[Daniel-X]

Okay, first of all I have something to admit to everyone my name isn't Lucia my name is Daniel and I'm 15. I lied about my name and age before coming on tot the forum as I wanted to keep my identity a secret from a member who isbt on here anymore and I thought I would be either judged for my age on the forum or I wouldn't be allowed on it even. I've wanted to get this off my chest for ages and ages but I thought everyone would think of me as a complete tool.

Basically, I have another problem also I'm in Year 10 at school and my friend who I've been friends with since I was like nine has begun to treat me like crap. She's basically just a bit of a bitch to me. She's begun to try to embarrass me in front of people and try to get people to turn against me because she's lying that I'd dint say something to her which I did! I've overheard her three times now talking about me to people and calling me she doesn't only do it behind my back me but also to my face. She told me I was a vile person the other day because I dared to stand up to this girl in form and this girl who I stood up to suffers from panic attacks but she treats everyone like **** so basically she had a panic attack and my friend keeps bringing it up to people to make me look like I'm a bully. She's called me loads of names like an uneducated ****er even though I get A*'s in most of my subjects and she gets C's. She constantly tells me to stop talking whenever I speak and calls me annoying when I do speak and the other week she brought up my dog who passed away two years ago and made a joke about him and it made me cry and then she called me oversensitive.

I don't want to go to a teacher or my mum about it because I feel I sound childish and I should be standing up for myself but I'm literally crying a lot because of this girl and my friends are telling me I should say something but I just feel I will sound pathetic. Can somebody offer me some advice on what to do?

[Livia]

She doesn't sound like a very good friend. I would cut her out of my life. There are plenty of great people around to make friends with, don't suffer a little bitch who makes you sad. Tell her she's dead to you and ignore her.

[HeyThereDelilah]

Maybe she's just joking. Are you sensitive?

[Pete.]

Don't worry about your age/name issue hun, it has happened several times on here and little problems have arised because of it

This 'friend' of yours is clearly jealous of you and the fact that you are more intelligent than you and that you are a nicer person than she is.

I would recommend talking to her less and spending less time than her until it naturally progresses to a time where you don't talk to her at all. In that time you should find a new, better group of friends.

If she continues to be unkind towards you (the dog comment is just sick) then I would tell the school because the chances are she is not just being mean to you but others. Perhaps there is something wrong with her personal life?

[Jarrod]

[Daniel-X]

Originally Posted by HeyThereDelilah

Maybe she's just joking. Are you sensitive?

I am a little sensitive but u think it's down to the fact that's my dad died when I was nine. I can take a joke from people but when it's constant it really gets to me

[HeyThereDelilah]

Lucia you should try getting with her maybe she fancies you mate, girls are mean when they haven't had sex for a while.

[Daniel-X]

Originally Posted by HeyThereDelilah

Lucia you should try getting with her maybe she fancies you mate, girls are mean when they haven't had sex for a while.

No thanks I'm gay for a start.

[Ammi]

....aww Lucia.....I think that you have to talk to someone/an adult that you trust..?...about this because it sounds very much like bullying that she's doing ...if she's not someone that you can break a friendship with and not have contact with because of school etc and friendship groups that you both have..?...then you have to talk to someone that you have trust in, in your real life with this....is it ok if I PM you..?...

[HeyThereDelilah]

Originally Posted by LuciaX

No thanks I'm gay for a start.

You dont know till you try mate maybe shes horny

[Vanessa]

Originally Posted by LuciaX

Okay, first of all I have something to admit to everyone my name isn't Lucia my name is Daniel and I'm 15. I lied about my name and age before coming on tot the forum as I wanted to keep my identity a secret from a member who isbt on here anymore and I thought I would be either judged for my age on the forum or I wouldn't be allowed on it even. I've wanted to get this off my chest for ages and ages but I thought everyone would think of me as a complete tool.

Basically, I have another problem also I'm in Year 10 at school and my friend who I've been friends with since I was like nine has begun to treat me like crap. She's basically just a bit of a bitch to me. She's begun to try to embarrass me in front of people and try to get people to turn against me because she's lying that I'd dint say something to her which I did! I've overheard her three times now talking about me to people and calling me she doesn't only do it behind my back me but also to my face. She told me I was a vile person the other day because I dared to stand up to this girl in form and this girl who I stood up to suffers from panic attacks but she treats everyone like **** so basically she had a panic attack and my friend keeps bringing it up to people to make me look like I'm a bully. She's called me loads of names like an uneducated ****er even though I get A*'s in most of my subjects and she gets C's. She constantly tells me to stop talking whenever I speak and calls me annoying when I do speak and the other week she brought up my dog who passed away two years ago and made a joke about him and it made me cry and then she called me oversensitive.

I don't want to go to a teacher or my mum about it because I feel I sound childish and I should be standing up for myself but I'm literally crying a lot because of this girl and my friends are telling me I should say something but I just feel I will sound pathetic. Can somebody offer me some advice on what to do?

