[jaxie]

I think if it was my kid I would have said I love him/her but that we see everything and that he/she needs to have a think about what she wants people to see and remember her doing. That's probably the most tactful you could be in the circumstances without getting her home and telling her some home truths. Unfortunately at this age you can advise but they are adults and you really can't control what they do. Stephanie is a train wreck. She clearly hears what she wants to hear and it must be nightmare trying to get some sense in her. Her parents must be worried sick.

I have a son of a similar age who is off travelling the world and watching young people like this make me grateful every day for the nice, centred, smart young man I raised. I can only say things like 'Please don't tell me you are going to jump out of a plane for fun until after you've done it as I don't want to think about it, thanks!' I can't say 'Don't do it!'.