[jennyjuniper]

Originally Posted by Brillopad

Although I agree with your sentiments to some extent, in reality it simply isn't practical. Most of the responsibility would fall on women, which isn't fair, but from experience this usually happens. I am currently in this situation and cannot afford to just give up my job and my relative needs 24-hour care.
Also my relative felt strongly that they did not want to burden their family with caring for them - that is not the reason why they had children and I agree with that as I would not want to burden my family either. People choose to have children and usually do so for unselfish reasons. Most do not expect or want their family to become their carers as 'thanks' for having them.

I do not agree with trying to guilt-trip people. Not to mention this is what the government wants, to pass the responsibility onto families to take it away from themselves and saving money for them.

I agree it's not always feasable and I'm not trying to guilt trip anyone. All I am saying is, where possible children should help to care for their parents, be it by home visits or at the least making sure that the care facilities/home are up to standard.
Unfortunately the care home I worked in had 14 lady residents, who rarely received visits from their families and therefore had no idea (or couldn't care less) how their relatives were being treated.