[Morgan.]

Originally Posted by Rob!

Thank you, but I know that I'm considered part of it by those who see the chat thread as a problem on here. The thing is, I remember when I first started posting in there and I was practically ignored at first, but I kept at it and soon my sparkling personality shone through Seriously though, outcasting new people is just not something that I would ever do in real life, so why the hell would I do it on an internet forum and why would I be friends with people who do it either?

Exactly

[Vicky.]

Originally Posted by Rob!

Thank you, but I know that I'm considered part of it by those who see the chat thread as a problem on here. The thing is, I remember when I first started posting in there and I was practically ignored at first, but I kept at it and soon my sparkling personality shone through Seriously though, outcasting new people is just not something that I would ever do in real life, so why the hell would I do it on an internet forum and why would I be friends with people who do it either?

Well yes, this is what I said happened

[Rob!]

Originally Posted by Vicky.

Well yes, this is what I said happened

Well yeah, but everyone would have felt like that when they first started posting in there surely? It doesn't mean that there's a clique or that new people aren't welcome to start posting in there though, does it?

[Jordan.]

Originally Posted by Rob!

Thank you, but I know that I'm considered part of it by those who see the chat thread as a problem on here. The thing is, I remember when I first started posting in there and I was practically ignored at first, but I kept at it and soon my sparkling personality shone through Seriously though, outcasting new people is just not something that I would ever do in real life, so why the hell would I do it on an internet forum and why would I be friends with people who do it either?

That insult you made towards me an Daniel being "like drunk chavs ruining a nice park" just because we dared post in there still lingers with me. Is that your example of not trying to outcast peope?

[Rob!]

Originally Posted by Jordan.

That insult you made towards me an Daniel being "like drunk chavs ruining a nice park" just because we dared post in there still lingers with me. Is that your example of not trying to outcast peope?

That wasn't me but okay.

[Josy]

Originally Posted by Rob!

Thank you, but I know that I'm considered part of it by those who see the chat thread as a problem on here. The thing is, I remember when I first started posting in there and I was practically ignored at first, but I kept at it and soon my sparkling personality shone through Seriously though, outcasting new people is just not something that I would ever do in real life, so why the hell would I do it on an internet forum and why would I be friends with people who do it either?

Rob you yourself admit in this post that you were basically ignored when you first started posting in the chat threads which completely contradicts you then replying to me saying its not true.

The chat threads can seem very cliquey ( yes i mentioned the word clique after numerous other members had already done in the thread before me) and unwelcoming which you yourself have just proven at the same time as rubbishing those claims.

I also dont get the connection you try to make with some people saying they feel left out on the forum and me telling people to 'piss off' which btw i would never post to anyone that i wasnt friendly with or who never knew how to take my humour because believe or not yes i also have people i get on with and have a laugh with just as the other mods do, we are afterall members of this forum too..

[Rob!]

Originally Posted by Josy

Rob you yourself admit in this post that you were basically ignored when you first started posting in the chat threads which completely contradicts you then replying to me saying its not true.

The chat threads can seem very cliquey ( yes i mentioned the word clique after numerous other members had already done in the thread before me) and unwelcoming which you yourself have just proven at the same time as rubbishing those claims.

I also dont get the connection you try to make with some people saying they feel left out on the forum and me telling people to 'piss off' which btw i would never post to anyone that i wasnt friendly with or who never knew how to take my humour because believe or not yes i also have people i get on with and have a laugh with just as the other mods do, we are afterall members of this forum too..

But as lots of people in here have pointed out, including other mods, it's more a case of new people settling in than deliberately being ignored. It's not a conscious thing that is ever done. Every single member that has ever posted anywhere on this forum was probably "ignored" for a bit, when they first started, even you.

And exactly - you do it to people you get on with, which is exactly the same thing that happens in the chat thread with a number of people that post in there, so I don't really understand why you brought it up, unless you're implying that established members having banter like that with one another is somehow off putting to people that don't post in there as often? Which, again, is something you say you do to the people you get on with on here? It's surely no different.

