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Originally Posted by Mokka

I am a mother and I strongly disagree.

I am estranged from my father... and He and my mother have not spoken for years. If it were my mother's funeral.. the last thing I would want would be for my father to use it as a platform to try to get into my life again. I would want him to keep his distance and let those who loved her mourn for her together.

A funeral and mourning period for someone is a time for those who were truly loved and connected with that someone to lean on each other. I dare say that David's son has plenty of other people to lean on and take comfort from without his mother showing up and bringing with her a lot of past drama.

Now is not the time for her to make a grand gesture to get into his life... if that is what either of them want

I couldn't agree more.
Staying away from the funeral could be a way of showing respect to her son.
Families fall out big time, you can be dead to somebody even if you are alive.
It sounds to me like Duncan and Angie cut the bonds years ago, her going to the funeral uninvited could cause more distress than comfort.