[ThomasC]

I'm 30 and tbh never had what I would call a proper relationship.

Lots of sex, but nothing serious.

How did you meet your partner?

I have got my notebook out ready to take notes.

My Mum keeps nagging me to join to join a running club or something.

[Niamh.]

I'm married, we met at a night club, he was a friend of my brothers (one I'd never met) and I bumped into my brother at this club so i went over chatting to him and then i went back to my friends and when I left he was asking my brother who i was etc and he ended up introducing us and the rest is history

[Black Dagger]

Honestly... I have no idea. So for now we'll say yes.

[joeysteele]

Yes.
I actually don't see myself changing that as I like my independence.

I'm more family orientated than personally so.

[Smithy]

I’m dating people

[Cherie]

Saw Mr C eyeing me up in a pub, then he came over and offered to buy me and my friend a drink, then we saw him again in a Club afterwards, again with the drinks though he was on a soft drink himself, the next week he did the same thing, this went on for a few weeks, then he asked me out a few times, I said no a few times, then after another 4 weeks after we had rinsed him for further drinks, I said yes, we moved in together 3 months later, lived together for a few years, got married and have been together for 28 years, few bumps along the way but we are still hanging in there

[Nicky91]

Yes

[thesheriff443]

Oh dear it all sounds normal
I’m in a relationship but since my teens I’ve never really been out of one for long.

It’s not big or clever but I’ve had more women than most a lot more not all of them have been single at the time.

If I’m honest I’d trade them all for just one.

[Strictly Jake]

Met my wife at a party hosted by my brother in law. She was my first girlfriend and we've been married for 9 years. Known each other for 12

[smudgie]

Sowed all my wild oats in my teens, met hubby and we are still very happily married 40 years this year, plus the five years we were together before we tied the knot.

[Cherie]

I am sure you will find the one soon Thomas, you are too sweet not to

[parmnion]

I doubt I will ever want another long term relationship.

[michael21]

Me and sexy Charlotte are in love

[Captain.Remy]

Originally Posted by Smithy

I’m dating people

"People"? You a ho3

[Captain.Remy]

I've been married for almost a year and met the lucky one during rugby practice when I was studying in Scotland. Known each other for 10 years (time flies)

To be honest, there's no recipe for it. It just happens at the right time and you make the most out of it to make it work if it's worth it to you.
It can be scary to fall in love, challenging and questioning but in the end it's a lot of happiness to feel loved and love back.

And 30 is not old, you will eventually find someone to share a tea pot with.

[ThomasC]

Originally Posted by Cherie

I am sure you will find the one soon Thomas, you are too sweet not to

It's not about being sweet though I don't think.

The people I find sexually attractive just don't find me sexually attractive and I won't compromise.

**** the personality. That comes second, there has to be a sexual attraction to start with.

It's lovely to hear others stories about how they met their partners though.

Thank you though for being kind. Lovely comment.

[ThomasC]

Originally Posted by thesheriff443

Oh dear it all sounds normal
I’m in a relationship but since my teens I’ve never really been out of one for long.

It’s not big or clever but I’ve had more women than most a lot more not all of them have been single at the time.

If I’m honest I’d trade them all for just one.

I have never understood people who can't be single. It's like they're afraid to be alone? or is it easier to just get with someone else to deal with the heartache?

I don't think I could give all my energy to someone and then move on so quickly.

I've had loads of men, but just not in that way

[rusticgal]

My flat mate dragged me along to the pub with her boyfriend and his work mate…pretty much love at first sight. Married after 2 years and celebrate 33 years of marriage this year…

[Cherie]

Originally Posted by ThomasC

It's not about being sweet though I don't think.

The people I find sexually attractive just don't find me sexually attractive and I won't compromise.

**** the personality. That comes second, there has to be a sexual attraction to start with.

It's lovely to hear others stories about how they met their partners though.

Thank you though for being kind. Lovely comment.

Do you think that is where you are going a bit astray though, sexual attraction is only part of the deal...you need to get on in your every day and friendships can grow into partnerships just like mad sexual attraction can fizzle out, you need to stop looking at relations as purely sexual maybe 10 years in you won’t be having the same mad sex you did when you first got together and if you hate their personality then it literally won’t last, that’s my view any way

[Ammi]

….while you haven’t met that uncompromising ‘perfect’ person atm, Thomas…?…I love how you seem to be always working on your own ‘perfection’ …and having fun as well …enjoy each day as it happens and enjoy being you, I think that you do that….…

[Ammi]

…or join a running club……mums, eh……

[ThomasC]

Originally Posted by Cherie

Do you think that is where you are going a bit astray though, sexual attraction is only part of the deal...you need to get on in your every day and friendships can grow into partnerships just like mad sexual attraction can fizzle out, you need to stop looking at relations as purely sexual maybe 10 years in you won’t be having the same mad sex you did when you first got together and if you hate their personality then it literally won’t last, that’s my view any way

Yeah and I see what you're saying. Maybe not sexual attraction then but physical attraction. There has to be something there initially regardless of personality. I think so anyway. Everything else will come after that and the personality will keep the person

Originally Posted by Ammi

….while you haven’t met that uncompromising ‘perfect’ person atm, Thomas…?…I love how you seem to be always working on your own ‘perfection’ …and having fun as well …enjoy each day as it happens and enjoy being you, I think that you do that….…

Yeah I'm not looking for perfect.....there is no such thing... When I say compromise, I mean, I just won't date someone I don't find attractive and those that are interested just aren't attractive to me.

Originally Posted by Ammi

…or join a running club……mums, eh……

Lol. She's suggesting now that I buy an MG and join a car club

[Captain.Remy]

One advice I always give my friends is that at this point, you're 30, you can wait for the first divorces from people who got married in their 20s. They're a little bit damaged but will want to forget their divorce and that's where you come in.