

Originally Posted by Jessica‪

I have never heard of someone disowning their child because of their sexuality, have you got any recent sources of this happening, I would be very interested to see the reasoning behind it.

I'm shocked you didn't know this happens too a lot of teens

[Jessica.]

Originally Posted by Zee

I'm not a parent and don't plan to be one at this moment in time but I'd guess that most parents want the best for their children at the end of the day, they want them to be educated, to get a good job, to have a nice place to live and then settle down with someone nice and have a family of their own with them. As a parent I think that's what you want for your children, so to find out that the picture won't turn out that way must be a shock and be hard to deal with - not because you don't love your child but because you must feel like you've somehow failed as a parent because your child isn't going to have the life you imagined for them... but I think most parents can get past that - either they don't have a problem with it at all, or once the initial shock is over they can get used to it - or maybe they can't. I think your child being gay just brings worries, you're worried about them more than anything, even if it comes across as being unsupportive I think often it's the opposite... you don't want your child to stand out from the crowd in a way that might get them beat up or picked on or treated differently.

Asexual people can still get married and have children. Bisexual/other sexualities that don't limit to a singe sex can have biological children if they end up with someone of the opposite sex. Gay/Bisexual etc.. people can adopt or get a surrogate, which is probably the most likely one that could cause disappointment, but it would be similar to someone disowning their child for being infertile which would be unheard of to me.

[Z]

Originally Posted by Jessica‪

Asexual people can still get married and have children. Bisexual/other sexualities that don't limit to a singe sex can have biological children if they end up with someone of the opposite sex. Gay/Bisexual etc.. people can adopt or get a surrogate, which is probably the most likely one that could cause disappointment, but it would be similar to someone disowning their child for being infertile which would be unheard of to me.

Of course, but my point was that parents are worried about what other people will say or do to their children if they're different in a way that might attract negativity. There aren't people out there beating people to death because they're infertile...

[BBfanUSA]

Couldn't care less, I would be protective of my child regardless of sexuality. Treat my kid like **** and I wouldn't be happy.

[Redway]

Was a bit unsure a year or two ago but couldn't care less nowadays.

[swinearefine]

Well being the fag I am I thankfully never have to worry about having children, but I'd fully support my dog if she were a lesbian. Actually I'm pretty convinced she is, for no reason other than she is the perfect embodiment of Ellen Degeneres in dog form.

[Shaun]

I have children!?

[Jessica.]

Originally Posted by Shaun

I have children!?

Originally Posted by Jessica‪

If you are a parent or plan to be one

[Mystic Mock]

I think I probably would react in shock initially as most parents would, but I would like to think that I would get over it pretty quickly as it's not harming anyone.

[Ammi]

..I think as a parent, sexuality would only be a worry to you in how you think others may prejudice against your child and I think that's a natural concern for a parent so all they can do is be supportive because I would also more than anything else, want my child to be who they are...as for grandchildren..?...well, to me they're just an extra add-on if you have desires to be a grandparent but not something that I really ever thought would be a natural thing that my sons would have..although I love children, I'm not really bothered if I become a grandparent or not and especially because there may be lots of reasons why your children can't have or don't want children themselves and that's really completely up to them...

[AnnieK]

Exactly what Ammi has said....

As long as he is happy and at peace with himself that is what you want as a parent...however that manifests itself.

[user104658]

It wouldn't matter to me at all, their lives are entirely theirs to do what they want with. I'd selfishly be a little sad about there being less chance for grandchildren... But even then it's not impossible. My sister in law has a 100% gay friend who is currently due to be a dad soon - he got drunk and had a fumble with a female friend and got her pregnant, haha... ... They're only 18, too... But oh well, at least he gets to be a dad!

[smudgie]

No.