[Ammi]

Originally Posted by Toy Soldier

I don't think that was brought back, kids have always hit each other with sticks. Do you know which kids do the most "hitting with sticks"? The ones who are hit at home.

..yeah the bringing back bit was just a joke and it's just that I have rubbish jokes...but honestly TS that's not true in my experience either, which is more that a child being hit at home in the sense I think that you mean... would be more the child who is less likely to join in with any games whatever they are and generally interact less because whether playing with sticks be appropriate or not and obviously in school it's reinforced that it's not...it's much more of a generally happy, playful and active mind and a worry free mind....obviously there may be some situations that you have said as well but it's also something that shouldn't be assumed, that violence will breed violence and active violence...because violence so often breeds fear and insecurity and a 'dumbing down' of a child...

[user104658]

Originally Posted by Ammi

..yeah the bringing back bit was just a joke and it's just that I have rubbish jokes...but honestly TS that's not true in my experience either, which is more that a child being hit at home in the sense I think that you mean... would be more the child who is less likely to join in with any games whatever they are and generally interact less because whether playing with sticks be appropriate or not and obviously in school it's reinforced that it's not...it's much more of a generally happy, playful and active mind and a worry free mind....obviously there may be some situations that you have said as well but it's also something that shouldn't be assumed, that violence will breed violence and active violence...because violence so often breeds fear and insecurity and a 'dumbing down' of a child...

I agree really, one of my daughters friends who is very much "controlled" at home (and would never misbehave in front of her mother, or a teacher for that matter, because she is terrified of authority figures) can best be describes as nervous, anxious and insecure.

She is also incredibly angry and shoves, hits, grabs, and shouts in kids faces and lashes out when she thinks there aren't any adults looking.

[Ammi]

Originally Posted by Toy Soldier

I agree really, one of my daughters friends who is very much "controlled" at home (and would never misbehave in front of her mother, or a teacher for that matter, because she is terrified of authority figures) can best be describes as nervous, anxious and insecure.

She is also incredibly angry and shoves, hits, grabs, and shouts in kids faces and lashes out when she thinks there aren't any adults looking.

..I think though and looking at your above post as well...this is why these things are hard to diagnose and shouldn't be generalised and judged either because there is no 'one size fits all'..and bullying isn't always about 'power' it can also be out of frustrations and an inability to communicate, that can be something in the home environment but not always...but yeah, a child constantly in trouble for physical aggression is a worry but so can a child be who never gets into trouble as well....