[Kizzy]

Originally Posted by Good King Glennceslas

All children leech off their parents. You don't slop out paying your way. Yeah she pays £50 a month and its more than most moron teenagers out there but that nowhere near covers the upkeep of a household so in a way she is kinda leeching off her mum.

We obviously have different views and values. I actually paid £60 a week when I first started working at 16 which mum then took down to £50 a week because I was giving her more money than she needed.

Which is fine when you work full time, Amy doesn't, if she's a full time student her mother gets child benefit and CTC that means that taking that into consideration her mother has more from both combined than your mother got from you.
When she is qualified and has a decent job I'm sure there she will be contributing more to the household, as it stands as a parent I'd say that was sufficient.
Sharing your internet with neighbours is a silly idea, I'd say that's a fair gripe and not disrespectful at all.

[Benjamin]

Originally Posted by Good King Glennceslas

All children leech off their parents. You don't slop out paying your way. Yeah she pays £50 a month and its more than most moron teenagers out there but that nowhere near covers the upkeep of a household so in a way she is kinda leeching off her mum.

We obviously have different views and values. I actually paid £60 a week when I first started working at 16 which mum then took down to £50 a week because I was giving her more money than she needed.

Well what you paid is your own circumstance, so I don't see why you are comparing what you paid to what she does. At that age I was working 3 jobs and not even living at home to fund myself to get to college but those were my circumstances.

Also it's not called leeching off of your parents as you so negatively put it. It's called being young and not able to fully fend for yourself quite yet.

And as for you saying whatever you want, your are the first to moan about it being unfriendly on here yet here you are (again) straight in to being a hypocrite.

[LukeB]

I don't get how Amy is leeching off her mum, she isn't relying on anyone from what I saw, she pays her way, she even stated she pays for her horse and dog(if she was leeching she would rely on people for that). She also said she pays for her food as well. She's at college who can't get a full time job because of the hours. I'm sure she would contribute more if she had a higher wage(full time work).

[Ammi]

...t'is the season to be worry..I don't know Amy, maybe your mum is feeling some financial stresses particularly atm with Christmas and the expense of it, so it's something that she's said to you without thinking your side of it so much..parents do that sometimes, the same way as their children do, we all act and react because of our stress levels etc...the good thing is that you're coming up to a time when you'll have some time away from work etc together, a more chilled and relaxed time, so you can both talk about it and you can explain how you contributing more would be such a struggle for you, with all of the other things that you're committed to financially..I know that she'll know that already when she thinks about it more deeply but could probably just be so worried, herself atm...I think when you both sit down and talk together, you'll figure it out but I think your reaction atm is one that many would have but obviously you both need to understand each other now, each one's financial pressure etc...and Christmas time/holiday time is a good time to do that....

...you can also explain why you think that giving the password to a neighbour is really not a good idea at all, children are often so much more internet etc savvy than their parents...I'm sure that she thought she was doing a kind thing and maybe for someone else who she felt may be struggling..?...sounds like a sweet and kind mum to me, even if it isn't such a clever idea...and I know that she has a sweet and lovely daughter as well so you two will figure it out together......

[Mystic Mock]

Originally Posted by Good King Glennceslas

Like I said, its her mothers bill, so can let whoever she wants use it.

No because if it's her Mother's bill then she should be the only one paying for it then.

The Mother can't have it both ways.

[Mystic Mock]

Originally Posted by Good King Glennceslas

Its called reality. Welcome to real world, where adults have to pay for things.

Pay for things that they use and not some stranger next door.

[Babayaro.]

Originally Posted by Good King Glennceslas

And you do sound like a brat and you have been leeching off your mum since you were born. Every child does. No lies spotted.

what a horrible thing to say

[Locke.]

I think 17 is too young to be paying any rent at all nevermind paying extra bills on top of it, especially if you are not working full time.

Time for you to pull the trick someone mentioned earlier in the thread and tell her you are fine with the internet being turned off, she'll probably just keep it on if she uses it.

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by GLENN BILL BB7

Its stories like this that makes me think that people only have children to scab money of them lol

You seriously have no concept of how much it costs to raise a kid if you think people have children to profit from them

[Crimson Dynamo]

when you start working you start paying for your keep thats the way I was raised

[Lostie!]

Originally Posted by Joseph the Carpenter

when you start working you start paying for your keep thats the way I was raised

Which she has been doing, as has been stated numerous times.

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Santa's Sakho

I think 17 is too young to be paying any rent at all nevermind paying extra bills on top of it, especially if you are not working full time.

Time for you to pull the trick someone mentioned earlier in the thread and tell her you are fine with the internet being turned off, she'll probably just keep it on if she uses it.

and change the Password

But yeah, you pay for a horse, a dog, rent all with a 17 year olds part time job??? It must be a **** hot part time job

[Will.]

goodness me, give Amy a break. She is 17, not 27.

Most 17's are still at home and don't pay anything and have no plans of leaving home anytime soon, there still treating like minors by their parents.

