[Christina]

They shouldnt but it still dosent mean that what they are doing is right ..? x

[Ruth]

Why is it wrong?

[natjake2504]

I think it should stay illeagal purley because i dont think any women or man as men seem to be doing it more now, should degrade them selves and there bodies to it.

Just my thought!!!!!

[bananarama]

Originally posted by Tom_

Rubbish. One night stands are from two people who have just met and have a genuine interest in eachother. A prostitute just has sex with whoever because if they don't they won't get paid. People who have one night stands have a real job and yes they usually end up regretting it the next morning but at the time it seems like the right thing to do, and nobody is forcing anybody to have sex or feeling pressured into it for money.

People who have one night stands are infinitely worse than prostitutes as they have no value on themselves. Just like dirty dogs with no sense or morals. Animal behavour by humans at its worst...

[Captain.Remy]

I think some people forget that most of the girls are forced to do this, they don't do it on purpose. Some girls come from the east countries and thought they were supposed to learn dancing and then they finish in the street.
Some do because they have to pay University or stuff like this, it's all common now and it could be understandable.
So I think people should be more aware about the prostitutes instead of saying "Those sluts are discusting."

[Matt10k]

Originally posted by bananarama
People who have one night stands are infinitely worse than prostitutes as they have no value on themselves. Just like dirty dogs with no sense or morals. Animal behavour by humans at its worst...

Why does a one night stand mean you have no value for yourself? I don't think there is anything wrong with sex between two consenting adults.

And what is immoral about it for you to say they are 'dirty dogs with no sense of morals'? I don't understand that at all

[Dr43%er]

"People who have one night stands are infinitely worse than prostitutes as they have no value on themselves. Just like dirty dogs with no sense or morals. Animal behavour by humans at its worst..."

I take offence at that statement. Why do I have no value for myself? Why is it immoral? What I am is a consenting adult doing something natural with another consenting adult. Please tell me, after how many dates would I be able to have sex in your uber moral world.

[Mrluvaluva]

Originally posted by bananarama

People who have one night stands are infinitely worse than prostitutes as they have no value on themselves. Just like dirty dogs with no sense or morals. Animal behavour by humans at its worst...

I have had plenty of one night stands. Does that make me worse than a prostitute?

Did I get paid for them? No.

I value myself, and I do have morals.

Why is having sex animal behaviour? It's enjoyable, and if between 2 consenting people in the privacy of their own home, why not? Sex isn't dirty.

A prostitute gets paid for having sex. There is no emotion involved. It's a job, and a necessary one imo, although under many different circumstances that I won't go into in this post.

Please explain why a one night stand is worse than prostitution.

[Dr43%er]

On the animal behaviour. Yes it is. We are animals. It is natural to want sex. It is unnatural to put various moral rules to suite your beliefs.

[Matt10k]

Originally posted by Dr43%er
On the animal behaviour. Yes it is. We are animals. It is natural to want sex. It is unnatural to put various moral rules to suite your beliefs.

Ha, I was going to write something to that effect...

[Ruth]

I don't understand what is wrong with two consenting adults having sex. If you're not hurting anyone else, then surely it is nobody else's business?

[Sunny_01]

I suppose we all have different backgrounds and beliefs about what is right and wrong, along with all having very different life experiences.

I really am not opposed to legalising prostitution, I do think that we should do more to protect these men and women, it is kind of being implied that it is only women who do this! Yes for a lot of them circumstance places them in this situation, however some just see it as a really easy way to earn money, espcially if they really enjoy sex. I wonder if they self assess for tax purposes though? with legality comes responsibility to pay your taxes. Can you imagine the inland revenue with the forms claiming expenses for condoms etc.. would be hilarious. I only thought of this while getting my hubby stuff ready for his business end of year! god I hate doing this, it is so stressful.

[Mrluvaluva]

Originally posted by Sunny_01

Can you imagine the inland revenue with the forms claiming expenses for condoms etc.. would be hilarious. I only thought of this while getting my hubby stuff ready for his business end of year!

Why? Is he claiming for condoms?

[~Kizwiz~]

I cant understand why one night stands are worst than selling your body? Its been a while, but last time I had a one night stand it wasnt dirty and it certainly didnt make me immoral. 'Doing it' as you say was fun and exciting and most importantly enjoyable. There isnt a law against it, and so long as its between 2 consulting adults why should anyone feel ashamed or immoral. We no longer live in the dark ages and you certainly dont need to be married before you have sex without shame so where is the problem?

We arent living by victorian morals these days

[GiRTh]

I've only had one one night stand and strangely it was with the mother of my daughter.

I think one night stands are just as bad if not worse than prostitution. Theres a degree of honesty to a prostitute selling sex for money; one night stands are much less honest. In fact if the man wined and dined a girl to get her into bed then he should have gone to a prostitute in the first place, it would have worked out cheaper.

[Dr43%er]

If I have a one night stand it is always on that understanding. It is a one night stand. Sex. nothing more. If they were looking for more then it would not happen. It is all very honest. I am not saying nothing may come of it. I went out with a girl for around 10 years. It was a one night stand that brought us together.

