[Cherie]

Originally Posted by Quantum Bauble

Weight gain is slow and insidious and proper weight loss is sustainable and steady...

...in other words, you can pig out on Christmas Day and it's not going to undo any weight loss goals; it's just one day, even if you eat 4x your usual daily calories you wouldn't gain a pound.

UNLESS

...you fall into he trap of saying "Well, I could just do Boxing Day too..." and then "...oh, I'll def get on it next week..." and then a couple of weeks pass .

But yeah basically this is a willpower issue Cherie. You can enjoy Christmas Day to the full if you think you have the strength to go back to chicken salad on Boxing Day. Personally, I believe in you . Have the figgy pudding.

Thanks for the pep talk QB feeling a bit better today, this cold is annoying

[Tom and amy fan]

Normally yes but this is the first year without my grandma I'm very sad

[Ammi]

Originally Posted by Tom and amy fan

Normally yes but this is the first year without my grandma I'm very sad

….…with what I know about grandmas, you feeling sad is not what she would have wanted for you, what she would have loved, I’m thinking..is your smiles and to see those…it’s really so difficult to lose a much loved person in your life and then have that ‘first’ of a time that was so significant in you sharing with them…?…but the reason that it is so significant is because of all of those feelings of happiness and joy that she was part of with you…and you won’t ever lose those…feeling sad is inevitable and understandable …but if you’re able to feel that you can…try to also feel the smiles that she gave you and so much would want to see also……

[Kate!]

Originally Posted by Pigeon Lady

….…with what I know about grandmas, you feeling sad is not what she would have wanted for you, what she would have loved, I’m thinking..is your smiles and to see those…it’s really so difficult to lose a much loved person in your life and then have that ‘first’ of a time that was so significant in you sharing with them…?…but the reason that it is so significant is because of all of those feelings of happiness and joy that she was part of with you…and you won’t ever lose those…feeling sad is inevitable and understandable …but if you’re able to feel that you can…try to also feel the smiles that she gave you and so much would want to see also……

Such a lovely heartfelt post Ammi. Xx

[Cherie]

Originally Posted by Tom and amy fan

Normally yes but this is the first year without my grandma I'm very sad

aw that is tough, but it's natural to feel sad and in particular around Christmas we remember those who lost, it will get easier with time but you will never forget her x

[thesheriff443]

Originally Posted by Tom and amy fan

Normally yes but this is the first year without my grandma I'm very sad

I’m sorry for your lost
A good friend died at 58 less than two months ago so for his family Christmas will never be the same

Also my neighbour died at 61 earlier in the year and his sons have said they just want to get past Christmas

[Ammi]

Originally Posted by thesheriff443

I’m sorry for your lost
A good friend died at 58 less than two months ago so for his family Christmas will never be the same

Also my neighbour died at 61 earlier in the year and his sons have said they just want to get past Christmas

…sorry for the loss of your friend and neighbour also, Sheriff……occasions of celebration times are very, very difficult, I know….

[Cherie]

Originally Posted by thesheriff443

I’m sorry for your lost
A good friend died at 58 less than two months ago so for his family Christmas will never be the same

Also my neighbour died at 61 earlier in the year and his sons have said they just want to get past Christmas

its a first isn't it and the first is always the worst, it will get easier as you know but Christmas can be so poignant

[Mystic Mock]

Originally Posted by Tom and amy fan

Normally yes but this is the first year without my grandma I'm very sad

I'm sorry to hear about that.

[Gusto Brunt]

There's one thing I won't be having this Christmas and that is Christmas pudding.

My mum always said it's very much part of the festive eating, but I've never liked it. FAR TOO rich in flavour.

I have a sweet tooth but last year's Christmas pud was like swallowing a bag of sugar. Horrible. I actually flushed it down the loo.

Never again. I'll have a couple of mince pies after me dinner.

[Cherie]

Originally Posted by Gusto Brunt

There's one thing I won't be having this Christmas and that is Christmas pudding.

My mum always said it's very much part of the festive eating, but I've never liked it. FAR TOO rich in flavour.

I have a sweet tooth but last year's Christmas pud was like swallowing a bag of sugar. Horrible. I actually flushed it down the loo.

Never again. I'll have a couple of mince pies after me dinner.

you could have put it out for the birds...what an odd thing to do

[Gusto Brunt]

Originally Posted by Cherie Christmas

you could have put it out for the birds...what an odd thing to do

I put bread out for the birds every day.

But I think I felt so sick in my stomach with the sweetness of the pudding I just acted on impulse and chose the loo option.

[Cherie]

I feel like crap too guys ...never mind I'm a woman so I can push on through, get plenty rest La La land....

[thesheriff443]

Originally Posted by Cherie Christmas

I feel like crap too guys ...never mind I'm a woman so I can push on through, get plenty rest La La land....

