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07-01-2014, 02:14 PM | #51 | |||
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I would point out that the nature / nurture debate has nothing to do with the "choice" debate... nurture does not mean "choice", it just means that the psychology is shaped by early experiences. It's no more of a "choice" though... just as (for example, I'm not making a direct comparison!) a phobia is almost always rooted in early childhood, but is certainly not a choice... it's as ingrained as any instinct.
So anyway, away from the nature/nurture debate, whichever it is, I certainly don't believe that it's a choice. One of my best friends, who I've known for almost 15 years, is gay and quite "obviously" gay. Not an Alan Carr or a Rylan level of obvious, but at least a Graham Norton on the scale. You can tell, basically. Anyway - myself and basically all of his close friends were CERTAIN that he was gay, from when we were around 14. Like I said it was just obvious! We brought it up with him several times and he said he wasn't. I once even pushed the issue by asking if he fancied anyone in our year, and he really did try... bless him... to pretend that he did. When I asked what he liked about her, he said she's "just really nice". He kept up this pretense for years (we didn't constantly badger him about it, just occasional comments like "yes but that's because you're obvz gay..." which he would laugh off) and didn't actually "come out" until we were 19 and at University. He did it like a big reveal at the pub, as if it would be a shock, it was brilliant. "Guys.. I have something I need to tell you all..." "Is it that you're gay?" "...yes..." "FINALLY!!!" OK so I'm rambling a bit - but anyway, the point is, we knew he was gay before he was ready to say it to anyone or even admit it to himself properly. For FIVE YEARS. So we knew that he WAS gay before he ever made the "choice" to be openly gay / start any sort of homosexual relationship. So saying that it's a "choice" makes no sense. If that was the case, no one would have noticed any "gay traits" until he "chose it". Surely. |
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07-01-2014, 02:57 PM | #53 | |||
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Unless he choose it because everyone thought he was gay anyway
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07-01-2014, 03:19 PM | #54 | |||
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I remember seeing an interview with Dale Winton, he was explaining how he was around his mother who was a dancer and all her beautiful friends from a very young age as well as a very fiery strong confident aunt.
To me in that he seemed to imply that it had a bearing on his development as he wanted to be them and emulated them. This isn't me putting forward an argument for nurture but it's always stuck in my mind as an odd thing to say as I had never heard anyone say anything like it before.
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07-01-2014, 03:21 PM | #55 | |||
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07-01-2014, 03:22 PM | #56 | |||
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Good point Toy Soldier, nurture is wrongly equated with the choice argument... I do think nurture plays a role in the development of everyone's psyche (because that's what nurturing is - development) - just as someone can become afraid of spiders or become passionate about being a trapeze artist; someone can develop a love or hate for all sorts of things... but ultimately I think a person is born gay.
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07-01-2014, 03:23 PM | #57 | ||
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I started not likening girls when I was about 13, so I don't know if it's nature or not but I don't care that much
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07-01-2014, 03:27 PM | #58 | |||
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Well, thing is, people say, infact someone in here already said, I liked boys from when i was born. That to me is absurd lol most "straight" boys hate girls until they're almost at a teenage stage. My 9 year old still closes his eyes if he sees people on TV kissing
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I think it's normal for kids to do the whole "ugh, gross" thing at kissing, think you only really become aware of romantic feelings when you're like 12 or 13
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07-01-2014, 03:53 PM | #69 | |||
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yeah, I think that's when I became interested
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But yeah, I also remember being "chased" by a group of girls who were pushing along another girl who apparently "fancied me" trying to get us to kiss when I was maybe 8 or 9. It was all running away and "Eww! Yuck! I hate girls!!" but it was more just embarrassment / not knowing how to react. I also remember a few 8 and 9 year olds having "girlfriends and boyfriends" ... and also, a 10 year old boy getting a blowjob from a 12 year old girl behind the bike sheds. How ****ed up is that? At the time it seemed like he must have been "so cool"... but thinking about it now... children! Children getting sucked off at school . So messed up, hahaha. |
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I agree that our understanding of sexuality is limited, but from what we do/don't know at this stage, I think it's very easy to say it's nature or nurture; we just don't know. |
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07-01-2014, 11:46 PM | #75 | ||
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I'm not offended. Speaking personally, it isn't a choice I made to feel the way I do about men. It affects my relationship with my dad to the point where I don't like him a lot of the time and vice versa. He's dead against gay people in every shape and form. My brother is gay and he's in a serious relationship with another man, one day I think they will get married and my father has stated quite ignorantly, that he wont be attending, and that he doesn't agree with it. No one would choose to be outcasted and made to feel inadequate of their own accord. Although I have had relationships with women, (one quite serious, until she cheated on me ) I'm now settled within myself about my feelings towards men but like I say, it affects my relationship with my dad, and we were once quite close. When he got wind that I liked cock he slipped away. I wish it was different of course, but thats the way it is. If only it was a choice I could make |
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