[smudgie]

Originally Posted by Amy Jade

Yes lets blame the victims instead. Wow.

Maybe the second victim knew about the first victim..what would that make her then?
Just sounds like a load of young people having fun to me.
If they all lived in the same area it must have been a very large area for none of them to know what was going on.

[Denver]

Originally Posted by smudgie

Maybe the second victim knew about the first victim..what would that make her then?
Just sounds like a load of young people having fun to me.
If they all lived in the same area it must have been a very large area for none of them to know what was going on.

People like to believe they learn from mistakes

[smudgie]

Originally Posted by Adam.

People like to believe they learn from mistakes

Maybe at the time he didn't think of it as a mistake, or hurting anyone, then as you grow up you mature and see things differently.
I am only playing devils advocate here, I don't know Raph, all I know is he is young and I like what I see of his personality on BB.

[Amy Jade]

Originally Posted by smudgie

Maybe the second victim knew about the first victim..what would that make her then?
Just sounds like a load of young people having fun to me.
If they all lived in the same area it must have been a very large area for none of them to know what was going on.

Still a victim as he cheated on her.

[smudgie]

Originally Posted by Amy Jade

Still a victim as he cheated on her.

Hmmm, but she would be as guilty as him, sleeping with someone else's boyfriend.

[Marsh.]

Originally Posted by smudgie

Hmmm, but she would be as guilty as him, sleeping with someone else's boyfriend.

Wha

[Amy Jade]

Originally Posted by smudgie

Hmmm, but she would be as guilty as him, sleeping with someone else's boyfriend.

Nope not at all. He was the one with commitments.

[smudgie]

Originally Posted by Amy Jade

Nope not at all. He was the one with commitments.

That's what I am trying to get to the bottom of.
Was he actually committed?
Not being awkward, but I just don't know, or indeed understand when having a bit of fun becomes a commitment.
If they all went to the same school then surely they all knew what was going on.
If the second girl was happy to sleep with him knowing he was already seeing another girl then she can't complain if he done the same to her.
Do you wear someone's badge if you are going out with them at school, saying you have exclusivity...I just don't know, things were different in my day.

[Marsh.]

Originally Posted by smudgie

That's what I am trying to get to the bottom of.
Was he actually committed?
Not being awkward, but I just don't know, or indeed understand when having a bit of fun becomes a commitment.
If they all went to the same school then surely they all knew what was going on.
If the second girl was happy to sleep with him knowing he was already seeing another girl then she can't complain if he done the same to her.
Do you wear someone's badge if you are going out with them at school, saying you have exclusivity...I just don't know, things were different in my day.

Well I don't think we're talking about Raph casually sleeping with one girl and then casually sleeping with another girl. THAT'S a bit of fun.

I would imagine the point you start referring to one another as your girlfriend/boyfriend would be when the commitment comes in.

There's a clear difference between a relationship and a casual fling but maybe that's just me.

[smudgie]

Originally Posted by Marsh.

Well I don't think we're talking about Raph casually sleeping with one girl and then casually sleeping with another girl. THAT'S a bit of fun.

I would imagine the point you start referring to one another as your girlfriend/boyfriend would be when the commitment comes in.

There's a clear difference between a relationship and a casual fling but maybe that's just me.

No, I get that Marsh, what I don't know is when it becomes a commitment.
I can see the first girl could feel she was in a relationship( again, I don't understand at such a young age why you would be committed) but if the second and third girl knew he was in it for the fun then I can't see a problem with it.
I guess I just can't see what the rush is to get into a committed relationship that young, I was all for a good time before I settled down.