[Ninastar]

Originally Posted by Germyle

Like someone previously said, she'll tell you in her own time. I knew I liked guys when I was 16 but wouldn't dream of telling my mum at that age

this but the dykier version instead

[Kazanne]

I have a 13year old that is permantly stuck with one particular girl,they have sleepovers together all the time and take selfies,etc,I know mine is younger than yours but it may just be a girlie thing and if it is anything else,she will tell you in her own time I'm sure.Don't worry too much.

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Kazanne

I have a 13year old that is permantly stuck with one particular girl,they have sleepovers together all the time and take selfies,etc,I know mine is younger than yours but it may just be a girlie thing and if it is anything else,she will tell you in her own time I'm sure.Don't worry too much.

Yeah none of the things you said make her sound like she's into girls tbh, she sounds like a normal 16 year old

[Crimson Dynamo]

I did warn members about Diesel fumes and fluoride

[Crimson Dynamo]

I agree that LIttle Mix are a very bad influence and Ron if you can bin all the records she has by them I would, also burn posters etc

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by LeatherTrumpet

I agree that LIttle Mix are a very bad influence and Ron if you can bin all the records she has by them I would, also burn posters etc

[Withano]

Are you gonna tell her not to learn to drive at 17? Not to drink alcohol at 18? Or is this only about sex? I find it a bit odd that you'd restrict her from doing things which she is legally allowed to do? In my opinion, you need to accept that shes aged, and you cant really stop her from doing any of these things no matter how hard you try.. because to everyone else in the country, shes old enough to do them..
a pharmacist wont need your permission to sell her condoms, a driving instructer wont need your permission next year, and a bartender wont need your permission the year after that. Its just the way life works.

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Withano

Are you gonna tell her not to learn to drive at 17? Not to drink alcohol at 18? Or is this only about sex? I find it a bit odd that you'd restrict her from doing things which she is legally allowed to do? In my opinion, you need to accept that shes aged, and you cant really stop her from doing any of these things no matter how hard you try.. because to everyone else in the country, shes old enough to do them..
a pharmacist wont need your permission to sell her condoms, a driving instructer wont need your permission next year, and a bartender wont need your permission the year after that. Its just the way life works.

Are you kidding me? I hope you have your own daughter some day and come back to me then

There is not a hope in hell my daughter would have permission to have a boyfriend stay over and I would kick her ass if I found out she was having sex

[Withano]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

Are you kidding me? I hope you have your own daughter some day and come back to me then

There is not a hope in hell my daughter would have permission to have a boyfriend stay over and I would kick her ass if I found out she was having sex

But then whats the alternative? If not your house then where? I feel like its almost trading a parents discomfort for their childs discomfort. Its sort of inevitably gonna happen, and its a parents choice whether that happens comfortably or not
(To be fair, I'd imagine most people would want to wait until their parents arent in the house anyway, then its just a case of 'what you dont know doesnt hurt you')

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Withano

But then whats the alternative? If not your house then where? I feel like its almost trading a parents discomfort for their childs discomfort. Its sort of inevitably gonna happen.

No where preferably. It's nothing to do with my discomfort by the way, it's to do with the fact that she's 16, she's still in school, she still has me paying for her to live so she can't afford to look after a baby should she fall pregnant. She isn't emotionally ready for sex and she certainly isn't emotionally or financially ready for the risks that come with it.

Of course it will happen at some point but 16 is too young imo, I honestly don't give a s**t what the legal age is (and it's 17 here not 16)

[Withano]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

No where preferably. It's nothing to do with my discomfort by the way, it's to do with the fact that she's 16, she's still in school, she still has me paying for her to live so she can't afford to look after a baby should she fall pregnant. She isn't emotionally ready for sex and she certainly isn't emotionally or financially ready for the risks that come with it.

