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Originally Posted by Vicky.

I have all kinds of respect..and pity really...for people who do want to quit but can't. However the girl I know has totally blackened my view tbh. She openly admits she will never try to get off it as she enjoys it, she has told nurses, consultants, everyone in the hospital that she has no intention of stopping drinking, yet they continue to waste money, time and resources on her when others who actually do want to help themselves are made to wait years for treatment. That in my eyes is completely wrong.

I accept all you say there, however we were not there as she was saying this.
I may well be wrong here and maybe being too soft on alcoholism but it does become a functioning mechanism, many alcoholics dread even the thought of not being able to feel as they do when they drink it.

A lot of external bravado in fact hides massive insecurity,fear and even screaming for help inside.

It is something that has to be kept plugging away, at to first get the acceptance of the problem from the person affected, and then hopefully guide them to get the real deep help needed.
Which often succeeds for a time but they can fail again and drink again which is why they are alcoholics.

I have come across people who say they will take their chance and live as they have been but once that breakthrough maybe comes and they are 'ready' for help then the old bravado and their on the surface confidence gives way to conceding the need for and receiving that help.

This person may or may not be arrogant in her attitude to her alcohol problem or she may be putting on that bravado act borne out of massive fear of the treatment she will hopefully one day accept.

As I say, maybe I am myself too soft,I just don't see how giving up on anyone who needs help but refuses to see that they do at present will be of any help or right even.