[RileyH]

Are there cliques?

[Morgan.]

Originally Posted by RileyHollyoaks

Are there cliques?

No, just friendship groups with metaphorical walls up imo

[RileyH]

I've only been posting in the chat threads for around a month, all feel like I can speak to many people on the forum whether they post in the chat threads or not

Like Rob said tho, you just have to get yourself known one way or another

[Vicky.]

I didn't say new people weren't welcome to start posting there, but I understand why people think its a bit 'cliquey' as people ARE usually pretty much ignored to start with. As they would be IRL, its no different really.

You sound oddly defensive about this, when you just admitted you felt the same when starting posting there

[Rob!]

Originally Posted by Vicky.

I didn't say new people weren't welcome to start posting there, but I understand why people think its a bit 'cliquey' as people ARE usually pretty much ignored to start with. As they would be IRL, its no different really.

You sound oddly defensive about this, when you just admitted you felt the same when starting posting there

I am defensive, because it's one thing people who don't post all that often like Sue saying it. From her point of view, I don't think 'cliquey' would be a fair assessment of it, because as we've all said, it would be the same IRL. It's when members and mods and admin who have been posting on here for years are saying the same thing, that it winds me up and that's where my argument is coming from, more than newbies or on season posters saying it.

[ChristmasNeeve]

Don't worry Sue I'm old too

[smudgie]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

Don't worry Sue I'm old too

no...you are just middling.

[Peppermint]

I don't anymore tbh, I did in like 2009/2010 (the best days )

[smudgie]

I just jump in if I have something to say, obviously I am older and not on the same wavelength as some of the younger ones, but it is a great learning curve.
I have to say I never feel shunned if I get no response to my posts, I don't feel the need to answer every post I read either.
I love that we all have different views on life in general, and I admit that the banter is like a different language at times, but stick in there Sue, you will eventually realise that a lot of things we might take seriously are really only tongue in cheek banter......unless you are in the SD forum

[ChristmasNeeve]

Originally Posted by smudgie

I just jump in if I have something to say, obviously I am older and not on the same wavelength as some of the younger ones, but it is a great learning curve.
I have to say I never feel shunned if I get no response to my posts, I don't feel the need to answer every post I read either.
I love that we all have different views on life in general, and I admit that the banter is like a different language at times, but stick in there Sue, you will eventually realise that a lot of things we might take seriously are really only tongue in cheek banter......unless you are in the SD forum

yeah all this pretty much

[Macie Lightfoot]

I don't feel part of ~the in crowd~ bc I don't post in the chat threads and I'm not British so I can't talk about A-levels or Tesco or whatever else, and I'm just the crazy person who posts in the Survivor and BBUS sections that nobody listens to. And I think I'm okay with that?

[Wizard.]

Originally Posted by Macie Lightfoot

I don't feel part of ~the in crowd~ bc I don't post in the chat threads and I'm not British so I can't talk about A-levels or Tesco or whatever else, and I'm just the crazy person who posts in the Survivor and BBUS sections that nobody listens to. And I think I'm okay with that?

[Rob!]

Yeah, the SD forum is a different matter altogether

[Good King Glennceslas]

Tbh I’ve tried to disassociate myself as much as I can from TiBB over the last few months.

[Christmas Dynasnow]

Originally Posted by -Sue-

I have been a poster on here for quite sometime... but off season... have to be honest it's really hard to fit in...so i tend to not post... im not popular or funny nor do I have a mindset of a 20 something to fit in with most convo's so I random post from time to time...

am I alone..? anyone else in this vast online universe an outsider on the good ship TiBB

Being both popular and funny I find it had to empathise

I will ask Lucas to get a feel for what you are going through

[Calderyon]

You like Supernatural and that´s already a major plus in my books.

[RileyH]

Originally Posted by Calderyon

You like Supernatural and that´s already a major plus in my books.

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[Jordan.]

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