I have a sex buddy. We know we can call at any time we want it. If the other person is single and wants it too then all is good. There is no lying or deceiving. Just to mates helping each other out. It works well.

[GiRTh]

How does the sex buddy work? I've heard of these and have always been intruiged. How did you meet and what is your understanding?

[Dr43%er]

How did we meet? In a pub. We had a one night stand. We saw each other about. Had a chat about how the one night stand was fun and we would do it again if the moment arrived. We swapped numbers. A couple of weeks later I got a phone call asking if I wanted some fun. That's how it started. There is no pressure on the other person to oblige. If I phoned and she was not in the mood then that would be fine. As it happens we are both seeing other people at the mo and neither of us would cheat. But if we are both single and enjoy what we can give each other with no promises of anything more, and we are both happy with that then what harm is there. We are mates first and formost now. But the understanding still holds.

[GiRTh]

Originally posted by Dr43%er
How did we meet? In a pub. We had a one night stand. We saw each other about. Had a chat about how the one night stand was fun and we would do it again if the moment arrived. We swapped numbers. A couple of weeks later I got a phone call asking if I wanted some fun. That's how it started. There is no pressure on the other person to oblige. If I phoned and she was not in the mood then that would be fine. As it happens we are both seeing other people at the mo and neither of us would cheat. But if we are both single and enjoy what we can give each other with no promises of anything more, and we are both happy with that then what harm is there. We are mates first and formost now. But the understanding still holds.

That sounds like the kind of thing I could do with.

What are the rules? ie. Can you simply have sex and leave as soon as you put your clothes on?

[~Kizwiz~]

Originally posted by Dr43%er
How did we meet? In a pub. We had a one night stand. We saw each other about. Had a chat about how the one night stand was fun and we would do it again if the moment arrived. We swapped numbers. A couple of weeks later I got a phone call asking if I wanted some fun. That's how it started. There is no pressure on the other person to oblige. If I phoned and she was not in the mood then that would be fine. As it happens we are both seeing other people at the mo and neither of us would cheat. But if we are both single and enjoy what we can give each other with no promises of anything more, and we are both happy with that then what harm is there. We are mates first and formost now. But the understanding still holds.

I used to have a sex buddy too..... it was a while ago.... we used to go around the same pubs etc so we used to hook up at the end of the night. No promises not fuss. But then he wanted more from me and I couldnt give it so it had to end.

I admire you Doc, if you can keep that happy medium with friend and sex buddy then I respect you because its hard to do

[Dr43%er]

If you want to. That goes for both of us. She has left straight after before.

No rules, apart from respecting the other person. If they don't want to do anything or do what the other person wants then that is fine.

I think it works better in some ways as there is no emotional attachment. Of course there is no love involved. But that is not what it is about.

[Tom]

Originally posted by GiRTh
I've had only one one night stand and strangely it was with the mother of my daughter.

I think one night stands are just as bad if not worse than prostitution. Theres a degree of honesty to a prostitute selling sex for money; one night stands are much less honest. In fact if the man wined and dined a girl to get her into bed then he should have gone to a prostitute in the first place, it would have worked out cheaper.

Incorrect. Not all one night stands come from that. I've had a couple and none of them were anything like that. It wasn't intentional in any way, it just sort of happened and neither of us went out purposely looking for one. Its nothing like visiting a prostitute. Its by two consenting adults. A prostitute might not want to have sex with someone who has "booked" her, but has to for the money. One night stands are based around mutual consent and nobody forcing the other into it.

Originally posted by GiRTh
How does the sex buddy work? I've heard of these and have always been intruiged. How did you meet and what is your understanding?

Just sex. No strings attached, no emotions involved, none of the couple stuff like going shopping together, staying on the phone for 6 hours etc and you don't have to feel restricted from flirting or doing anything else with other people.

[GiRTh]

Originally posted by Tom_
Incorrect. Not all one night stands come from that. I've had a couple and none of them were anything like that. It wasn't intentional in any way, it just sort of happened and neither of us went out purposely looking for one. Its nothing like visiting a prostitute. Its by two consenting adults. A prostitute might not want to have sex with someone who has "booked" her, but has to for the money. One night stands are based around mutual consent and nobody forcing the other into it.

Some women would have sex with a man simply because he showered them with gifts and nights out. Some women actually feel its their duty to give him what he's paid so much money for. Thats very much like prostitution.

[Tom]

Originally posted by GiRTh

Some women would have sex with a man simply because he showered them with gifts and nights out. Some women actually feel its their duty to give him what he's paid so much money for. Thats very much like prostitution.

But thats not how the majority of one night stands work.

[GiRTh]

Originally posted by Tom_
But thats not how the majority of one night stands work.

I'm sure some of them work like that. I've known guys who have had one night stands after meeting a girl and spending loads of money on her.

I was simply tryng to show how 'normal' dating acts and one nights stands are not far removed from prostitution.