[Jack_]

Originally Posted by Vicky.

I actually don't get whats so horrific about sleeping with a 17 year old?

I know thats not the issue here though

It's just nonsense

The argument is usually 'they're in a position of power', yeah and the supposed ~victim~ is of age and is more than capable in the eyes of the law of consenting. In fact, what's to say the 'power' aspect isn't a turn on for the person in question?

It's like you can't have your cake and eat it. Either you're able to make decisions about your body and what you do with it aged 16 or you're not, it's the business of no one else what happens outside the confines of a sixth form, college or uni to be honest

[Vicky.]

Originally Posted by Jack_

It's just nonsense

The argument is usually 'they're in a position of power', yeah and the supposed ~victim~ is of age and is more than capable in the eyes of the law of consenting. In fact, what's to say the 'power' aspect isn't a turn on for the person in question?

It's like you can't have your cake and eat it. Either you're able to make decisions about your body and what you do with it aged 16 or you're not, it's the business of no one else what happens outside the confines of a sixth form, college or uni to be honest

Well yes, does this extend to the likes of doctors of policemen? Like, if a policeman round here got with someone here, surely that is an abuse of power. Same for GPs, and other professions.

[Liam-]

Originally Posted by Vicky.

Well yes, does this extend to the likes of doctors of policemen? Like, if a policeman round here got with someone here, surely that is an abuse of power. Same for GPs, and other professions.

Police people aren't allowed to get involved with anyone they're working with, if they're working with a victim, or close to a family, they're not allowed to get with them, while they're working with them, the same as GP's.

[Vicky.]

Originally Posted by Liam-

Police people aren't allowed to get involved with anyone they're working with, if they're working with a victim, or close to a family, they're not allowed to get with them, while they're working with them, the same as GP's.

Wow I didn't know this at all. Its nearly always teachers you hear about.

[Liam-]

Originally Posted by Vicky.

Wow I didn't know this at all. Its nearly always teachers you hear about.

Yeah, it's for all jobs where you're seen as an 'authority figure' or you're in a profession where you're meant to be caring for people, I'll use Emmerdale as an example, a doctor got struck off because he had an affair with a patient, even though she was 17, if you're in a position of power and trust, you're meant to be the bigger person and look elsewhere, away from the people you're meant to be looking after, hence why it's not illegal, but it is severely frowned upon

[arista]

Originally Posted by Vicky.

Wow I didn't know this at all. Its nearly always teachers you hear about.

Scotland rules

[Ammi]

..it isn't just about being consent age though..teachers are loco parentis/acting as a parent to schoolchildren in their care and in a position of trust...a school child can't consent and it be ok because it still would be like sexual harassment by the teacher as the student can't ever be equal to her in a school environment of her being authoritative over him...it's an abuse of trust/not just a consent age thing...

[bots]

Originally Posted by Vicky.

Wow I didn't know this at all. Its nearly always teachers you hear about.

With teachers, they potentially have the power to pass or fail a student and thereby control their behaviour. Therefore it is an environment open to abuse. The rules are there to protect people and she knew those rules all to well.

Those in the medical profession have the power to cure/not cure illness. They are also dealing with vulnerable people hence why relations there are also a no no

[Jack_]

Originally Posted by Vicky.

Well yes, does this extend to the likes of doctors of policemen? Like, if a policeman round here got with someone here, surely that is an abuse of power. Same for GPs, and other professions.

It usually does as far as I'm aware

I still feel the same in those cases though, because the thing for me is this...it can't be 'abuse of power' if the person consents? If the person doesn't want to go through with it and they still do, then it's assault/rape in the way it usually would be. But if you consent and are willing, what exactly is the issue?

We live in this bizarre world where we are defined by our job title and our occupation becomes our life and once you leave work your private life doesn't become mutually exclusive well no sorry but it does