[Ammi]

..truth you’re right, she doesn’t have a father ..she’s from a single parent family from when she was a young child and her father died, which was the time she became addicted to food/eating... She was banned from her school canteen for over-eating and stopped attending PE lessons, how would those things help but maybe it was because of health concerns...I think there is a lot of ‘blame’ that could be shared because it isn’t all her mother’s ..her mother is also someone who is addicted to food and does realise and acknowledge her own faults for her daughter but maybe she needed help as well...and yeah the cost of all of this and the previous time she was hospitalised is huge but maybe that cost could also have been avoided if both she and her mum had the care needed several years ago because for her it’s not just obesity and over-eating, it’s a mental health issue through addiction...and maybe she did have the care and maybe everything was tried and maybe nothing worked so this is her weight now and technically it is neglect I know, but maybe her mum was helpless to be able to help her daughter because her mental health wasn’t good either and the help wasn’t there for her/for either of them when they needed it..at a time when a husband and father was what they grieved so much....

[Helen 28]

Originally Posted by Ammi

..truth you’re right, she doesn’t have a father ..she’s from a single parent family from when she was a young child and her father died, which was the time she became addicted to food/eating... She was banned from her school canteen for over-eating and stopped attending PE lessons, how would those things help but maybe it was because of health concerns...I think there is a lot of ‘blame’ that could be shared because it isn’t all her mother’s ..her mother is also someone who is addicted to food and does realise and acknowledge her own faults for her daughter but maybe she needed help as well...and yeah the cost of all of this and the previous time she was hospitalised is huge but maybe that cost could also have been avoided if both she and her mum had the care needed several years ago because for her it’s not just obesity and over-eating, it’s a mental health issue through addiction...and maybe she did have the care and maybe everything was tried and maybe nothing worked so this is her weight now and technically it is neglect I know, but maybe her mum was helpless to be able to help her daughter because her mental health wasn’t good either and the help wasn’t there for her/for either of them when they needed it..at a time when a husband and father was what they grieved so much....

Maybe - maybe, maybe, too many maybe's. It's simply like 99% of cases like this - overeating (in this case hugely) and no exercise.

[Ammi]

Originally Posted by Helen 28

Maybe - maybe, maybe, too many maybe's. It's simply like 99% of cases like this - overeating (in this case hugely) and no exercise.

..I agree Helen, it was over-eating and lack of exercise etc but it's also the reasons for that addiction and whether it could have been prevented from getting to this extent..and yeah it's a lot of maybes because I don't know, maybe the help was there when she was a child and it just wasn't acted on..there is 22yrs to this story and all we know is how she is now/her weight...

[the truth]

Originally Posted by Ammi

..truth you’re right, she doesn’t have a father ..she’s from a single parent family from when she was a young child and her father died, which was the time she became addicted to food/eating... She was banned from her school canteen for over-eating and stopped attending PE lessons, how would those things help but maybe it was because of health concerns...I think there is a lot of ‘blame’ that could be shared because it isn’t all her mother’s ..her mother is also someone who is addicted to food and does realise and acknowledge her own faults for her daughter but maybe she needed help as well...and yeah the cost of all of this and the previous time she was hospitalised is huge but maybe that cost could also have been avoided if both she and her mum had the care needed several years ago because for her it’s not just obesity and over-eating, it’s a mental health issue through addiction...and maybe she did have the care and maybe everything was tried and maybe nothing worked so this is her weight now and technically it is neglect I know, but maybe her mum was helpless to be able to help her daughter because her mental health wasn’t good either and the help wasn’t there for her/for either of them when they needed it..at a time when a husband and father was what they grieved so much....

male role models are almost non existent for many kids sadly....in primary and junior schools there is a tiny percent of male teachers, that is a massive disadvantage for all kids. in this case this girl tragically lost her dad and this was perhaps part of her food spiral...again it underlines the importance of a father and also the turbulence it must cause when a child loses her dad. I know id have been finished many years ago without my phenomenal dad.
quite how it reached this proportions I don't know, its tragic