[Glenn.]

But at the minute her mother can give the internet to whoever she wants she pays for it. Like I said on the first page, if she spoke to her mother about the arrangement it can be resolved.

[Benjamin]

Originally Posted by Good King Glennceslas

But at the minute her mother can give the internet to whoever she wants she pays for it. Like I said on the first page, if she spoke to her mother about the arrangement it can be resolved.

But I still don't see how you can (or what gives you the right to) say she is leeching off of her mum or disprepecting her, when she clearly isn't.

[Glenn.]

Originally Posted by God

But I still don't see how you can (or what gives you the right to) say she is leeching off of her mum or disprepecting her, when she clearly isn't.

All children leech off their parents. You don't slop out paying your way. Yeah she pays £50 a month and its more than most moron teenagers out there but that nowhere near covers the upkeep of a household so in a way she is kinda leeching off her mum.

We obviously have different views and values. I actually paid £60 a week when I first started working at 16 which mum then took down to £50 a week because I was giving her more money than she needed.

[Kizzy]

Originally Posted by Good King Glennceslas

All children leech off their parents. You don't slop out paying your way. Yeah she pays £50 a month and its more than most moron teenagers out there but that nowhere near covers the upkeep of a household so in a way she is kinda leeching off her mum.

We obviously have different views and values. I actually paid £60 a week when I first started working at 16 which mum then took down to £50 a week because I was giving her more money than she needed.

Which is fine when you work full time, Amy doesn't, if she's a full time student her mother gets child benefit and CTC that means that taking that into consideration her mother has more from both combined than your mother got from you.
When she is qualified and has a decent job I'm sure there she will be contributing more to the household, as it stands as a parent I'd say that was sufficient.
Sharing your internet with neighbours is a silly idea, I'd say that's a fair gripe and not disrespectful at all.

[Benjamin]

Originally Posted by Good King Glennceslas

All children leech off their parents. You don't slop out paying your way. Yeah she pays £50 a month and its more than most moron teenagers out there but that nowhere near covers the upkeep of a household so in a way she is kinda leeching off her mum.

We obviously have different views and values. I actually paid £60 a week when I first started working at 16 which mum then took down to £50 a week because I was giving her more money than she needed.

Well what you paid is your own circumstance, so I don't see why you are comparing what you paid to what she does. At that age I was working 3 jobs and not even living at home to fund myself to get to college but those were my circumstances.

Also it's not called leeching off of your parents as you so negatively put it. It's called being young and not able to fully fend for yourself quite yet.

And as for you saying whatever you want, your are the first to moan about it being unfriendly on here yet here you are (again) straight in to being a hypocrite.

[LukeB]

I don't get how Amy is leeching off her mum, she isn't relying on anyone from what I saw, she pays her way, she even stated she pays for her horse and dog(if she was leeching she would rely on people for that). She also said she pays for her food as well. She's at college who can't get a full time job because of the hours. I'm sure she would contribute more if she had a higher wage(full time work).

[Locke.]

I think 17 is too young to be paying any rent at all nevermind paying extra bills on top of it, especially if you are not working full time.

Time for you to pull the trick someone mentioned earlier in the thread and tell her you are fine with the internet being turned off, she'll probably just keep it on if she uses it.

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Santa's Sakho

I think 17 is too young to be paying any rent at all nevermind paying extra bills on top of it, especially if you are not working full time.

Time for you to pull the trick someone mentioned earlier in the thread and tell her you are fine with the internet being turned off, she'll probably just keep it on if she uses it.

and change the Password

But yeah, you pay for a horse, a dog, rent all with a 17 year olds part time job??? It must be a **** hot part time job

[Crimson Dynamo]

when you start working you start paying for your keep thats the way I was raised

[Lostie!]

Originally Posted by Joseph the Carpenter

when you start working you start paying for your keep thats the way I was raised

Which she has been doing, as has been stated numerous times.

[Crimson Dynamo]

Originally Posted by Frostie!

Which she has been doing, as has been stated numerous times.

i never said she hasnt been

[Mystic Mock]

Originally Posted by Joseph the Carpenter

when you start working you start paying for your keep thats the way I was raised

No offense LT but when you was born stuff like bills was a lot cheaper so you could afford to pay your share for it.

I know what it's like in this time as the only times that I can spend my money on anything that I want is on my Birthday and Christmas time.

Tbf I don't have a job like Amy Jade does so I'm even more sympathetic towards her as she's working for what exactly? Just to pay for strangers to use her family's Wifi?

[kirklancaster]

Originally Posted by Father Mockmas

No offense LT but when you was born stuff like bills was a lot cheaper so you could afford to pay your share for it.

I know what it's like in this time as the only times that I can spend my money on anything that I want is on my Birthday and Christmas time.

