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Originally Posted by Livia

I just wanted to tell Brillo how I saw it, because she gets more crap thrown at her, more ridicule, more name-calling than anyone else on the forum.

I kind of agree with that but, is there a reason for it? I'm not saying it's right and I'm not saying there's an excuse for it, if Brillo is feeling marginalised and attacked then that's not a good look on anyone, I guess I'm just saying that she hasn't been picked out at random to be attacked... She has strong opinions and expresses them fairly forcefully and that invites a certain response.

I'm not even saying g it's the wrong way to be... I mean... I also have strong opinions, sometimes opinions that are a bit all over the place and I'm working through myself, and I don't exactly state them gently all of the time. And I do sometimes end up on the receiving end of some backlash for that. And I also on more than one occasion have found myself holding a very lonely line against multiple people in threads . Sometimes I enjoy it and find it stimulating, sometimes I find it frustrating and it, as much as I hate to admit it, it can affect my day overall (more due to spending hours battling and stressing in general than being upset by actual content, but still).

I guess my point is... If you choose to "go to battle" - like Brillo does, like I do, and many other TiBBers - you have to sort of accept that you're heading into potentially uncomfortable territory? There are other members who state their opinions in depth, and well, in a lower-key way and even when those opinions are very similar to those expressed by us... Battlers... They very rarely find themselves feeling the heat for it. There's a reason for that...

I guess all I'm saying is it partially is a decision. If you have strong opinions and state them bluntly, then the reply is probably going to require a thicker skin.