[Brother Leon]

Everyone needs abit of tough love as long as there is some "love" there too. My dad used to just take me to the deep end of the pool and just watch me and if I struggled he would then help me out. It's how I learned to swim. Same way with teaching me to ride a bike etc. This is just a terrible way of showing "tough love" though.

[Ammi]

Originally Posted by Brother Leon

Everyone needs abit of tough love as long as there is some "love" there too. My dad used to just take me to the deep end of the pool and just watch me and if I struggled he would then help me out. It's how I learned to swim. Same way with teaching me to ride a bike etc. This is just a terrible way of showing "tough love" though.

..I think that's because there is only the 'tough' shown and not the love/no balance..I'm not sure that I agree with it in that I never did it myself with my children but I had it to an extent myself when I was a child...

[Ammi]

..oh I should have also said though Leon..with your dad it was measured in that he was there at the pool watching you if you should have needed help and the same with the bike but this dad just kicked his son down the ramp and turned away, not knowing if he would have hurt his back or damaged himself in any way..?..it is a bit over 'tough' I think...