[hot2go]

Garfie....didn't quote full message cause it's a biggy....only reason....I agree with you that it's better to find positives out of trauma but I don't think " Life happens but you choose how you respond " ....thats was I see as a generalisation ....I honestly don't think some people can help how they respond and only with maturity and with professional help does that happen ....a lot of people find a way out of their demons but not so often by the age of 20....the same experience can happen to two people but they each have they own personality strengths and weaknesses and they each have different backgrounds and influences...what one person can deal with and move on from another cant and vice versa.....some people moved on from the Tsunami and felt they had been lucky...others needed years of help and still have nightmares.....I don't think its as simple as choice but for some it can be.