Tbf I don't have a job like Amy Jade does so I'm even more sympathetic towards her as she's working for what exactly? Just to pay for strangers to use her family's Wifi?

Good post Mock.

[bots]

Originally Posted by Father Mockmas

No offense LT but when you was born stuff like bills was a lot cheaper so you could afford to pay your share for it.

I know what it's like in this time as the only times that I can spend my money on anything that I want is on my Birthday and Christmas time.

Tbf I don't have a job like Amy Jade does so I'm even more sympathetic towards her as she's working for what exactly? Just to pay for strangers to use her family's Wifi?

and wages were much less too, so it comes to the same thing

[Mystic Mock]

Originally Posted by Elf On Strike

and wages were much less too, so it comes to the same thing

We all know that the wages have not been upped enough to cope with the new standard of living.

Well that's for working class families anyway.

[bots]

Originally Posted by Father Mockmas

We all know that the wages have not been upped enough to cope with the new standard of living.

Well that's for working class families anyway.

with respect Mock, wages were very low a few years ago, there was none of the minimum wage safety net then. I think saying things were better in the old days is a long, long way from the truth, and I'm speaking as someone who has been in a work environment for more than 30 years.

[Cherie]

Originally Posted by Father Mockmas

No offense LT but when you was born stuff like bills was a lot cheaper so you could afford to pay your share for it.

I know what it's like in this time as the only times that I can spend my money on anything that I want is on my Birthday and Christmas time.

Tbf I don't have a job like Amy Jade does so I'm even more sympathetic towards her as she's working for what exactly? Just to pay for strangers to use her family's Wifi?

when LT was young it was a bartering system I believe

[kirklancaster]

Originally Posted by Cherie Christmas

when LT was young it was a bartering system I believe

[Crimson Dynamo]

Originally Posted by Father Mockmas

No offense LT but when you was born stuff like bills was a lot cheaper so you could afford to pay your share for it.

I know what it's like in this time as the only times that I can spend my money on anything that I want is on my Birthday and Christmas time.

Tbf I don't have a job like Amy Jade does so I'm even more sympathetic towards her as she's working for what exactly? Just to pay for strangers to use her family's Wifi?

yes mock but wages were too (as has been pointed out) youngsters today have far more disposable income than those in the 70s



and Policemen were taller

[kirklancaster]

Originally Posted by Joseph the Carpenter

yes mock but wages were too (as has been pointed out) youngsters today have far more disposable income than those in the 70s



and Policemen were taller

(and bigger and older)

[Will.]

goodness me, give Amy a break. She is 17, not 27.

Most 17's are still at home and don't pay anything and have no plans of leaving home anytime soon, there still treating like minors by their parents.

Amy is doing a fantastic job at 17 with full time college and part time job, well above what most people her age are doing. Let's be real in 2015.

[kirklancaster]

Originally Posted by Black Xmas

I pay rent to live at home with my mum and step dad (£50 a month) which is totally fine, I have no issue with paying my way - but lately she's been talking about me paying for part of the bill for using the phone and the internet - I wasn't massively happy because I don't use the home phone ever and the Internet is a flat charge she would pay if I used it or not.

So tonight the woman across the road came with her new iPhone and my mum gave her our pass code for our internet and my step dad asked why and my mum said 'it reaches across the road so I let them use ours'.

I am so ****ing angry! she's pressuring me to pay for Internet because she thinks it's only fair I share the cost since I use it but she's letting people across the road use it for free??? WTF!

This is just my opinion as a parent with three grown kids now, having had them all at home with me.

Firstly, I do not know the mum's financial circumstances, but I do know that while £50 per week does not seem exhorbitant in todays economy, AJ is right to protest and feel aggrieved that she is being asked to contribute to internet services she says she barely uses when a stranger has been granted unlimited access to those services for free by AJ's mum.

'Charity' truly does 'begin at home' in this scenario.

If AJ wished to donate part of her hard earned 'disposable income' to a stranger, then it should be of her own free will, and I too would feel pissed if I was in her place and someone demanded extra from me to give to a stranger.

Sometimes parents can feel the financial 'pinch' - especially at this time of year - but if that is the case, then cost cutting should begin with the extraordinarily generous 'gift' made to the stranger across the road, otherwise, any pleas of being short of money will ring hollow.

[Jake.]

Doesn't seem fair really, fair enough a bit of keep but yeah it sounds like she's taking the mick

[Kazanne]

Can you not get a internet dongle the gives you your own internet,I am sure you can get them,they are like a pay as you go thing,maybe that would be a better option for you,then you wont need to use your moms.

[Cherie]

Originally Posted by Tinselbells

Can you not get a internet dongle the gives you your own internet,I am sure you can get them,they are like a pay as you go thing,maybe that would be a better option for you,then you wont need to use your moms.

Good idea Kaz