Hope you feel better soon
Hope mr c is taking good care of you

[Cherie]

Originally Posted by thesheriff443

Hope you feel better soon
Hope mr c is taking good care of you

cheers Sherriff, unfortunately I gave it to him and to both my sons, its an infectious little bugger, so we are all taking care of each other in our own way, our neighbours were due to come in tomorrow for a Christmas drink but they are also unwell, just one of those things, we are off to Spain for some Sun on 30th so as long as we are okay by then I will be happy enough, have a good one however you celebrate x

[Ammi]

Originally Posted by Cherie Christmas

I feel like crap too guys ...never mind I'm a woman so I can push on through, get plenty rest La La land....

….ahhh, it isn’t about being a woman…I was actually going to respond to you as well because I obviously do wish for you to feel brighter soon but I got distracted…(…as I often do in reading some of the posts…)…for LaLa it feels particularly unfortunate and sucks because of his recent missed Lapland visit in having the virus but at least it looked as though that would mean he would be healthy for Christmas, some small consolation….but now to get a repeat of it and so close to Christmas Day is just so deflating for him…I do hope though that you feel better soon and for sure, well enough to go get some sherry, Cherie…

[Cherie]

Originally Posted by Pigeon Lady

….ahhh, it isn’t about being a woman…I was actually going to respond to you as well because I obviously do wish for you to feel brighter soon but I got distracted…(…as I often do in reading some of the posts…)…for LaLa it feels particularly unfortunate and sucks because of his recent missed Lapland visit in having the virus but at least it looked as though that would mean he would be healthy for Christmas, some small consolation….but now to get a repeat of it and so close to Christmas Day is just so deflating for him…I do hope though that you feel better soon and for sure, well enough to go get some sherry, Cherie…

ah yeah I know Ammi, I get where you were coming from with La La, not liking that this bug can come back so soon either, my son had a cold a few weeks back and I kept saying to him you wont get this as you had it already but he did Thank you for the wishes, I am sure we will all be on the mend by Wednesday x

[Mystic Mock]

I'm not really feeling it tbh.

It's probably because it's the first Christmas without my Mom being around.

It all just feels hollow to me.

[thesheriff443]

Originally Posted by Santa Goth

I'm not really feeling it tbh.

It's probably because it's the first Christmas without my Mom being around.

It all just feels hollow to me.

I feel your pain mock my mum passed in 2021
Every thing we love we lose

[Mystic Mock]

Originally Posted by thesheriff443

I feel your pain mock my mum passed in 2021
Every thing we love we lose

I'm sorry to hear about that Sheriff.

Does it start feeling more normal having Christmas go by without your Mother being around, if you don't mind me asking?

[thesheriff443]

Originally Posted by Santa Goth

I'm sorry to hear about that Sheriff.

Does it start feeling more normal having Christmas go by without your Mother being around, if you don't mind me asking?

Every one is different
You are younger than me so that means your mum was younger than my mum and you must feel cheated that she has gone so soon

Put it this way Christmas will never hold any thing for me

My dad is struggling on each day so that’s another head fcuk waiting to happen

You are a good man mock

[Mystic Mock]

Originally Posted by thesheriff443

Every one is different
You are younger than me so that means your mum was younger than my mum and you must feel cheated that she has gone so soon

Put it this way Christmas will never hold any thing for me

My dad is struggling on each day so that’s another head fcuk waiting to happen

You are a good man mock

My Mom was definitely younger than the average person you would be expecting to pass away (as morbid as that sounds) but it's true that she was reasonably young when she passed away.

And tbh you're right, I still keep having the day play out over and over in my head, and even some of the days prior to that, it's definitely something that I feel like I should've paid more attention to, but only started to once it was too late for her.

And my Dad is the same, he tries his best for me and my Brother to put on a more relaxed persona, but I can tell that he isn't the same as he used to be.

And thanks Sheriff, I know that I am probably giving out too much personal information on this thread, but I truly appreciate that you've heard me out.

I hope that you and your Dad can find something to cheer about this Christmas, I know that I'm going to try on my end, but I don't think that It'll be a successful attempt.

[Cherie]

Originally Posted by Santa Goth

I'm not really feeling it tbh.

It's probably because it's the first Christmas without my Mom being around.

It all just feels hollow to me.

Oh Mock, there is no sugar coating it, this Christmas will be tough for you and your family, but you will get through it and there will be many first times until her anniversary and then you will start to heal gradually, but there will be moments something will remind you of her and it will catch you out and you just have to let the tears fall wherever you, sending you hugs Mock xxx

[Mystic Mock]

Originally Posted by Cherie Christmas

Oh Mock, there is no sugar coating it, this Christmas will be tough for you and your family, but you will get through it and there will be many first times until her anniversary and then you will start to heal gradually, but there will be moments something will remind you of her and it will catch you out and you just have to let the tears fall wherever you, sending you hugs Mock xxx

Thanks Cherie.

My Birthday was probably the worst for me, I didn't enjoy that at all.

[Jessica.]

I'm feeling very festive, I'm so happy with the thoughtful gifts I've gotten everyone. It will be my first Christmas with my baby too, he's going to love it which will be the most important thing for me.