[reece(:]

Happy you can speak about yourself for real now . I've been in a similar situation to you at a similar age, my friend would constantly snipe and throw nasty remarks my way coated within conversations. Yes they are your friend and you don't want to fall out, but there's a point where enough is enough and you are the sole person in control of that. I'd say cutting them out of your life is exactly what you should do as it will show them that it's not OK to continue doing what they're doing and allows you to move on from the constant nasty atmosphere. And I can assure you once you remove someone from your life who is causing you trouble and nastiness, you will feel so much better. No one deserves to be antagonised

[Daniel-X]

Originally Posted by Petemitch

Don't worry about your age/name issue hun, it has happened several times on here and little problems have arised because of it

This 'friend' of yours is clearly jealous of you and the fact that you are more intelligent than you and that you are a nicer person than she is.

I would recommend talking to her less and spending less time than her until it naturally progresses to a time where you don't talk to her at all. In that time you should find a new, better group of friends.

If she continues to be unkind towards you (the dog comment is just sick) then I would tell the school because the chances are she is not just being mean to you but others. Perhaps there is something wrong with her personal life?

Thank you Pete and I'm going to cut her out of my life I think. I'm moving forms anyway on Monday I told my head of year that I had nobody to talk to in form so he's moving me to a form with my actual friends in. I have quite a few groups of friends it just hurts me that she's turned into this person as we used to be like best friends only twelve months ago.

I don't know about her personal life but I have problems also if it continues I may tell my head of year.

Thanks for the advice

[Ramsay]

**** her man, move on.

[HeyThereDelilah]

Push her down the stairs

[Vicky.]

You are not the first on here to have an overnight sex change, and I suspect you won't be the last

This person is not your friend, please stop thinking of her as that. As for advice, its tough. Best I can say is to ignore her :S

[Pete.]

Originally Posted by LuciaX

Thank you Pete and I'm going to cut her out of my life I think. I'm moving forms anyway on Monday I told my head of year that I had nobody to talk to in form so he's moving me to a form with my actual friends in. I have quite a few groups of friends it just hurts me that she's turned into this person as we used to be like best friends only twelve months ago.

I don't know about her personal life but I have problems also if it continues I may tell my head of year.

Thanks for the advice

You should find when you move forms you can easily distance yourself for her

[Daniel-X]

Originally Posted by Ammi

....aww Lucia.....I think that you have to talk to someone/an adult that you trust..?...about this because it sounds very much like bullying that she's doing ...if she's not someone that you can break a friendship with and not have contact with because of school etc and friendship groups that you both have..?...then you have to talk to someone that you have trust in, in your real life with this....is it ok if I PM you..?...

Thank you Ammi for your advice. I'm going to avoid her from now on I'm moving forms tomorrow anyway

[Vanessa]

Originally Posted by LuciaX

Thank you Ammi for your advice. I'm going to avoid her from now on I'm moving forms tomorrow anyway

If someone is causing you nothing but misery it's time to cute them out of your life. We all have our problems and the last thing we need is added stress.

[HeyThereDelilah]

Originally Posted by Vicky.

You are not the first on here to have an overnight sex change, and I suspect you won't be the last

I bet Petemitch is actually a man

[reece(:]

Originally Posted by HeyThereDelilah

I bet Petemitch is actually a man

omg

[Daniel.]

Don't worry about the age and name thing, nice someone has the same name as me

Cut her out, I would rather have no friends than have friends like her.

[Daniel-X]

Originally Posted by Livia

She doesn't sound like a very good friend. I would cut her out of my life. There are plenty of great people around to make friends with, don't suffer a little bitch who makes you sad. Tell her she's dead to you and ignore her.

Originally Posted by Vanessa

Originally Posted by reece(:

Happy you can speak about yourself for real now . I've been in a similar situation to you at a similar age, my friend would constantly snipe and throw nasty remarks my way coated within conversations. Yes they are your friend and you don't want to fall out, but there's a point where enough is enough and you are the sole person in control of that. I'd say cutting them out of your life is exactly what you should do as it will show them that it's not OK to continue doing what they're doing and allows you to move on from the constant nasty atmosphere. And I can assure you once you remove someone from your life who is causing you trouble and nastiness, you will feel so much better. No one deserves to be antagonised

Originally Posted by Vanessa

If someone is causing you nothing but misery it's time to cute them out of your life. We all have our problems and the last thing we need is added stress.

Originally Posted by Vicky.

You are not the first on here to have an overnight sex change, and I suspect you won't be the last

This person is not your friend, please stop thinking of her as that. As for advice, its tough. Best I can say is to ignore her :S

Thank you all of you, I'm going to just begin to ignore her the best I can from now on. There's actually very little contact I'll need to have with her once I move forms apart from when we're prefecting next year as we're prefecting for the same year group :S

It's got to a point also where it's affecting my studies and I'm practically in Year 11 now so I think it's best to just cut her out

[Pete.]

Originally Posted by HeyThereDelilah

I bet Petemitch is actually a man

If only

[JoshBB]

Originally Posted by HeyThereDelilah

You dont know till you try mate maybe shes horny

Maybe you're gay, I assume you've never had sex with a guy so "you dont know til you try"!!