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04-08-2015, 07:50 AM | #1 | |||
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I assume its due to her age? [A mother who breastfeeds her 6-year-old daughter, says she has been called a paedophile after sharing her story online. Maha Al Musa, 52, says she has never been personally attacked when breastfeeding Aminah in public, however she has received hurtful comments online. "I've been called a peadophile," the mum-of-three told Channel 9's Inside Story.] http://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/2015...ushpmg00000067 Last edited by arista; 04-08-2015 at 09:04 AM. |
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04-08-2015, 08:01 AM | #2 | |||
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..I assume you mean due to the age of the child not the mum, that's confusing as the mum's age is in the title and it has no relevance...the paedophile thing is just stupid/people being idiots...although I personally don't understand breastfeeding at such an age because it's not weaning a child in their own independence....
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04-08-2015, 08:18 AM | #3 | |||
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i think she probably does get some kind of thrill out of it. there's no other reason she would keep doing it.
and the fact that she posts about it online and does it in public just proves that she is doing it for a selfish thrill.
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04-08-2015, 08:23 AM | #4 | |||
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04-08-2015, 08:39 AM | #5 | |||
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..no, really Arista it has no relevance/the mum's age with this story and it's also not in the article title/it's the child's age which is...so is paedophilia just something that's associated with older people, then..?...really Arista, you're better than to slant the title like that and make an inference to the mum's age...
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04-08-2015, 08:52 AM | #6 | |||
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OK I have Corrected the Title Last edited by arista; 04-08-2015 at 09:04 AM. |
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04-08-2015, 09:20 AM | #7 | ||
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The "natural" age of weaning (when a child would choose to stop themselves without encouragement) can be anywhere between 2 and about 8. It would be perfectly normal for "wild humans" to still be having breastmilk aged 6. Really, it's society and society's expectations that are "weird"... And also I suspect that people who see a child of any age breastfeeding and make a sexual connection are the ones who have subconscious psychosexual issues - not the one doing the breastfeeding. It is the observer making that link who is sexualising children.
As for where this problem comes from, I think it's the tendency to push children to "grow up" ever more quickly. The workload my daughter has in early primary school aged just 5, is MUCH more than when I was that age. The goal of our lovely capitalist way of life is to have parents back in work ASAP, and have kids away from their parents learning to be effective workers ASAP... So our perspective is skewed and we look at children as being older than they are. A lot of the time my 5 year old speaks and acts indistinguishably from a teenager. But then at other times there are moments when it strikes me that she really is still just a baby. |
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04-08-2015, 09:47 AM | #8 | |||
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Personally I feel it's down to the mother struggling with the transition from the mothering instinct, having a child at 46 and then feeding so long.
There is no benefit to the child I wouldn't thought past infancy, there are other ways to bond and stay close to your child, they are are also perfectly equip to ingest their own nutrients.
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04-08-2015, 10:09 AM | #9 | |||
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04-08-2015, 10:16 AM | #10 | |||
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It is maybe uncommon however the reaction that she is some kind of deviant is the thing I consider weird, it's sad when that response by society is less shocking than a mother breastfeeding :/
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04-08-2015, 10:16 AM | #11 | ||
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04-08-2015, 10:20 AM | #12 | ||
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As it stands, there's no evidence either way, and stating that it's driven by the mother is a complete guess. Last edited by Toy Soldier; 04-08-2015 at 10:21 AM. |
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04-08-2015, 10:27 AM | #13 | |||
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04-08-2015, 10:30 AM | #14 | |||
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you get wierdos and show-offs
case in point |
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04-08-2015, 10:32 AM | #15 | |||
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This woman is using her kid to get attention, just like parents who put their kids in movies or reality shows.
Clearly this woman is manipulating her child to keep doing this, because she tells the kid, this is ow i love you, i will reward you if you go along with this.
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04-08-2015, 10:32 AM | #16 | ||
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You're projecting your own issues with breastfeeding and suggesting that it's a universal issue. It isn't.
I can get on board with the idea that at this age, it obviously shouldn't be in public. But it's biologically normal, it isn't psychologically harmful to the child, and it's culturally normal in MANY countries. Your issue is that you personally find it weird and icky. I'm justly baffled as to why you think that's in any way relevant. |
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04-08-2015, 10:33 AM | #17 | |||
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This is clearly some psychological defect in the mother. This is very much an anomaly, not normal. now just because it's not normal, does;t necessarily mean that it is wrong, but i would argue that it is wrong because she is literally using this child as a prop to get attention, and it provides no practical benefit to the child. it's purely for a sick need for attention.
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04-08-2015, 10:34 AM | #18 | ||
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Unless she's trying to breastfeed you, Livia? Is she? Has this woman tried to forcibly feed you her milk? Because that's a whole other thread.
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04-08-2015, 10:36 AM | #19 | ||
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It has biological precedent and is not abnormal human psychology. If that's more helpful phrasing. |
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04-08-2015, 10:37 AM | #20 | |||
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Yes 6 year old
does not need to be breast feed by that age its time to move on Back on Topic Last edited by arista; 04-08-2015 at 10:39 AM. |
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04-08-2015, 10:38 AM | #21 | |||
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it's also a guess on your part that there would be psychological stresses to the child if she stopped, we all have had to end feeding whether breast or bottle most before we would maybe have wished to are we a nation of damaged people?.....er, don't answer that.
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04-08-2015, 10:38 AM | #22 | |||
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at some point a healthy mother teaches her children to find their own food, it's a stage of development, instead this mother wants to make the child dependent on her. that is abusive. It's all about the mother wanting her child to be permanently dependent on her.
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04-08-2015, 10:44 AM | #23 | ||
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The second paragraph, however, there is really no evidence for at all. It's unusual but, again, completely within the bounds of what is natural for the human species. Most children naturally (i.e. With no forcing or encouragement) stop breastfeeding somewhere between 2 and 4 but some will go longer. I find it fascinating that some people have such an extreme reaction to this fact. But not unsurprising in a world where a huge number of mums don't try to breastfeed at all, and the vast majority don't make it past a couple of months. |
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04-08-2015, 10:46 AM | #24 | ||
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I believe it's always a good idea to build children's confidence by encouraging them to be as independent as possible. It just makes more sense that a child that is more capable of thinking for themselves and providing for themselves will be more successful. I believe this long term breast feeding movement by some mothers is not helpful to a child's long term development. i believe it is a form of co-dependency, and co-dependency is a very toxic form of relationships.
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