Of course it will happen at some point but 16 is too young imo, I honestly don't give a s**t what the legal age is (and it's 17 here not 16)

I actually agree its too young, I think America has one up on both our contries as far as this is concerned.. but her peers and her school is telling her differently.. they are (boys especially) fully aware of when they can legally have sex with no legal repercussions, theyve been aware since their first sex ed class at 11. If they believe they are ready, they wont look to parents, I dont think a 'not here, not anywhere' talk would work if theyre at that stage, and I think a 'not here' talk would put them in potential danger.

[Ronald.]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

No where preferably. It's nothing to do with my discomfort by the way, it's to do with the fact that she's 16, she's still in school, she still has me paying for her to live so she can't afford to look after a baby should she fall pregnant. She isn't emotionally ready for sex and she certainly isn't emotionally or financially ready for the risks that come with it.

Of course it will happen at some point but 16 is too young imo, I honestly don't give a s**t what the legal age is (and it's 17 here not 16)

I totally agree Niamh. R.

[Crimson Dynamo]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

Are you kidding me? I hope you have your own daughter some day and come back to me then

There is not a hope in hell my daughter would have permission to have a boyfriend stay over and I would kick her ass if I found out she was having sex

too bloody right

[Ronald.]

Originally Posted by LeatherTrumpet

too bloody right

Leather and Niamh speaking the truth as usual. R.

[Ronald.]

Originally Posted by Withano

Are you gonna tell her not to learn to drive at 17? Not to drink alcohol at 18? Or is this only about sex? I find it a bit odd that you'd restrict her from doing things which she is legally allowed to do? In my opinion, you need to accept that shes aged, and you cant really stop her from doing any of these things no matter how hard you try.. because to everyone else in the country, shes old enough to do them..
a pharmacist wont need your permission to sell her condoms, a driving instructer wont need your permission next year, and a bartender wont need your permission the year after that. Its just the way life works.

If only being a parent was as simple as that Withano. It's not so black and white and it's a bit naive of you to think it is. R.

[Withano]

Originally Posted by ronaldrogers

If only being a parent was as simple as that Withano. It's not so black and white and it's a bit naive of you to think it is. R.

Does she know that you have this 'not under my roof' rule anyway?

[Ronald.]

Originally Posted by Withano

Does she know that you have this 'not under my roof' rule anyway?

Absolutely, it goes without saying.. I'd like to think she wouldn't disrespect me and her mother like that - but teenagers don't always tell their parents the whole truth... R.

[Withano]

Originally Posted by ronaldrogers

Absolutely, it goes without saying.. I'd like to think she wouldn't disrespect me and her mother like that - but teenagers don't always tell their parents the whole truth... R.

It doesnt go without saying at all, you assuming it does is naive of you. My advice is dont tell her you have this rule anyway, I dont think it will be beneficial for the reasons I've listed above.

[Crimson Dynamo]

Ron does she like Lady Gaga, even after that terrible performance with Mettalica at the Grammys

If its a yes then that could be telling?

[Ronald.]

Originally Posted by LeatherTrumpet

Ron does she like Lady Gaga, even after that terrible performance with Mettalica at the Grammys

If its a yes then that could be telling?

Yes but so does my wife and she's not a lesbian. R

[Crimson Dynamo]

Originally Posted by ronaldrogers

Yes but so does my wife and she's not a lesbian. R

Well maybe she was Ron and you turned her

[Ronald.]

Originally Posted by LeatherTrumpet

Well maybe she was Ron and you turned her

Ha ha she wouldn't be the first that's succumbed to the power of Ron. R.

[Withano]

She has long hair LT, stop being silly.

[Crimson Dynamo]

Originally Posted by Withano

She has long hair LT, stop being silly.

Not all have short hair i think

[user104658]

Lost it at "she likes Little Mix"

But yes I concur with this sounding like pretty normal "teenage girl stuff" to me. Not just girls even, I used to crash on a friend's floor all the time in my teens, train home in the AM was a lot cheaper than a taxi . Sometimes there'd be 3 or 4 of us scattered around the room and no swordfights at all!

HOWEVER... You're not in the clear yet. What you also have to remember is that even if your daughter is straight... A lot of teenage girls "experiment" with their friends. So she might be straight but still doing lesbianisms in your house .