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Old 24-03-2016, 10:21 PM #1
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Only in the sense that if I were cheated on by a person I'd never trust them not to do it again in future. I don't think I can agree with it as a sweeping statement though.
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No. I don't think cheating is a character trait, and everyone can make mistakes but it doesn't mean you'll make the same ones over and over again. It's probably true of some people for other reasons, such as them being selfish or uncaring or just generally not having respect for their relationships for whatever reason, but mostly I think people are allowed a mistake and are able to learn from it and not repeat it. (Depends on the circumstances of the affair as well, 'cheating' is a broad term but I think there's a big difference between say, a one night stand and a full blown relationship.)
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I agree that people can mistakes, I've been cheated on before and he said it was a 'mistake' but the trust was broken and I didn't believe it fully. It just makes me think if someone who cheated before how do i know they won't do it again.
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I agree that people can mistakes, I've been cheated on before and he said it was a 'mistake' but the trust was broken and I didn't believe it fully. It just makes me think if someone who cheated before how do i know they won't do it again.
I know what you mean, and I've been cheated on too and it does make you lose trust in them. But objectively, a lot of people cheat once and then never do it again, or cheat in one relationship and then don't cheat at all in another, so I don't think it's something where someone is either a cheater or they aren't. It just depends on a lot of different things. And you get people who are faithful their whole lives and then decide to cheat on their partners after being together for decades, so you can never really be sure you won't be cheated on
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Far too black and white a statement, anyone can make a mistake like a one night stand while under the influence or a short affair before they realise this is not what they want on the other hand some people just can't be faithful or true to one person but you have to look at it on a case by case basis not a blanket approach
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I know what you mean, and I've been cheated on too and it does make you lose trust in them. But objectively, a lot of people cheat once and then never do it again, or cheat in one relationship and then don't cheat at all in another, so I don't think it's something where someone is either a cheater or they aren't. It just depends on a lot of different things. And you get people who are faithful their whole lives and then decide to cheat on their partners after being together for decades, so you can never really be sure you won't be cheated on
Good point, I voted yes but i'm like 50/50 because If i got into an relationship and found out the cheated I probs get scared and be stubborn about trusting them, But I guess it comes down to how many times they have done it , like if it was just once then it probs be okayish but twice or more I probs think different etc.
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I believe there are some people who are capable of change and growth and some people who aren't. You will find cheaters within both categories.
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I believe there are some people who are capable of change and growth and some people who aren't. You will find cheaters within both categories.
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I'd personally never forgive a guy for cheating on me, my ex did and I was devestated but in all honesty after we spoke about it I don't think he would have again so I fall between yes/no
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No, but I wouldn't get back with someone who cheated me
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I would say yes, but amend it to 'yes, if you allow thenm to get away with it'.
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Depends.
You can play around when you are younger, sort of finding your feet, just enjoying life and its pleasures in general. But once you meet the right one you can commit fôr life and never stráy.
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I'd personally never forgive a guy for cheating on me, my ex did and I was devestated but in all honesty after we spoke about it I don't think he would have again so I fall between yes/no
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I voted Yes but meant no
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Yeah I think so. Cheating is one of the worst things you could ever do to someone.
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Nah I don't agree. It's like the phrase "a leopard never changes it's spots", as others have said that's a too narrow, black and white way of looking at it. Someone can absolutely make a mistake once and not do it again. There are some compulsive cheaters who just lack an ability to commit to someone but they're not representative of everyone who's ever been unfaithful.

I'd find it hard to continue a relationship with someone who cheated on me but not because I assumed they'd do it again, but because it's the ultimate betrayal of trust and I'd have no interest in being with someone who ever felt the need to stray (even if I felt confident they wouldn't do it again).
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It's not a black and white situation.
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Nah I don't agree. It's like the phrase "a leopard never changes it's spots", as others have said that's a too narrow, black and white way of looking at it. Someone can absolutely make a mistake once and not do it again. There are some compulsive cheaters who just lack an ability to commit to someone but they're not representative of everyone who's ever been unfaithful.

I'd find it hard to continue a relationship with someone who cheated on me but not because I assumed they'd do it again, but because it's the ultimate betrayal of trust and I'd have no interest in being with someone who ever felt the need to stray (even if I felt confident they wouldn't do it again).
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of course there is a mountain of diff in cheating on a person before you are married, married, married with kids etc

its all cheating yes but you have to factor in circumstances

bob and sue are 20 and have been dating 6 months


Bob abd sue are 23 have been married 6 months

bob and sue 30 married 7 years and have twin girls age 2

bob and sue 45 married 22 years with 3 kids 2 teenagers

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Hmm I don't think you can apply a blanket statement like that to all cheaters.

I would never trust one again though and since trust is one of the most important things in a relationship then for me the relationship would be over.
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