[Seraphim]

I haven't time to respond to your post. Sorry about that.. Just a couple of things before I sign off though:

Well if you're a woman yourself and you'd accept a few patronizing comments from a known sexist that's quite a shame isn't it.

I said that everyone makes digs at the opposite sex, including Linda. I make them myself - sometimes in jest, sometimes as generalisations, and I afford men the same kind of latitude as they afford me. That's simple courtesy.

With regard to the query about Luisa not missing having a man.. He did not say it sharply: he said it in a normal tone. And yes - he could equally well have asked a man the same question. It is neither offensive or patronising.

It's malicious and underhanded because brought it up to humiliate her deceased husband. How many times does that have to be stated before you get it?

He didn't bring it up to 'humiliate' her deceased husband. He brought it up in response to Luisa's question about why Linda was so angry with him. Note that Luisa herself was having to ask what the problem was - so Jim couldn't have been as obnoxious and sexist as you are making out, otherwise Luisa wouldn't have been asking what the problem was. As far as I'm concerned, if Jim had wanted to bring up Linda's husband, he would have done so far, far earlier. And if he had done so, Linda's reaction would have been the same. She was spoiling for a fight, and trying to goad Jim into one the whole time. You can state otherwise until you are blue in the face, but I am not going to "get it" just because you keep repeating it.

If they didn't find them patronizing or condescending, they wouldn't have reacted the way they did.

You haven't actually given me examples of any incidents when someone other than Linda reacted angrily or badly to anything Jim said.

And they actual value themselves as women so they're not going to let a known misogynist make subtle and sly digs at them.

I quite agree. That is why we saw Luisa and Dappy have one hell of a row over Dappy's double standards. She quite rightly didn't let him off with it. When Luisa nominated Jim, she didn't nominate him because of sexist comments and sly digs. She said he was a "grumpy bastard".

Okay - I'm off. Good night.