Amy is doing a fantastic job at 17 with full time college and part time job, well above what most people her age are doing. Let's be real in 2015.

[Crimson Dynamo]

Originally Posted by Frostie!

Which she has been doing, as has been stated numerous times.

i never said she hasnt been

[kirklancaster]

Originally Posted by Black Xmas

I pay rent to live at home with my mum and step dad (£50 a month) which is totally fine, I have no issue with paying my way - but lately she's been talking about me paying for part of the bill for using the phone and the internet - I wasn't massively happy because I don't use the home phone ever and the Internet is a flat charge she would pay if I used it or not.

So tonight the woman across the road came with her new iPhone and my mum gave her our pass code for our internet and my step dad asked why and my mum said 'it reaches across the road so I let them use ours'.

I am so ****ing angry! she's pressuring me to pay for Internet because she thinks it's only fair I share the cost since I use it but she's letting people across the road use it for free??? WTF!

This is just my opinion as a parent with three grown kids now, having had them all at home with me.

Firstly, I do not know the mum's financial circumstances, but I do know that while £50 per week does not seem exhorbitant in todays economy, AJ is right to protest and feel aggrieved that she is being asked to contribute to internet services she says she barely uses when a stranger has been granted unlimited access to those services for free by AJ's mum.

'Charity' truly does 'begin at home' in this scenario.

If AJ wished to donate part of her hard earned 'disposable income' to a stranger, then it should be of her own free will, and I too would feel pissed if I was in her place and someone demanded extra from me to give to a stranger.

Sometimes parents can feel the financial 'pinch' - especially at this time of year - but if that is the case, then cost cutting should begin with the extraordinarily generous 'gift' made to the stranger across the road, otherwise, any pleas of being short of money will ring hollow.

[Jake.]

Doesn't seem fair really, fair enough a bit of keep but yeah it sounds like she's taking the mick

[Kazanne]

Can you not get a internet dongle the gives you your own internet,I am sure you can get them,they are like a pay as you go thing,maybe that would be a better option for you,then you wont need to use your moms.

[bots]

Without knowing family details, its not really for anyone to know what is right or wrong .... AJ may be an independent millionaire outside her job

Families are all about give and take, if times are tough, and you can help, you should, because that's what families do, the neighbour thing is a bit of a red herring to me.

[Cherie]

Originally Posted by Tinselbells

Can you not get a internet dongle the gives you your own internet,I am sure you can get them,they are like a pay as you go thing,maybe that would be a better option for you,then you wont need to use your moms.

Good idea Kaz

[AnnieK]

Originally Posted by ChristmasNeeve

You seriously have no concept of how much it xcosts to raise a kid if you think people have children to profit from them

Lol....right. I am thinking of sending my 5 year old down the mines. Time that one stopped leeching and earned his kept

I started work at 17 and paid keep plus I had a sky box in my room so paid that extra part of the bill plus any phone calls....BUT....I worked a lot of hours and my parents paid everything else so it wasn't a major hit for me but if Amy is at college plus paying keep and for animals, that's a lot of her income gone I'm sure. Have a quiet word, and tell her your concerns, I'm sure she will understand then xx

[lostalex]

wow, your mom seems to have no concept of the internet. first of all, the more people using it, the slower it goes, second, what if the neighbor uses her wifi connection to download child porn, or commit credit card fraud of identity theft, the cops will blame your family. what is your mom thinking? tell her to change the password immediately.

[Mystic Mock]

Originally Posted by Joseph the Carpenter

when you start working you start paying for your keep thats the way I was raised

No offense LT but when you was born stuff like bills was a lot cheaper so you could afford to pay your share for it.

I know what it's like in this time as the only times that I can spend my money on anything that I want is on my Birthday and Christmas time.

Tbf I don't have a job like Amy Jade does so I'm even more sympathetic towards her as she's working for what exactly? Just to pay for strangers to use her family's Wifi?

[kirklancaster]

Originally Posted by Father Mockmas

No offense LT but when you was born stuff like bills was a lot cheaper so you could afford to pay your share for it.

I know what it's like in this time as the only times that I can spend my money on anything that I want is on my Birthday and Christmas time.

Tbf I don't have a job like Amy Jade does so I'm even more sympathetic towards her as she's working for what exactly? Just to pay for strangers to use her family's Wifi?

Good post Mock.

[bots]

Originally Posted by Father Mockmas

No offense LT but when you was born stuff like bills was a lot cheaper so you could afford to pay your share for it.

I know what it's like in this time as the only times that I can spend my money on anything that I want is on my Birthday and Christmas time.

Tbf I don't have a job like Amy Jade does so I'm even more sympathetic towards her as she's working for what exactly? Just to pay for strangers to use her family's Wifi?

and wages were much less too, so it comes to the same thing

[Mystic Mock]

Originally Posted by Elf On Strike

and wages were much less too, so it comes to the same thing

We all know that the wages have not been upped enough to cope with the new standard of living.

Well that's for working class families anyway.