[parmnion]

As my job entails me walking into complete strangers houses I never do now..perhaps I have as I walked in in the past...bit you soon learn.

So do you judge people, without even trying to get to know them?

[Marsh.]

I probably make judgements, I think we all do.

But I don't write someone off as a bad person or whatever without getting to know them first. I will give the benefit of the doubt, unless they do something especially terrible.

[parmnion]

Why does it always have to be a bad person marsh?


I'm on about that wee "get yourself a drink mate" money you never get in Chingford; but may get within the city if london.

[Marsh.]

Originally Posted by parmnion

Why does it always have to be a bad person marsh?

What?

I used it as an example. If I meet someone and it's not an especially pleasant experience I don't write them off as a terrible person unless it was something serious enough to warrant it. People have off days.

Who said it always has to be bad?

Judging someone is inherently a negative emotion so maybe you should've worded the OP better if that wasn't what you were asking.

[parmnion]

Originally Posted by Marsh.

What?

I used it as an example. If I meet someone and it's not an especially pleasant experience I don't write them off as a terrible person unless it was something serious enough to warrant it. People have off days.

Who said it always has to be bad?

Judging someone is inherently a negative emotion so maybe you should've worded the OP better if that wasn't what you were asking.

It's interesting though...that people instantly go bad in a scenario that neither described bad or good..

And I do take you up on the judging comment being negative...what with all these judging shows we've had for more than ten years every night on the telly asking us to love people.

[Marsh.]

Originally Posted by parmnion

It's interesting though...that people instantly go bad in a scenario that neither described bad or good..

And I do take you up on the judging comment being negative...what with all these judging shows we've had for more than ten years every night on the telly asking us to love people.

Yeah, and the "judging" aspect is 99% negative.

[Marsh.]

And, no, I didn't "instantly go bad in a scenario that neither described bad or good". I used an example.

[parmnion]

Originally Posted by Marsh.

Yeah, and the "judging" aspect is 99% negative.

Online mainly, in the actual studios of the shows it's mainly cheers and positivity...(bb crowd obvs not)

I do believe your first online comment on this matter may clarify things for us all.

Perhaps the world's negativity is all down to the internet.

[Marsh.]

Originally Posted by parmnion

Online mainly

Really? You don't find the judging panels of things like X factor all about mocking the crap acts and tearing them apart? Interesting.

[Marsh.]

Originally Posted by parmnion

I do believe your first online comment on this matter may clarify things for us all.

What?

[parmnion]

Originally Posted by Marsh.

Yeah, and the "judging" aspect is 99% negative.

Originally Posted by Marsh.

Really? You don't find the judging panels of things like X factor all about mocking the crap acts and tearing them apart? Interesting.

The bad acts know what's coming....they are there for thier 15 mins.

[Denver]

No never

[parmnion]

Originally Posted by Marsh.

What?

We all instantly go bad when online..and are responsible for the world's negativity...you instantly using a bad scenario or example in describing how you wouldn't judge a person straight off means that you always look for the bad when judging someone.
..



I blame the internet for that

[Marsh.]

Originally Posted by parmnion

We all instantly go bad when online..and are responsible for the world's negativity...you instantly using a bad scenario or example in describing how you.wouldn't judge a person straight off means you.always look for the bad

Goodnight Parm.

[SherzyK]

Originally Posted by parmnion

We all instantly go bad when online..and are responsible for the world's negativity...you instantly using a bad scenario or example in describing how you.wouldn't judge a person straight off means you.always look for the bad
..



I blame the internet for that

[Livia]

In my opinion you never get a second chance to make a first impression and I tend to decide in the first few minutes whether I'm going to like someone or not. I'm not going to claim I'm always right... but usually I am.

[smudgie]

Originally Posted by Livia

In my opinion you never get a second chance to make a first impression and I tend to decide in the first few minutes whether I'm going to like someone or not. I'm not going to claim I'm always right... but usually I am.

This.
I trust my instincts, but will be happy to change my mind if proven wrong.

[parmnion]

Originally Posted by Marsh.

Goodnight Parm.

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[parmnion]

Originally Posted by Livia

In my opinion you never get a second chance to make a first impression and I tend to decide in the first few minutes whether I'm going to like someone or not. I'm not going to claim I'm always right... but usually I am.

Its not reallyy about liking someone from the off..maybe this could be one of those scenario things. .


llets say you ain't ever going to see that person again...

Do you bother judging them?
Judge them?
Or don't judge them?

Perhaps people decide to judge them before meeeting them from information they have on a job sheet or something

Perhapsbwhennthe doornisnopened the judging commences?

Or **** it, I've got a telly to fix and I'm hoping he mentions coffee?

[Marsh.]

Originally Posted by parmnion

Its not reallyy about liking someone from the off..maybe this could be one of those scenario things. .


llets say you ain't ever going to see that person again...

Do you bother judging them?
Judge them?
Or don't judge them?

Perhaps people decide to judge them before meeeting them from information they have on a job sheet or something

Perhapsbwhennthe doornisnopened the judging commences?

Or **** it, I've got a telly to fix and I'm hoping he mentions coffee?

I don't think you have to consciously decide "I'm going to judge someone". It happens naturally, you formulate thoughts/decisions naturally.

[Niamh.]

Obviously you will have a first impression but I will admit I'm not actually that good of a judge of character, it takes me a while to get a proper understanding of a person. I know this about myself so I do try to wait before I write someone off/think someone is amazing

[UserSince2005]

i always judge people on first meeting, and im never wrong.

[Ammi]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

Obviously you will have a first impression but I will admit I'm not actually that good of a judge of character, it takes me a while to get a proper understanding of a person. I know this about myself so I do try to wait before I write someone off/think someone is amazing

...yeah I would say similar...although I wouldn’t say that I was a bad or a good judge of character, I don’t believe that any of us have any better first instincts ...but I do believe that any judgements on first instincts can actually be a barrier to seeing a ‘whole person’...we will always think we are ‘right and have good instincts’ because we’re only connecting with specific aspects of people that fit that, if that makes sense...?...waiting without judgement is the best mindset because everyone is flawed, we need to be open to seeing those flaws before we know whether we connect...

[Cherie]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

Obviously you will have a first impression but I will admit I'm not actually that good of a judge of character, it takes me a while to get a proper understanding of a person. I know this about myself so I do try to wait before I write someone off/think someone is amazing

same, I wrote Mr C off as a bit of fluff when I first met him

[bitontheslide]

i'm always cautious. I will form opinions constantly and evaluate them for what they are.