[hbk4894]

According to a loose women poll

71% have regrets while 29% don't

What are your thoughts , do you have regrets about how you were raised or how you raised your children.

[smudgie]

I had the mother from hell...good thing about it was I knew what not to do when I had my kids.
No regrets with the way we brought them up, a little bit of stick, a good bit of carrot and a shed load of love.

[Toy Soldier]

It's mostly nonsense. Some parents are straight up bad, yes, but usually because they're ****ed up people so they won't really regret it. The rest, who do have regrets, fall into two separate categories.

1) People who think they could have done differently but, realistically, couldn't either due to circumstance or just who they are as people.

2) People who could have done things differently, but would probably still have regrets, just different ones... because there is no such thing as "perfect".


I doubt this statistic means that 29% thinks they got it spot on. Most probably just accept that "life happens" and there's not much point in having regrets / wishing to change the past... because all you end up with is things being different, not necessarily better. People who don't realise that need to watch The Flash or Back to the Future .

[Cherie]

There is no such thing as a perfect parent, you learn as you go along, so regret is futile

[kirklancaster]

Originally Posted by Toy Soldier

It's mostly nonsense. Some parents are straight up bad, yes, but usually because they're ****ed up people so they won't really regret it. The rest, who do have regrets, fall into two separate categories.

1) People who think they could have done differently but, realistically, couldn't either due to circumstance or just who they are as people.

2) People who could have done things differently, but would probably still have regrets, just different ones... because there is no such thing as "perfect".


I doubt this statistic means that 29% thinks they got it spot on. Most probably just accept that "life happens" and there's not much point in having regrets / wishing to change the past... because all you end up with is things being different, not necessarily better. People who don't realise that need to watch The Flash or Back to the Future .

Great Post T.S.

Spoiler:

I fecking HATE it when you go all logical and serious on me.

[kirklancaster]

Originally Posted by Cherie

There is no such thing as a perfect parent, you learn as you go along, so regret is futile

I totally agree Cherie.

[Toy Soldier]

Originally Posted by kirklancaster

I fecking HATE it when you go all logical and serious on me.

That describes 100% of my posts

[kirklancaster]

Originally Posted by Toy Soldier

That describes 100% of my posts

OK then.

[jaxie]

There is no handbook, training or guide really, you take that tiny person home from the hospital and you are mostly on your own. There are always things you wish you might have done differently because we often learn from mistakes we make. For my part, when I look at the young adults they have become I feel happy that I did a good job.

[Ammi]

..it's funny the phases you go through as a parent..those worries, will this world be ok for them, will they survive, will they grow, will they thrive, will they be happy, will they be confident etc...and then will the fridge ever hold enough food because they're growing and thriving quite quickly here and steady on a bit..anyways, I think that if you can look at your children as adults and see that you haven't passed on all of your own insecurities/anxieties/stresses etc..projected all of your rubbish bits, then you've done ok...all of the great bits about them, they've fairly much done for themselves...

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Toy Soldier

It's mostly nonsense. Some parents are straight up bad, yes, but usually because they're ****ed up people so they won't really regret it. The rest, who do have regrets, fall into two separate categories.

1) People who think they could have done differently but, realistically, couldn't either due to circumstance or just who they are as people.

2) People who could have done things differently, but would probably still have regrets, just different ones... because there is no such thing as "perfect".


I doubt this statistic means that 29% thinks they got it spot on. Most probably just accept that "life happens" and there's not much point in having regrets / wishing to change the past... because all you end up with is things being different, not necessarily better. People who don't realise that need to watch The Flash or Back to the Future .

The Butterfly Effect

But yes, once again i agree with you TS, I think most of us do what we think is best at the time, maybe looking back in hindsight and with a little more experience under our belt we might think we could have done something differently but it's a waste of time worrying about that i think, I think most parents do the best they can at that particular time

[arista]

Originally Posted by hbk4894

According to a loose women poll

71% have regrets while 29% don't

What are your thoughts , do you have regrets about how you were raised or how you raised your children.

FECK LWHD hags

[Babayaro.]

Lovely input from Arista

[kirklancaster]

Originally Posted by Babayaro.

Lovely input from Arista

I just wish that he wouldn't 'mince his words' so much though Marc.

[Kizzy]

I'd be lying if I said I didn't have regrets but as said it's not an exact science.
Not sue what benefit it is to hold onto any guilt about it, unless the decisions you made were particularly damaging.
Luckily mine were the 'with the benefit of hind sight' kind of issues.

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Kizzy

I'd be lying if I said I didn't have regrets but as said it's not an exact science.
Not sue what benefit it is to hold onto any guilt about it, unless the decisions you made were particularly damaging.
Luckily mine were the 'with the benefit of hind sight' kind of issues.

I'd imagine there are very few parents who think they did a perfect job, we're all just human after all

[Kizzy]

Well yeah totally, in fact I'd say the other 29% are lying

[Ammi]

..or the other 29% didn't survive..?...RIP 29%, you tried your very, very best but the children won...

[Kizzy]

Mine came close to seeing me off I bet, but I survived brats!!!

[jennyjuniper]

Originally Posted by smudgie

I had the mother from hell...good thing about it was I knew what not to do when I had my kids.
No regrets with the way we brought them up, a little bit of stick, a good bit of carrot and a shed load of love.

This sounds about right to me.

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Ammi

..or the other 29% didn't survive..?...RIP 29%, you tried your very, very best but the children won...