[Crimson Dynamo]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

If they have nothing in common maybe it's just as well they're separating?

Yes I think so but at the mo he is looking at the whole years worth of woe and turmoil and all the friends stuff and hassle and thinking "oh fck I do not want to go through all that"

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by LeatherTrumpet

Yes I think so but at the mo he is looking at the whole years worth of woe and turmoil and all the friends stuff and hassle and thinking "oh fck I do not want to go through all that"

Yeah I can understand that, seperating after that long will be tough and a bit of an ordeal but once he gets through it he may just be happy that it happened. I can't think of anything worse then to be stuck in a rut with someone who doesn't interest you or who doesn't share the same priorities and some interests

[Crimson Dynamo]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

Yeah I can understand that, seperating after that long will be tough and a bit of an ordeal but once he gets through it he may just be happy that it happened. I can't think of anything worse then to be stuck in a rut with someone who doesn't interest you or who doesn't share the same priorities and some interests

His therapist said to him "when xxxx gets home from work at 10 and you hear the door open what do you immediately think?" He replied "oh fck no"

I told him that perhaps that was not a very positive reaction and he agreed..

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by LeatherTrumpet

His therapist said to him "when xxxx gets home from work at 10 and you hear the door open what do you immediately think?" He replied "oh fck no"

I told him that perhaps that was not a very positive reaction and he agreed..

Oh Dear, that's pretty telling eh? No harm she's moved in with her boss

[Cherie]

Originally Posted by LeatherTrumpet

His therapist said to him "when xxxx gets home from work at 10 and you hear the door open what do you immediately think?" He replied "oh fck no"

I told him that perhaps that was not a very positive reaction and he agreed..

so why is he so bothered she wanted space, at least she actually did something about it rather than plodding along

[Crimson Dynamo]

Originally Posted by Cherie

so why is he so bothered she wanted space, at least she actually did something about it rather than plodding along

Well i think he would have more preferred he to sit down and talk rather than say "oh im leaving"

I think its over and I guess there is no easy way for these things and it will always be messy.

Still i cant lay into her as they may get back together

[Kizzy]

Originally Posted by LeatherTrumpet

Well i think he would have more preferred he to sit down and talk rather than say "oh im leaving"

I think its over and I guess there is no easy way for these things and it will always be messy.

Still i cant lay into her as they may get back together

I doubt they will she sounds bored out of her brain, I say well done her it can't have been easy to climb out of that rut.
If his reaction when she came home was 'oh fk no' then maybe he's just disappointed at the disruption to his routine?

Life is short and if you finish work at 10 and come home to someone who has the 'oh fk no' face then I say turn around, walk straight out and don't look back!

[Crimson Dynamo]

Originally Posted by Kizzy

I doubt they will she sounds bored out of her brain, I say well done her it can't have been easy to climb out of that rut.
If his reaction when she came home was 'oh fk no' then maybe he's just disappointed at the disruption to his routine?

Life is short and if you finish work at 10 and come home to someone who has the 'oh fk no' face then I say turn around, walk straight out and don't look back!

Or maybe its because she comes home with a face like a slapped arse rolls a joint drinks wine and moans about work and never asks him about his day?

[Cherie]

Originally Posted by LeatherTrumpet

Well i think he would have more preferred he to sit down and talk rather than say "oh im leaving"


Isn't that the time for him to say let's talk?


I think its over and I guess there is no easy way for these things and it will always be messy.

Still i cant lay into her as they may get back together

Best stay out of it in all honesty

[caprimint]

Originally Posted by LeatherTrumpet

His therapist said to him "when xxxx gets home from work at 10 and you hear the door open what do you immediately think?" He replied "oh fck no"

I told him that perhaps that was not a very positive reaction and he agreed..

I guess it's the fact that they've been together for so long that he kind of doesn't want to lose that feeling of 'having someone there' even though it sounds like it's not the right person?