[jessicadanielle]

I also admire Gary for how calm he remains, never offensive or bitchy, and seems really willing to learn from others, but sometimes I wonder if he does kind of let them walk all over him a bit? Sometimes a housemate can give him a load of criticisms in a really rude way and he'll say thank you and I can't help but feel it's a bit doormat-y.

Then again, Gary's much more mature and more forgiving than me so can probably look past things like that just to keep more harmony in the house. That is something I would like to work on.

[Creggle]

Originally Posted by jessicadanielle

I also admire Gary for how calm he remains, never offensive or bitchy, and seems really willing to learn from others, but sometimes I wonder if he does kind of let them walk all over him a bit? Sometimes a housemate can give him a load of criticisms in a really rude way and he'll say thank you and I can't help but feel it's a bit doormat-y.

Then again, Gary's much more mature and more forgiving than me so can probably look past things like that just to keep more harmony in the house. That is something I would like to work on.

I don't think he's a door mat at all tbh, I think he could be pretty scary if he ever went nuts! He's just very laid back and doesn't need to shout or raise his tone to dominate people like the other less intelligent housemates feel they have to. I think he's just a kind bloke who probably wouldn't give many of the people in there the time of day in the real world, so he's handling their crap the way he see's best.

[jessicadanielle]

Originally Posted by Creggle

I don't think he's a door mat at all tbh, I think he could be pretty scary if he ever went nuts! He's just very laid back and doesn't need to shout or raise his tone to dominate people like the other less intelligent housemates feel they have to. I think he's just a kind bloke who probably wouldn't give many of the people in there the time of day in the real world, so he's handling their crap the way he see's best.

Yeah good point. I'm much less laid back than he is so know I'd have gone mad if I'd had to deal with some of them like he has! It does show a lot of intelligence and maturity to deal with their criticisms/attitude the way he has, I really do admire it.

[jet]

Originally Posted by jessicadanielle

I also admire Gary for how calm he remains, never offensive or bitchy, and seems really willing to learn from others, but sometimes I wonder if he does kind of let them walk all over him a bit? Sometimes a housemate can give him a load of criticisms in a really rude way and he'll say thank you and I can't help but feel it's a bit doormat-y.

Then again, Gary's much more mature and more forgiving than me so can probably look past things like that just to keep more harmony in the house. That is something I would like to work on.

I think he does it to wind them up.
He listens to them, then says thanks for pointing that out, I'll change that, then he carries on doing it all the while laughing to himself.

[jessicadanielle]

Originally Posted by jet

I think he does it to wind them up.
He listens to them, then says thanks for pointing that out, I'll change that, then he carries on doing it all the while laughing to himself.

yeah maybe! His comment "I love cleaning now that I've been taught how to" (or something like that) sounded so sarcastic! Would love it if he came out and revealed the whole thing was a wind up.

[jet]

Originally Posted by jessicadanielle

yeah maybe! His comment "I love cleaning now that I've been taught how to" (or something like that) sounded so sarcastic! Would love it if he came out and revealed the whole thing was a wind up.

He won't. He's a silent assassin disguised as a shaggy haired rumpled old man who is endlessly kind and forgiving.
He could simply say "Don't speak to me like that" but he's enjoying their irritation and annoyance too much. He won't be happy until there are chunks of hair lying all over the house which they have pulled from their own heads.
That's my theory and I'm sticking to it.