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Old 02-07-2024, 01:32 AM #1
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If it’s something you’re open to talking about, let’s hear about your experiences with them and de-stigmatise calling them (some people see it as a last-resort helpline for people who are suicidal only, not knowing it’s there for everyone):
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I personally haven't.

Fair play to people that have, I wouldn't knock anyone for using them for help.
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They are there for a reason, and sometimes they will be the only people someone could open up to..A vital service for the young imo..

Just dont abuse it though.
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Never had the need to.
A friend of mine went through a period of needing them in her youth.
Fantastic organisation.
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Never needed to, but i greatly admire what they do
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been pretty close having watched the last 4 England games
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been pretty close having watched the last 4 England games
That’s what happens when you don’t defer to your own country for national representation. England is not Scotland.
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No I haven't.

I have recommended others to do so however when they wouldn't open up on worries or pressures they had personally.
I know of several people who have been more able to cope after talking to them.

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I'm one of the 2 who have answered yes on the poll. I'm curious as to who the other one was?
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I have not called them. One of my friends volunteers for them. They are a wonderful organisation.
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There’s a similar helpline called Shout (’phone-no. 85258) that’s a text-line but unlike Samaritans they’re not truly 24/7 and the quality of volunteers varies from great to totally inexperienced. Most Samaritans are trained to be at least alright. Some are obviously better (or at least more compatible with certain people) than others but the bar’s invariably higher than it is with Shout, and unlike Shout, Samaritans volunteers don’t need to conform their responses to a scrip. and can actually reflect on their own experiences and all-in-all just remind you that you’re talking to a live, real person. So even if you’re the sort of person who prefers texting/writing to talking, I’d still preferentially recommend Samaritans. Shout has its place but compared to Samaritans not much of a place. It’s like moclobemide vs. phenelzine.
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And don't forget the France and Belgium match, which was quite possibly the worst Football match of all time.
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What do we all think of their self-determination policy, when it does come to suicide?
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What do we all think of their self-determination policy, when it does come to suicide?
What does that policy mean?
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What do we all think of their self-determination policy, when it does come to suicide?
I dunno man, im so fcking wrecked rn. I can hit Rocky 4 montage and hit weights, but rn im actually drowning in addiction, regret, reflection and all that fcking bollocks.

Why do you ask the weirdest questions?!!!
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What does that policy mean?
Samaritans is completely anonymous so unless you volunteer revealing information, there’s nothing Samaritans can do about you swallowing a month’s supply of amitriptyline or saying you’re about to jump off a bridge. They won’t know your name, they don’t know your number, they don’t know where you’re calling from. They really only know and have the ability to act on what you tell them.

They’d obviously rather you didn’t go through with it but if your mind’s set and you’ve decided that you want your last conversation to be with a Samaritan, there’s nothing they can do if you don’t want them to help you. Self-determination within Samaritans means that you ultimately have the right to take your own life and that’s the bottom-line. And you’re well-within your rights to torture a volunteer by making them listen to you jump, hang or swallow.
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I dunno man, im so fcking wrecked rn. I can hit Rocky 4 montage and hit weights, but rn im actually drowning in addiction, regret, reflection and all that fcking bollocks.

Why do you ask the weirdest questions?!!!
You could’ve just … not answered. Not if you haven’t got anything relevant to say.
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Starting with me again, are you? What now?

Seriously, what now?

Oh, you really have been drinking like that, yh?
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Samaritans is completely anonymous so unless you volunteer revealing information, there’s nothing Samaritans can do about you swallowing a month’s supply of amitriptyline or saying you’re about to jump off a bridge. They won’t know your name, they don’t know your number, they don’t know where you’re calling from. They really only know and have the ability to act on what you tell them.

They’d obviously rather you didn’t go through with it but if your mind’s set and you’ve decided that you want your last conversation to be with a Samaritan, there’s nothing they can do if you don’t want them to help you. Self-determination within Samaritans means that you ultimately have the right to take your own life and that’s the bottom-line. And you’re well-within your rights to torture a volunteer by making them listen to you jump, hang or swallow.
I think it would be imo valuable for The Samaritans to make it that the caller has to at least give their name, so that they have a better chance of tracking the caller, if the caller is trying to kill themselves.
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I think it would be imo valuable for The Samaritans to make it that the caller has to at least give their name, so that they have a better chance of tracking the caller, if the caller is trying to kill themselves.
The caller can easily give a fake name, and in fairness that’s just fine, too.

Like I said, they believe in self-determination so because of that they can’t track you down even if they really want to unless you want them to. The only time they really have to step in and try and get support from an external body is when there’s a safeguarding risk involving a minor or a particularly vulnerable adult. Otherwise it’s just their policy to respect even the decision of a caller to take their own life, even if they were able to track you down. You’d have to tell them you wanted an ambulance calling for you (or something) if you did want help but, again, you’d have to give them the details. But the whole point of Samaritans is that it’s a completely anonymous sounding board there for when you need it so they couldn’t force you to give your name/real name in any case. So you really can’t be identified if you don’t want to be found. That’s part of their ethos.
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The caller can easily give a fake name, and in fairness that’s just fine, too.

Like I said, they believe in self-determination so because of that they can’t track you down even if they really want to unless you want them to. The only time they really have to step in and try and get support from an external body is when there’s a safeguarding risk involving a minor or a particularly vulnerable adult. Otherwise it’s just their policy to respect even the decision of a caller to take their own life, even if they were able to track you down. You’d have to tell them you wanted an ambulance calling for you (or something) if you did want help but, again, you’d have to give them the details. But the whole point of Samaritans is that it’s a completely anonymous sounding board there for when you need it so they couldn’t force you to give your name/real name in any case. So you really can’t be identified if you don’t want to be found. That’s part of their ethos.
Fair enough, I suppose that particular policy does help them attract more people wanting to use their service.
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Fair enough, I suppose that particular policy does help them attract more people wanting to use their service.
Yeah, I suppose. It’s just a policy they have. The extent to-which I agree with their self-determination policy I don’t know but ultimately if someone’s feeling suicidal (with a relatively clear mind, not as a result of, say, psychotic depression), I’d put more faith in Samaritans than a helpline like Shout (85258) if I was to sign-post someone. That Shout text-line is terrible.
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