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Originally Posted by Kazanne

I understand that Jet and yes he has offended people,but surely he has the right to try and alter and put things right and I know he admitted to hitting his wife,surely that was a good thing(to admit it)and by all accounts he is married again and happily so maybe he has changed,maybe he hasn't, I just find the hatred a bit ott and he does make me laugh ,maybe I have a funny sense of humour I don't know but he has done nothing to warrant me hating him,but I do understand where you are coming from.

Of course he has that right, and I'd be glad if he DID change. But until someone demonstrates that they HAVE changed, I can't like them. I can give them the benefit of the doubt, but I can't force myself to feel that I like them if I don't.
There was something about him I took a dislike too early on and I knew nothing about him. That happens.
In the house, he doesn't seem like an especially nice person to me. I have said all along that he seems to be keeping a tight rein on himself. He seems calm, but I sense barely concealed anger in him. He seems easy going, but I think he's far from it. I don't think he's funny, but maybe I've just got a different sense of humour. He makes snide remarks (so do some others, but this topic is Jim) then he walks away and leaves the person frustrated.

He's not going to go into CBB and punch a woman or say something racist or homophobic.
He said if he was being himself he would be kicked out. What behaviour would get him kicked out?
He said he is a male chauvinist pig.
So I have nothing to go on to say he's a changed man. Maybe he has learned it's wrong to hit women, maybe he hasn't. Maybe he now knows its wrong to mock gay people, maybe he hasn't. I have learned nothing about him to change the opinion I formed of him. He isn't being himself - he's admitted that - so how could I?
I appreciated that he admitted that. That's a plus point for me.